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by hestipod 9y ago
I really try hard not to sound cynical or jaded as that puts people off even more, but it's so difficult as I have had similar experiences with "offers of help" of all sorts. Nobody ever actually follows through. Twice in the
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by hestipod 9y ago
Your posts always break my heart because, as you know, we share similar problems and needs and both cling to the same fraying thread. I am going to make my "hail mary" AskHN post today or tomorrow (keep editing and editing) and ho
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by hestipod 9y ago
Sounds like something Bill Burr would say.
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by hestipod 9y ago
"We" absolutely are ignoring their environment in the USA at least. People cannot even access healthcare here without additional, significant financial stress and burden. My entire family and the strong majority of my region and a
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by hestipod 9y ago
I'd like to expand a bit and reiterate that not everyone who suffers from depression has primary depression with no discernable cause. Most seriously depressed people in my experience have various situational causes (physical health, f
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by hestipod 9y ago
Truthfully about everything. Health problems caused money and relationship/family/people problems caused everything else problems and I have reached a point where hope isn't even something I can fool myself with anymore. I ha
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by hestipod 9y ago
You're a good person dang...thanks.
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by hestipod 9y ago
I wish you all the luck and hope I didn't belittle your situation. I am glad you had the opportunity to turn it around. I am also envious and was surely reacting partially because of that and the frustration of my own life. I have had
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by hestipod 9y ago
I appreciate the input dang (your username always makes me chuckle in a good way), but I have said enough already on HN it would be trivial to connect the dots. I need to think about how to proceed. I probably shouldn't have said anyth
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by hestipod 9y ago
Sorry if I made you feel bad. I just feel very uncomfortable with the massive invasion of privacy and submission of all the OP's details to the police (which is a record that can hurt him later) and I don't know how to personally
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by hestipod 9y ago
I actually find this very unsettling as I was about to post a last ditch "advice or help" post with lots of potentially identifiable details required to relate the story (and would have had to ID myself to anyone helping anyway) a
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by hestipod 9y ago
I do meditate and it, like most things, has SOME beneficial effect, but not near enough and not near as much as the label on the tin says in my experience. No access to psychonaut stuff but I'd try in the right conditions with someone
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by hestipod 9y ago
I could never survive in even less robust conditions. I need certain things, certain services, medical care that requires long time to deal with etc. I have reduced my life to the bare minimum survivable for me in the name of preserving mon
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by hestipod 9y ago
Thank you for the response. I always appreciate well meaning people but the problem is there has never been any truly actionable advice. People tend to react one of two ways when you tell them "that hasn't worked"...either th
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by hestipod 9y ago
The number of people in this situation in this country is so huge people just cannot accept it and ignore it for their own bias/sanity. That woman is stronger than me as I would never last out on the street and have always said I would
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by hestipod 9y ago
Thanks and I know your words come from a well meaning place...but this is how it always goes because there isn't a self made path out of this sort of situation but people need to believe there is. You HAVE to have lots of outside help
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by hestipod 9y ago
I don't want to give details in public but it isn't something I could or would want to be involved in again for many reasons. The skills were specialized and honestly irrelevant to anything I could do online. I am starting from sc
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by hestipod 9y ago
Too late to edit my reply but as far as moving I most definitely want to and have been trying to find a way. I lived in Europe before and things were much better for me, but at this stage unless I can earn and find a way to legitimize once
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by hestipod 9y ago
I am not sure I could even sell what I realistically have very well. My previous career and education are so long ago nothing is relevant now and my CV is dead. As far as tech skills I am above average compared to my general age group/
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by hestipod 9y ago
Thanks for being empathetic. It's not as common as it should be.
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by hestipod 9y ago
Sadly I agree with this 100%. It sounds cynical and negative and I don't WANT to believe it...but my experience for nearly 15 years and the countless experiences of others I have met like me proves it out.
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by hestipod 9y ago
I appreciate the response and my heart bleeds for the countless people like me and even worse out there. While yes, even in places with systems there is not a guarantee, at least there is a chance, and the UK's system isn't amazin
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by hestipod 9y ago
I'd rather not say specifically in public, but rural middle America.
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by hestipod 9y ago
I appreciate the thought but there are some issues that make such kindnesses difficult: 1. People like me need more than a one time donation or loan, we need long term support so we can even have the stability to TRY to rebuild. That's
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by hestipod 9y ago
I'm going to tell a story about two people and two outcomes and hope people will read it. One man in Europe suffered a serious illness and was unable to continue in his previous career and had no new marketable skills. He had access to
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by hestipod 9y ago
I know you mean well but this sort of comment really upsets me because for many of us that means "when we die" as there is no obvious realistic hope. I have been suffering for 15+ years since medical mistakes took my life and futu
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by hestipod 9y ago
So what about those of us, who are despite common belief the majority, who are in between? Those too old or broken or indebted to work like a 14yo and hope for a future? Those who lost everything after doing what you did and building a life
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by hestipod 9y ago
I have known people in more social countries that were able to regain a life because they had access to medical care, housing and reschooling. It takes years but it's possible IF you have that help. Those people are now contributing ag
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by hestipod 9y ago
I've done it part time in the past when I attempted this sort of desperation move that failed. It wasn't sustainable and took too much out of me being "switched on and sociable" like that. On top of that the barrier to e
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by hestipod 9y ago
I don't even see most of my posts so I think something is still filtered or else I am being downvoted so they don't show? A mod said the new account spam thing was released Don't understand HN well as I have always lurked and

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