gelraen

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by gelraen 11y ago
Got through first 5 minutes and I already see that myself and the author have very different opinions on what constitutes "good code": 1) having data structure and its methods isolated in a module is not a bad thing. Modules provi
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by gelraen 11y ago
> Why is this such a big problem? These needs are not a problem. But not stating them clearly creates a problem, where you do what you think would help, but your needs are still not satisfied. > I don't like this sentiment that e
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by gelraen 11y ago
Please elaborate on what you consider "solid dating advice" and why.
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by gelraen 11y ago
> While I mostly agree with you, if someone acts like they don't want a relationship at all (or plays super hard to get), then I'll just move on to someone who does, because I don't have time to waste trying to get someone
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by gelraen 11y ago
You need a car to do what? Most commonly, to transport your body from point A to point B. You can also consider other alternatives and pick one that (you think) works the best. I doubt that there is such a thing as "need to be in relat
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by gelraen 11y ago
My point is not about how attraction works, it's about what people do about it. You can feel attraction and decide to act on it almost instantly, but that's still your choice and you are responsible for what you do. But if you fee
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by gelraen 11y ago
Nope. Attraction is a nice thing to feel, but it's generally more satisfying if you act on it with conscious choice and not feel "forced" to do something just because you feel a certain way.
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by gelraen 11y ago
Attraction sometimes is not a matter of choice, but actions are. You can decide to continue communication with someone or not. You're not a slave of your attraction.
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by gelraen 11y ago
I would argue that it's hard to build healthy relationship when you're _not_ okay being single. Needing a relationship to feel okay sets the ground for developing codependency, which hurts everyone involved. Also, when you're
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by gelraen 11y ago
1) for me one of the merits of text communication is that it's asynchronous: there is a space to delay message processing for as long as recipient needs. Setting yourself to expect immediate response under such circumstances is bound t