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> and tips on how to communicate with them was the best thing i could ever do I'm interested in how you concluded the advice was so beneficial. Was it a reduct
by CipherThrowaway 3y ago
> and tips on how to communicate with them was the best thing i could ever do
I'm interested in how you concluded the advice was so beneficial. Was it a reduction in conflict and fewer emotional outbursts from your BPD partner? A feeling that you're better able to soothe them and manage their feelings?
- greenie_beans 3y agohttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy
- CipherThrowaway 3y agoIt's worth reading the paragraph on BPD in that page. Being conditioned by your BPD partner to excessively validate and center them is not the same as empathy.
- greenie_beans 3y agoi read it and i'm not sure the point you're trying to make? that section is about empathy from the POV of the person with BPD, not about empathetically listening to somebody with BPD edit: it appears we're talking past each other. i like this piece of writing and you don't. that's fine. do you have any suggestions for me to read about how to listen, written by one of your favorite writers or poets? this will help me better understand how to listen to you.