> Why is this such a big problem? These needs are not a problem. But not stating them clearly creates a problem, where you do what you think would help, but yo

> Why is this such a big problem? These needs are not a problem. But not stating them clearly creates a problem, where you do what you think would help, but your needs are still not satisfied. > I don't like this sentiment that everyone must be a rock and steel-strong independent individual who never has to rely on others/relationships/family/society and just cuts through life like a knife through butter. I didn't say that either. The more clear and honest you are in expressing your needs to others – the more likely you to get them fulfilled. But for that you often need to do some work first; you can't rely on others to know your needs better then you.