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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
> and tips on how to communicate with them was the best thing i could ever do I'm interested in how you concluded the advice was so beneficial. Was it a reduction in conflict and fewer emotional outbursts from your BPD partner? A fe
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
I went by the reviews - I don't intend to read the book. Her husband believes she suffered from borderline personality disorder. Have you had a friend or family member with BPD, or another cluster-B PD? These are clinical standards for
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
The two things we said aren't conflicting.
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
Personally, I find 2 and 3 to be creepy and robotic. 3 also feels intrusive. The conscious analysis of tone and body language is obviously important for many people to get by socially, especially for neurodiverse people or people outside th
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
Yeah, it's her. This piece is linked from her blog at: https://sibilantfricative.wordpress.com/ First paragraph of the OP and I knew in my bones it was written by someone with a personality disorder. Since her death, h
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
>Does anyone else question this common piece of advice? Absolutely. One thing I notice is that the people sharing this "advice" - while positioning themselves as amazing listeners - seem to have a disgust reaction to people sha
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
I'm no expert on listening, but I think do have a sense of when I personally feel heard. I don't agree with this piece at all, and I don't like the vibe of the author. The very first paragraph has a narcissism in it that rubs
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
If you need discipline, then it's not microwaveable. That sounds like more of a slow cook.
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
I still like React and unlike many others I even like the newer stuff like RSCs. At the same time, it is hard to shake the feeling that React's core team and associated personalities have lost sight of the changing frontend landscape,
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
I find this criticism interesting. Among the people actually doing it, it seems to be a near universal experience that Tailwind projects are easier to maintain than class based CSS. What is it about Tailwind that is unmaintainable, in your
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
>I might have done of lot of hating on DSL just like this. And now you go down the same path. If you are building real applications with this then you will find that OOHTML will need to be repeatedly extended in order to fit the more com
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
Say what you want about JSX, but this is the opposite of the JSX approach. JSX embeds markup in your logic rather than logic in your markup.
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
It looks cursed because it is cursed. It's the classic "back to the basics" web technology nonsense that is hello world optimized and completely unsuited to any real world business purpose. These seemingly simple template lan
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
This is what burnout is. Burnout is not caused by working, but by stress. The root cause of this stress is personal and interpersonal factors. People can burn out on very small workloads if the ratio of interpersonal toxicity to hours of wo
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
> While I have no reason to doubt Daniel's good faith, it's hard to believe that HN users would be tired of LLM-related news. I am. Completely sick of it! Thanks dang for your diligent moderation.
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
> I've had sales people go "unless you build X, I can't close the deal" For the benefit of younger devs, I'd like to add that this is a rookie sales mistake that indicates lack of software sales experience.
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
I'm yet to see evidence that the types of people who whinge about these types of "brilliant programmers" are themselves much better at documentation, training and onboarding a team. The fact that devs like this are even in a
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
The author was on a mismanaged project and his takeaway is to blame his fellow devs rather than hold management accountable. In fact, he does not even seem to recognize the existence of a managerial issue. This whole article reeks of impost
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
Is this an honest question or one of those HN social status signalling things where we all feign unfamiliarity with what software development looks like outside of the YC bubble? Not snark, seeking clarification.
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
I've heard that exact same adage used in reverse by those "6-7 years at the same company" engineers against engineers with careers of shorter stints. The logic being that if you never experience 5/6/7+ years of cont
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
It's not clear to me that negative correlation was the finding. For example, the result does not show that teams of randomly selected high aptitude individuals perform worse than teams of randomly selected non-high aptitude individua
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
>he reported some unexpectedly poor results The results are only unexpectedly poor if you assume individual ability directly composes into team ability. I think this was a common assumption in the 1980s, but I believe that managers nowad
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
I remember being blown away by this. Unhygienic templating and lack of template and serialization boundaries has been such a consistent disaster in our field for so many decades that it is hard to believe we are still dealing with this ki
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
>They all seem to be based on this assumption that traditional farming/food production is antiquated and inefficient, and that what the industry needs is clever outsiders to come in and re-invent it with the latest technologies. And
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
> The reason I find it easier to work with people who have a degree in Computer Science is that I don't have to convince them of the need for good algorithms and not to try to implement parsers or cryptography by hand. Cryptography
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
> it is that we don't need as many programmers. This sounds a bit like a variant of the old "lump of labor" misconception. There's no such thing as needing programmers. In the long run, economic decisions in markets a
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
>One should pay attention to the following symptoms: tingling/burning sensations especially in limbs, complexities with swallowing (dysphagia), chronic fatigue, shortness of breath with >= 96% SpO2, uncontrolled muscle cramps, pa
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
I'm not saying "don't try." And I'm also not disagreeing that people, on the whole, respond well to attempts to understand them and communicate with them. My observation is that it is ultimately organizational cultu
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
>Who says "business people" aren't capable of dealing with uncertainty? Not defending the parent comment because it's way off base. But come on. You've never seen non-development stakeholders struggle to accept d
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by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
Honestly, asking these kinds of business level questions as a dev is a great way to be seen as stubborn and uncooperative in businesses where the mindset of the OP comment has taken root. The managers who complain about their devs not think

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