sexoffender

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by sexoffender 8y ago
> As a society, we approve of jail being the mechanism to "forgive" a person's crime. That's not what 99% society believes. The vast majority of regular people (go on the street and talk to any random person, I gu
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by sexoffender 9y ago
Thanks for the advice. It may come down to working at a factory and moving my family to the slums so we can afford to live. In fact that's looking more and more likely. We have only enough money for April, and based on my calls today t
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by sexoffender 9y ago
You're thinking under the assumption that there's no corruption in the judicial system, and also that every judge and jury and attorney intend to act for the good of every individual person, rather than for some other agenda. That
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by sexoffender 9y ago
I posted about my situation and difficulty finding a job on another social media website, and a commenter wrote "Those lists exist for a reason. You made your bed now sleep in it." That's literally what the public thinks they
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by sexoffender 9y ago
Their hope is that maybe they'll be able to change the future for the better by making an example of someone, even if they have to be excessive, cruel, or unjust toward that person. They're justifying the means by the hoped end.
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by sexoffender 9y ago
The US criminal system isn't meant to rehabilitate, and a corrections officer told me that directly once (after I asked for a Bible and he said no). It's only meant to provide the public with a false sense of security. "Anoth
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by sexoffender 9y ago
I know C#, learned it over winter break a few years ago, but have not used it for 3+ years in a professional setting. That's the issue. Even if I try to make hobby apps with it, nobody will hire me for a job using it. Unless I look for
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by sexoffender 9y ago
Since November I have applied at every type of job: silicon valley start-ups with just a few people, software consulting firms with a dozen or two dozen consultants, and large corporations like GS. Initially GS told me the felony wouldn&#x2
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by sexoffender 9y ago
I have several years of experience but it's all niche or outdated tech, hard to find jobs in it even without the felony.
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by sexoffender 9y ago
I've been applying since November and I've run out of money and time, April is the last month we can afford, and interview processes can last weeks. There's like a 5% chance I'll get a job during this time which is why I
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by sexoffender 9y ago
It is a misdemeanor, but a second offense turns it into a felony automatically. My lawyer could not get it back down to a misdemeanor. I am utterly and completely screwed.
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by sexoffender 9y ago
I do have a small portfolio website (can't show it here because it'll give away my name and the harassment will start) and it was mentioned in a few interviews, but it's not really good enough to show off for independent cons
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by sexoffender 9y ago
Oh, also I should mention, my crime was in 4 major local newspapers, and those online news articles are the first 4 results of googling my name. So it's not really something I can hide, at all.
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by sexoffender 9y ago
For that I would need references (I have none), a good portfolio (I have none), or the ability to start off making almost no money (my family would starve).
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Ask HN: How do you start a career as a software consultant?
6 points by sexoffender 9y ago|5 comments
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by sexoffender 9y ago
A few months ago one posted here on HN, explaining how most of her clients were men who threw away their actual families to chase after fast-paced careers (like start-ups), and often wanted to just talk and have her role-play being a wife (
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by sexoffender 9y ago
The physical nature of human beings: a single penis fits into a single vagina, and that's how babies are made. It takes exactly two people for this to work. Sex can be done in other ways but this is the magic formula for sex to make a
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by sexoffender 9y ago
> Childless millennial software developers (or otherwise generally technical) are in a better position to understand puberty in the modern internet driven landscape than someone who went through it 30 years ago, though. That's a rel
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by sexoffender 9y ago
We've never let them have free reign to screens, whether computer or TV or phone, because there's a whole host of other problems that come from that. So it's not like we're taking internet away from them and that they&#x
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by sexoffender 9y ago
Well sex kind of inherently requires an SO (however you choose to define "significant"), and porn inherently has to do with sex. Masturbation is trying to be your own SO, but sex inherently is a two-person job. I know these things
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by sexoffender 9y ago
This is a great reason to avoid giving smartphones to kids, and a big reason we haven't. It's important for them to not have to deal with things they aren't mentally, physically, or emotionally ready for yet. They need to be
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by sexoffender 9y ago
There is more to it, and it's hard to pinpoint cause and effect. He did have issues that existed before the pornography habit. But they worsened significantly since the month he started looking at pornography regularly. I do believe th
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by sexoffender 9y ago
The puritanical attitude is wrong. Sex is an amazing and great part of life, just like roller coasters or having 3 beers. Life is meant to be enjoyed. But over-doing it, or using something in a way it wasn't meant to be used, can ruin
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by sexoffender 9y ago
Why not both? Let your SO be the only one who pleases you on this level, physically, mentally and emotionally. Ignore those voices that try to tell you that you can't be happy without these old ways of pleasing yourself. Your relations
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by sexoffender 9y ago
Once he started doing it, everything in his life declined. He stopped having healthy relationships with his siblings and his friends at school. He started to be much more angry and even sometimes violent, and when we examine the situations
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by sexoffender 9y ago
I made that same exact argument in college to someone who was just trying to help me see how insane I was. Yes, it's slightly self-serving to love and find joy in love. But of all the forms of selfishness in existence, it's the
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by sexoffender 9y ago
My oldest son recently developed a porn habit in secret, and the things we saw in his search history showed a clear progression from googling "boobs" and "nudity" to "pissing" and "bondage". Pornograp
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by sexoffender 9y ago
Love is the wanting good for another person even if it costs you personally. Porn teaches you to want pleasure for yourself, even if it costs someone else. That's not love, that's lust. The chemicals released in your body and espe
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by sexoffender 9y ago
Indecent exposure, even though it was without underlying sexual motivation, is very shameful and embarrassing to talk about, especially in an interview. And already a few Fortune 500 companies who wanted to move forward with me have decided
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by sexoffender 9y ago
Suffice it to say it isn't something that makes me a risk to the employer, but it's also more awkward to discuss than other felonies.

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