smsowmya

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1. 31.▲
   by smsowmya 10y ago

   There is something called benevolent sexism ...
2. 32.▲
   by smsowmya 10y ago

   I didn't even work with him directly - he was just there and decided to pick on me, yes. And yes, that was the gist of the experience.
3. 33.▲
   by smsowmya 10y ago

   There is no quote that can translate that context well. And it was sexist, perhaps even meant to be complimentary and not necessary. But it was not evil. What he did was not the point. The point is what followed and how it was handled. And
4. 34.▲
   by smsowmya 10y ago

   I agree. But it can also develop over a period of time. And there is a difference between being friendly and being hostile - this was the latter.
5. 35.▲
   by smsowmya 10y ago

   I actually agree about the (mis)labeling - I was not consciously doing it, if it makes a difference. It is something I will be cognizant of in the future. My point was to simply say that there is more to managing harassment than is presentl
6. 36.▲
   by smsowmya 10y ago

   woman = minority
7. 37.▲
   by smsowmya 10y ago

   There was no quote because it was him being nicer to me than to the other men thought he should have been - it was actually him not treating me like a second class citizen. It was this "equal" status that made the others feel th
8. 38.▲
   by smsowmya 10y ago

   And that's what makes victims think 100 times before making a formal allegation .. and why most don't report it.
9. 39.▲
   by smsowmya 10y ago

   if i had the ability to be this clearheaded, we wouldn't be having this problem at all ..
10. 40.▲
    by smsowmya 10y ago

    thank you :-) i think that is the point of the article .. we are in a chicken and egg situation here .. no one believes women when they say there are problems and hence there is no progress ..
11. 41.▲
    by smsowmya 10y ago

    And the thing about questioning, I understand innocent until proven guilty, but putting the onus of everything on the victim is pretty unfair ..
12. 42.▲
    by smsowmya 10y ago

    I did confront them and ask them to stop, but I still had to work with them, and they didn't entirely stop .. Unless you expect women to have taken Harassment 101 as a college course, they are really flying blind with this one .. whe
13. 43.▲
    by smsowmya 10y ago

    unfortunately yes ... and they don't think about consequences ...
14. 44.▲
    by smsowmya 10y ago

    These things happen at most companies .. people get jealous and have different ways of dealing with it .. it's up to management to handle it well, but since no one talks about it, there is no management for it ..
15. 45.▲
    Harassment at Apple: A personal perspective(medium.com)

    406 points by smsowmya 10y ago|604 comments