bradlys

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by bradlys 4y ago
The OP appears like someone who is a mod in that community already from her replies. They are beyond the pale.
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by bradlys 4y ago
To be fair here - you’re not paid based on how much your local environment costs. You’re paid based on what a company think it can get away with paying you.
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by bradlys 4y ago
Software is hot only in the sense that there are “jobs” available. Whether or not those jobs are good or pay well is another factor. Do you really think everyone has a spot at FAANG-etc? They don’t - I know because I work at them and we rej
904.
by bradlys 4y ago
You can be a top performer and still be fired for various reasons. The cultural questions and things related to firings are very important. I’ve seen quite a few eng fired for non-performance reasons and entirely due to culture. Firings for
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by bradlys 4y ago
I think it really depends on the type of big tech you’re talking about. Being senior staff often means $800k+ comp. I’d gladly take that over the $400k senior ranges. Directors are past $1m. It’s a huge pay bump - not just 20% to go into ma
906.
by bradlys 4y ago
Ultimately - a lot of this advice is decent but only works if you are already on the taller side, physically attractive to begin with (good face), and are willing to date down. Generally, if you're not willing to date down - you will h
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by bradlys 4y ago
I think you’re just bad at describing yourself here and your outcomes. It’s also locale dependent. Where I am in SF - it’s purgatory. Even when I change to NYC - it’s incredibly difficult. The main reason? So much choice for the women. Why
908.
by bradlys 4y ago
Is it misinformed if it’s just generally how they work in the US?
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by bradlys 4y ago
Unless you believe children shouldn't exist - almost no one is pro-abortion. So, that's not really an argument that anyone is making, is it? In the same way people say pro-union - they mean "pro-choice" as in you should
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by bradlys 4y ago
I’m pro-choice - does this mean that I think every fetus should be aborted?
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by bradlys 4y ago
It’s really not. People tend to only form unions when they feel that they’re being unjustly treated and this is one of their last resorts.
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by bradlys 4y ago
People should also understand why he said he would be offended. He would be offended because it meant they didn’t talk to him and work with him - and that he did such a bad job as a manager that they decided to unionize. He’s pro-union - he
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by bradlys 4y ago
I disagree. The issue isn't housing availability in BFE - the issue is housing availability in major cities. The reason SF is so expensive is because in spite of all the SFH being built outside of SF - it still isn't enough to c
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by bradlys 4y ago
I don’t think we should be building more SFH in BFE. We need to be building more high density in our cities. That would actually alleviate the pressure and increase quality of life while lowering tax burden for everyone.
915.
by bradlys 4y ago
The problem with this logic is that you assume Dems or Republicans want to help the working class. They don’t.
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by bradlys 4y ago
If you think they're lottery tickets - pick a better startup. Seriously. You shouldn't be joining startups unless you think they have a chance of liquidation for you. If you really do think they're worthless THEN JOIN FAANG.
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by bradlys 4y ago
This is a bad take. If you truly value options at $0 then you’re often getting a garbage deal wherever you go. If you’re only negotiating over salary - you’re screwing yourself. Options is how you actually make money at startups. The salary
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by bradlys 4y ago
https://www.statista.com/chart/20822/way-of-meeting-partner-... Tell me - what does it look like here as to how people are going to get into relationships? Do you think bars and especially clubs are going to be
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by bradlys 4y ago
Tell me you haven't dated in the last 10 years without telling me you haven't dated in the last 10 years. > You become smarter. More confident. More emotionally, psychologically, and financially stable. Cause all those are rele
920.
by bradlys 4y ago
Type A + career oriented is uncommon for wanting kids. One of those has to give in that dynamic. I've known plenty of women who are both but they're uncommon and while they love their kids - when they think abstractly... They
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by bradlys 4y ago
Same. I don't know any of these men and have never known any either. Sometimes I've wondered why some guys get some gals but then I talk to the women and they're like, "Oh, he's actually very physically attractive.&
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by bradlys 4y ago
In the US - this is not dating. Dates are considered something you do with someone you're not in a committed relationship with . What we define as dates are usually when two "single" people go out somewhere together with the
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by bradlys 4y ago
And?
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by bradlys 4y ago
Poor is different than not-rich. I've seen many "poor" men get many relationships and dates. Money is only a minor factor. SV should be an indicator of that - we have an overreaching amount of men making $400k+/yr an
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by bradlys 4y ago
Inner qualities don't matter with online dating. You're not choosing someone based on inner qualities with online dating or even first dates. You're choosing your dates based off of superficial qualities then hoping maybe the
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by bradlys 4y ago
As someone who did get older and went through this - it does not get better. Your hair doesn’t suddenly get thicker. The pounds don’t suddenly become easier to keep off. Your skin doesn’t tighten. Your complexion doesn’t smoothen out. It
927.
by bradlys 4y ago
$450k/yr at FAANG for senior is definitely the very top of the band and to get there after 5 years is extremely optimistic. Again - if you're comparing Stanford graduates then maybe it's more common but for your average FAA
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by bradlys 4y ago
The issue is that every job I’ve had requires learning a bunch of new shit. Rarely am I just transferring over to the same languages or frameworks. Add on that each company decides different design patterns that they want to utilize and has
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by bradlys 4y ago
I mean - this is YMMV. Typical SV FAANG engineer is from an Ivy League or adjacent competitive school. Often with a masters. So, yes, you might not have to do the full specialty training and residency but it can still be quite competitive a
930.
by bradlys 4y ago
You’re getting shit on for no good reason. It’s like people here have never been in a problematic relationship or had to work through things with their partners. I really hope I never have to be or deal with their partners. You’re right. Id

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