samh748

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by samh748 4y ago
One thing I know is that it doesn't matter which field or topic you go into. No amount of career-searching is going to do much in making us less confused. Too often we grow up being told (explicitly or implicitly) that our jobs and car
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by samh748 4y ago
Really appreciate the feedback. But the big problem I see with all the professions is exactly that, they are professions that end up costing way too much as a service for people who are probably struggling to afford this and that. Also,
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I don't imagine it being too long-term. So mentoring doesn't seem like the right idea. But that's the thing, I don't exactly know how to phrase this "service" that is lacking.
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You don't realize how much you needed to laugh your butt off until it happens.
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> offering unconventional perspective I was thinking exactly that, but didn't want to get mixed in with more mystic / uber-spiritual advice. No offence to people who follow those, it's just not accurately what I'm off
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by samh748 4y ago
Yeah I appreciated the feedback. I love feedback, it's all good information to chew through and think about. :) > It's often people in the grey area, falling between the cracks, that get the worst deal - too well to seek help,
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by samh748 4y ago
I thought that was what I was imagining too, but I realized that what I'm offering isn't simply "a place to talk about your problems". What's missing in these communities, I think, is a particular level of expertise
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by samh748 4y ago
I totally understand your point and anticipated there will be pushback like this. However, from what I've observed, there seems to be a significant lack of actually helpful support and resources for people who fall into these two categ
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by samh748 4y ago
You can make an anon account on here, or you can send me an email if you prefer. Hang in there :) EDIT: Re my photos, haha thank you!!
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by samh748 4y ago
Thanks so much for this! Really appreciate the encouragement and the tips! What I've noticed is that, sometimes our struggles in the "external" world stem from un-resolved issues with our inner world or our close relationship
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You have no idea how much that means to me. Really. I'm literally tearing up. :')
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by samh748 4y ago
Thanks for this. Yeah I definitely won't want to venture into the "serious stuff" exactly for the reasons stated. My experience has been that, it's the in-between severity that seems to lack good resources. The stuff tha
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by samh748 4y ago
You seem like a very loving and emotional person. I love the HN crowd but I don't know if their rational approach is going to be suitable for you. I've sent you a message via twitter already, but if you're interested, take a
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by samh748 4y ago
Hi there, sorry to hear about your situation. I'm actually quite surprised that most comments here focus on external solutions. Personally, the only thing that helped me in the past were inner -world related, things like personal gr
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Ask HN: Are you lost / confused / stuck? I can try to help
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Ask HN: How do you build and maintain momentum during lengthy projects?
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Ask HN: How do people follow blogs/personal websites nowadays?
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by samh748 4y ago
Gotcha, will start doing. :)
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by samh748 4y ago
I'm mainly writing essays, but didn't want the specificity of that to limit the possible responses I get. But re what I want to get out of it, that is a great question. Took it for granted, but I can now see that figuring that out
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by samh748 4y ago
This is a great point! (Thanks for taking a peak at my work, kinda embarrassed about it, but hey, it was helpful for feedback.) Thank you :)
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was funny to read tbh
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Yes I've noticed!
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by samh748 4y ago
That is a great line. That's exactly the kind of thing that holds me back, so glad to hear this. Thanks!
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by samh748 4y ago
To clarify, that was my plan, but thankfully I no longer think of doing that. Yes, there is still something big that I want to do, but now I have many other aspects that I want to add and share as well, so it's more of a relief now.
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by samh748 4y ago
Thanks for this, always appreciate diff perspectives! Thankfully I never totally follow any one single person/system of belief etc, but it's good to know for context. But yeah I can see how other people may become too devoted and
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by samh748 4y ago
Sorry, another point to add: Basically, from my observations, people who over-do niceness often have a profound fear of criticism. That's exactly why they over-do nice in the first place, and keep asking questions to make sure they &qu
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by samh748 4y ago
Thank you for sharing your story. > either I think their issue is too mild for them to understand my experience or I feel like my issues aren't bad enough to count I totally resonate with this struggle. Not saying my problem is like
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by samh748 4y ago
Totally agree with not imposing our own views on others. > As a father, I have made it clear to my children that at some point they are responsible for themselves and of course they will get support if they get into trouble, but not for
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by samh748 4y ago
I would be careful about this "honest conversation". From what the commenter (giantg2) described, their mom sounds like someone who has pretty serious "attachment" issues (may not be the formal word for it), in the way s
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by samh748 4y ago
What I've learned from all the years of personal growth and raising a family, is that love, especially with children, is about being responsive to their needs. All too often I see parents impose their definition of "love"&#

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