bradlys

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by bradlys 4y ago
Correct. People also assume that you’re always going to get paid more at a new gig. This just isn’t true in SV. If you joined a startup and it rocketships - I’ve seen many smart engineers stick around for years just because they have a 7-fi
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by bradlys 4y ago
What’re you guys working on that this is a regular occurrence? I just never run into walls like this when coding stuff up.
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by bradlys 4y ago
This happened to folks before WFH. Often you’d join a team that was full of people 40+ who had no interest or commonalities with someone in their early 20s (and no interest in bridging the gap). These things happen in office too. It’s a com
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by bradlys 4y ago
Stock appreciation... I was one of these people who saw 7 figure TC and I was just a senior IC. So, you're wrong. It's extremely common in SV. You have to be past $3.5m income to be in the 1% here. You think it's only execs
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by bradlys 4y ago
Yeah - the fee should always be quite punitive. I’ve only had one host cancel on me last minute and it was very disrupting to our trip because nothing was available. We had to book a horror story of a place on VRBO (which I would say is muc
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by bradlys 4y ago
Considering it’s a 20+ year project in the making and has an expected operation of 5-20 years… I don’t think it’s entirely ridiculous to look at it this way.
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by bradlys 4y ago
Varies a lot. I’ve seen people at smaller public companies get $5m+/yr offers and they managed maybe 15 people total. SV is weird - some people get really big offers. With crazy stock valuations and growth - some people do be getting b
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by bradlys 4y ago
Again - this is because the public thinks abortion is a finicky woman choice being dramatic in the final moments. They’re uninformed and don’t know anything about abortion. It’s like asking the public about monetary policy - they have opini
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by bradlys 4y ago
Is this as financially viable as being an engineer at FAANG? E.g. you’re getting paid $400k+ liquid for senior/e5 roles.
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by bradlys 4y ago
The other issue is that most Americans also don’t know anything about abortion. They have opinions about things they know nothing about - when confronted and informed they turn out to be even more left leaning than initially thought. They t
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by bradlys 4y ago
This really varies. Among managers I personally know - we all agree that even if X engineer is basically contributing less to the team significantly… it doesn’t matter because they’re underrepresented and the company would never fire them.
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by bradlys 4y ago
You're trying to argue that pay gap exists due to societal issues which push women into lower paying professions. I'm not arguing against that. I'm saying that men and women who push against norms will not experience a pay ga
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by bradlys 4y ago
Tech is a high paying profession. Women tend to be hypergamous. Thus, their male partner will earn even more than their high paying professional self. This means that they often can drop out because the husband earns a fuck load. Women wh
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by bradlys 4y ago
Just to be clear - the pay gap mostly disappears once you control for field, position, and experience. Women aren’t getting paid substantially less for the same job while having the same credentials. Also - even in fields like medicine… the
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by bradlys 4y ago
And we’re definitely not gonna touch on the 4x self-inflicted death rate that men have over women just generally.
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by bradlys 4y ago
Do you live in SF? It sounds like you don’t live in SF.
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by bradlys 4y ago
NIMBYism. The incentive is definitely there but the issue is that existing landowners don’t want any more buildings. After all - more supply while keeping demand fixed hurts their profitability. You need eminent domain from the government t
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by bradlys 4y ago
Closer to $10k. There are calculators online to figure this out btw.
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by bradlys 4y ago
$200k isn’t enough to buy anything in SF though. Also - I know a lot of people making $200k/yr and they spend relatively little. Honestly - you sound really out of touch and like you know no one who makes $200k/yr in SF. Where wou
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by bradlys 4y ago
> I don't think I'm good looking, but I am interesting. I talk well with people both online and in person. If only online dating relied on talking to get a match. Instead it relies on - hmm - your photos to get a match. Why
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by bradlys 4y ago
Of course I have. I’m an above average man in many ways but I’ve lived in Seattle and SF primarily for most of my “dating” years where men heavily outnumber women. Unfortunately add on - I am neither white nor tall. Nor muscular nor good lo
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by bradlys 4y ago
Title is kinda garbage. What Hinge is to OkCupid - Feeld is to FetLife. That's what I've gathered from the queer people in my life. I find these articles written by (mostly) women who get such easy access to sex to be a bit... cri
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by bradlys 4y ago
Root cause unknown but we know where people are meeting more and more. It's 1) online dating and 2) bars/clubs. Everything else individually is <10% of couples and keeps only getting smaller. Physical attractiveness is about al
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by bradlys 4y ago
I mean - this assumes the person is solving the correct problem and that everything is easily testable or being tested correctly. I’ve reviewed many PRs where they were trying to add a feature or solve a bug but were not achieving the goal.
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by bradlys 4y ago
But the people in power like Biden/Trump will never experience it.
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by bradlys 4y ago
Except that with online dating your point is moot. When is the last time you were single?
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by bradlys 4y ago
I mean a parent of my kids - sure. A parent of me? lol why? If I wanted a sugar momma then sure. But I just want someone who is also making $500k+. I hate being sole bread winner and doing all the work around the house and raising the kid
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by bradlys 4y ago
It was not focusing on finding a similarly earning partner as to why I’m divorced now. Emotionally - I’m a catch. My ex wife and most women agree. Physically - I just don’t match with what most women want these days.
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by bradlys 4y ago
I’m 5’10” and 150lb - weight loss isn’t the issue. Body composition and gaining muscle mass is all I need to do. (I mean - gain a few inches of height would be nice but I’m not willing to go that far) Surgery would help with facial issues.
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Ask HN: Losing the drive to do everything alone
3 points by bradlys 4y ago|11 comments

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