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by Pfhreak 5y ago
It's not vague. Consent is an enthusiastic and unambiguous yes. Was there an enthusiastic and unambiguous yes? You have consent. Was there not an enthusiastic and unambiguous yes? You do not have consent.
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
She would not otherwise have been able to attend. She is able to attend specifically because of his "generosity". This wasn't something she proposed, and when she tried to bring others into the arrangement he pushed back, ins
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
I'm sure it happens, I strongly doubt it's "quite common". Especially relative to the incidence of it happening the other way (where an victim escapes and abuser and realizes they were being abused.)
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
I'm not. In fact, I'm the opposite. That's literally why I wrote that comment. It was for the benefit of people who were not US citizens who may not understand that a US reader will likely interpret the phrase that way.
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
She says that he 'insisted'. Typically someone 'insisting' on something implies an initial 'no'. And furthermore, "not saying no" is not the bar for consent. An enthusiastic, unambiguous yes is the ba
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Consent is unambiguous and enthusiastic yes. The default assumption is that no consent is given. Not saying yes is the same as saying no.
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
To be clear, that guy held several positions of power over her. Even in the most absolutely charitable reading, which is that this is a bad relationship (a reading I strongly disagree with) -- if you hold significant power over someone, you
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
She was left panicked and crying. That's not generally a sign that there was unambiguous consent. And it doesn't take a Rasputin-like figure to be an abuser. Plenty of people are taken advantage of and taught to believe things the
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Edit: Would you characterize that part as "a bit like a public lynching"? Because I definitely wouldn't, even if I disagreed with it or felt it was too much. --- I think you are very uncharitably reading that comment. There&#
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
It creates a power imbalance, or increases the power imbalance that already existed between the two. If you have a boss/employee relationship, or a mentor/mentee relationship, or a professor/student relationship, you need to
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
> some people will pause before judging definite rape for described situation where girl accepts invitation to sleep in the same airbnb, without anybody else, with single guy, bringing bottle of wine, None of those things even remotely
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
> I don't want to victim blame here ... but does the victim bear some responsibility? The answer to your question is no. The victim bears no responsibility. The abuser took advantage of someone, who bears no fault for the result. Th
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Have you ever been in an abusive relationship? Or seen one firsthand? People can be made to believe all sorts of things that aren't true by charismatic or powerful people. It may take them some time to realize they are being tricked or
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Being taken advantage of while intoxicated and while there was a significant power imbalance between the two. She was not in a position to give consent there -- being intoxicated, being in a place that was being rented Pretty (and she cou
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Which part? The part where people are saying they've become aware of several independent, substantiated accusations against Pretty? The part where they state that sexual assault is unacceptable? The part where they demand that Pretty s
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Because people don't believe victims. They insist that somehow they gave consent, or that somehow the assaulter just couldn't have known. Or they blame the victim, saying that "they deserved it" or "they shouldn&#x2
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Sex was had while she did not consent, she mentions in the fifth paragraph.
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
My father in law has a few decades doing trail building, and we're already trading notes. :D
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Yeah, working with a local forest services company to contract some of that out, but yes, the intent is to build up a native habitat.
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
I've used my tech salary to buy some formerly clear-cut acreage near National Forests with a plan to rehabilitate and protect the forest there. One of the first things I want to do is set up some trails for hiking to the ridge and cree
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
There's more than just informant data in the leak. Some would argue, for instance, that police disciplinary records being public is in the public good.
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
You could outlaw or regulate the mining and use of the coin in a country. It wouldn't be easy to enforce, but you could certainly but the law on the record. You could increase taxes on cryptocurrency capital gains. Big exchanges woul
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Yes? That's precisely the argument the parent poster was making -- technology (both computing and cryptocurrency and everything else) comes with both upsides and downsides. In the case of general purpose computing, the upsides are obvi
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Both sides? What do you mean 'both'? Presumably there are considerably more than two sides -- I'd expect that many countries are interfering in many other countries elections.
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
I think your reading is more correct, I can no longer update my comment.
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
No problem. I assume the last sentence of the parent comment is likewise over the line for similar reasons? "So I guess you must think they didn't suffer?"
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Sure. It wasn't meant to be pejorative, just factual. Your comments in this thread make sense though. Would a "This is a commonly held misconception about King" be more appropriate?
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
King did not call for calm, in fact often the opposite. Here's a quote from him: “Nonviolent direct action seeks to create such a crisis and foster such a tension that a community which has constantly refused to negotiate is forced to
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
Interesting, I read that more as a call for more union power and worker ownership. Our biases are showing. :D
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by Pfhreak 5y ago
I'm going to directly rebut/address some things that I disagreed with, I'm going to to try to do so calmly and in a way that furthers discussion, let me know if I don't do a good job. This is obviously a politically char

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