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Ask HN: Escaping Difficult Employment Situation?
19 points by dirtybirdnj 2y ago|38 comments
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
I think if I could work in an environment like this I could be really and truly happy. Unfortunately situations where I've advocated for mentorship or team growth have always resulted in negative career consequences. "Wasting time
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
I lost my ex wife and cat to divorce last May. My world fell apart the day after my birthday. My mom has been in and out of the hospital since November... two weeks after the divorce was finalized. Trying to "live my life" has bee
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
> really good workers, that would take their job seriously, and be excellent employees, are being knocked out of the game, and the unproductive, disloyal, rapacious sharks that have learned to game the system, are taking all the fish foo
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
> focus on fewer goals at a time Beyond this very specific thing, I think its also a struggle with trusting myself. I don't trust myself to finish anything. I can try as hard as I want but my locus of control is completely external.
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
> I also took a big step back from various forms of ambition, in favor of building a solid, enjoyable life. I think you are onto something here, but there's no way to keep my current situation sustainable let alone live on less. The
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
Nail on the head. Lost wife / family (cat) / house over the summer. Mom in and out of hospital starting in November. I'm a cat locked in the dryer and there are no door handles on the inside.
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
> First you have to make space in your life for it. You need long blocks of time for deep work. This is the obstacle to EVERYTHING in my life. It's very chaotic, which causes a lot of stress and has led to decreasing performance. I
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
> During this time I hopefully remember to take my medication. Hahaha oh man, I feel you on this! I have a 7 day pill organizer that I have found does wonders for my ability to #1 take my meds and also #2 have a visual reminder that I di
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
Growing up in NJ my family got together at my uncles place for Christmas, which also happens to be my cousin's birthday. I'm not sure if this was directly on the holiday but it WAS winter / snowy so we're gonna roll with
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
SaaS is just hype around MRR. Monthly Recurring Revenue is a morally bankrupt business model that attempts to take things that do not belong in this pattern and force them on consumers. It offloads the risk from the company onto the custome
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
I'm not sure what my idea is worth, but here it goes. I once worked at a really cool company that had robots that could do handwriting. I thought it would be cool to get the robots to draw pictures of people, and after a little hacking
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
> In situations like these it's good to remember that people are much more likely to take the ethical and principled road when they also stand to gain from that choice. People who put their ideals above pragmatic self-interest self-
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
this is amazing work, looks hand done. can't imagine the time that goes into something like this, just figuring out how to compose it... and not making mistakes?! very cool
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
I got a mac app called Graphic off the app store a few years ago and it does everything I need in a vector graphics tool. Illustrator can go get fucked. I really wish I could get behind inkscape but the UI has never improved enough for me t
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
Looks neat, is this a self-made thing or a project one could use to deploy a similar forum? I've been noodling on the idea of a HN style board for a non-tech audience that is older. I think the more primitive UI will resonate with the
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
shhhh don't say the quiet part out loud
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
If your not banning tiktok for it's ownership opacity... ban it for destroying attention span and training people into being mindless content consumption robots. We regulate cigarettes and heroin this is a much bigger problem than peop
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
Finding people that vibe on the same things you are passionate about is really, really difficult. Feedback and just being around people doing stuff I think is super, super important. One way I'm considering doing this is running a loca
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by dirtybirdnj 2y ago
Edit: WHOOSH I totally missed your link! I think your idea is awesome if you couldn't tell by my participation :) TOO MUCH! I've been fighting depression and anxiety on / off the past year. The past two or three months things
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by dirtybirdnj 3y ago
This article was fascinating and insightful, I find this dynamic resonates with me as a developer. Instead of VCs fighting over funding, it's me trying to explain why something is not simple or why disparate pieces do not magically int
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by dirtybirdnj 3y ago
Find a side hustle you can put sweat equity into. Keep working your day job. If you have an idea that gets traction eventually you will be able to make the switch. It will take years. It will be really hard and you will question whether it
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by dirtybirdnj 3y ago
> it might enable you to build a world leading ai company Sure I had to ruin a few careers, but look at all the shareholder value I created. There is a level of whitewashing, gaslighting or to put it very gently "less than truthful
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by dirtybirdnj 3y ago
> When I said the parent's post sounded more like they were describing autism I have a feeling that the venn diagram between autism and the ASPD stuff is more than we realize. Same spectrum, just extreme dysfunction at polar ends. &
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by dirtybirdnj 3y ago
> I think normalizing sociopathic behaviour is something to be worried about, but I personally don't see that happening anywhere so I am unsure what your point is. The normalization of sociopathic behavior is pretty clear to see in
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by dirtybirdnj 3y ago
> actively reject abusive narcissistic behavior with no qualifications. There is an inherently difficult task in this. To combat manipulators, we must ourselves engage in manipulation of others whether we like it or not. Depending on how
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by dirtybirdnj 3y ago
I agree that people should be given the opportunity for their natural gifts being used effectively. I do NOT think "I'm a sociopath, sorry that doesn't bother me" is ever an acceptable resolution to the damage, pain and
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by dirtybirdnj 3y ago
> This isn’t a disability, sociopathy is a self-propelled toxic character trait, typically resulting from deep childhood trauma that our society rewards structurally. > Mostly we just need to identify and isolate people with ASPD as q
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by dirtybirdnj 3y ago
> Wow, that doesn't jive with my personal experiences or what I've ever read about sociopathy. It sounds more like you're describing folks on the autism spectrum. The amount of undue hate that people on the spectrum get fo
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by dirtybirdnj 3y ago
It was not an issue of refining the content on one site, you make a good point though. It was more of an issue that they had a bunch of clients on an old CMS system, and they did not want to make any changes the way that the sites were buil

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