smsowmya

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by smsowmya 10y ago
https://mfbt.ca/some-garbage-i-used-to-believe-about-equalit...
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by smsowmya 10y ago
arranged marriages are usually family introductions and rarely forced. the way they limit choice is by constraining potential partners to your own caste or community, to the supreme thrill of family conservatives who regard that as "re
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by smsowmya 10y ago
sigh - but management can do a better job managing and if victims know what or how to recognize problems, they can be better prepared to deal with the situation more effectively. which is the point of this piece.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
this person is a troll - just read his comments. don't bother engaging.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
i don't work there any longer. i don't believe in allowing anyone the kind of leverage that results in me being abused.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
i agree about walking away, but i think by the time you think its a legal issue, its too late. its not easy to find a job when you have anxiety or depression - i tried a lot to do that. i also trusted the company, which i think is a fair th
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by smsowmya 10y ago
indian women being considered "exotic" is one of those..
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by smsowmya 10y ago
From my response There was no quote because it was him being nicer to me than to the other men thought he should have been - it was actually him not treating me like a second class citizen. It was this "equal" status that made th
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by smsowmya 10y ago
read the blog.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
thanks :-) and i really do appreciate your support of me in the threads. more than one guy has defended my post for me and that has been encouraging to see :-) honestly, not all men at apple are jerks either. its just that the jerks tend to
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by smsowmya 10y ago
I wasn't being defensive - he WAS treating others unfairly too ... you think they would have sprung on me if he had not been an ass to them and they hadn't felt threatened ? I am thinking about following up with another post with
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by smsowmya 10y ago
I think I was being sarcastic. Publishing this post has been a draining experience for me and I don't think I can be trusted to make coherent arguments about this issue for a while now. :-/ I didn't expect it to pick up the
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by smsowmya 10y ago
If things happen in places that have cameras, maybe it is helpful. But otherwise ? These things just happen - they cannot really be anticipated.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
is the fact that Apple thought to issue me an apology not enough proof that I am not making things up ?
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by smsowmya 10y ago
I understand what you meant, but what I said is that public discussions on these issues are career-impacting, and usually negatively. As painful as sexism is, I don't think it is practical to make a public discussion out of it - there
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by smsowmya 10y ago
thank you :-) i needed your empathy :-) my earlier attempts to respond sooner to your comment failed to get posted. :-/ i would have thought my saying that apple apologized would be enough of a reason to believe me, but i think they a
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by smsowmya 10y ago
thanks for the defense. a woman would have to be foolish to create such a ruckus about "just sexism". we just suck that part up as part of our jobs.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
what about the livelihood of the victim ? is that not at stake because of someone else's misbehavior ?
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by smsowmya 10y ago
sigh. i did not take any favors - i want my career to be built on merit and not favoritism - that is why i left the company. but do people realize that's not actually fair ? and this happens to a lot of women, not just me.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
look at the skeptics in this thread as an example .. does it give you a warm and fuzzy ? this is a stressful thread to read.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
i will agree. from unfortunate personal experience.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
thanks a lot :) sorry you had to do that. i will look at the book. :-)
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by smsowmya 10y ago
anyway, i only said the company needs to encourage investigations and reporting, not discourage them. this has nothing to do with people at all - it is the company's attitude that i am talking about.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
to be honest, women's careers are ruined far more than men. how many men do you know who have been ostracized ? trump is president for crying out loud.. and ailes is happily working for him..
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by smsowmya 10y ago
it should happen, but the company can either encourage it or discourage it .. and that stance is important ..
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by smsowmya 10y ago
There is a difference between questioning someone and proceeding with the investigation to ascertain proof and actions if necessary. One assumes there are concerns that need to be looked into, the other one implies the accuser is lying ...
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by smsowmya 10y ago
thank you :-) that means a lot to me !
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by smsowmya 10y ago
also, when the hostility started, one of the men actually went - "it's like that now, is it ?". As if I had changed my behavior since my incident ( which i hadn't ). I have gotten called hottie, haughty like a supermodel
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by smsowmya 10y ago
space - impossible to cover everything in 10-12 minute read. sexism can also be non-verbal, which again, is hard to convey.
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by smsowmya 10y ago
Bingo ! :-)

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