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by bradlys 4y ago
> a high success rate when getting a response This is where I think you're undervaluing what's going on with what I said. Often getting a response is all you ever need. The same is true when going out to a bar or whatever. If a
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by bradlys 4y ago
Because incentives don’t align. Once you make a rubric that people can actually attain - everyone will meet that bar. But that doesn’t work - you need to fire people because upper management believes that the threat of firing people will ke
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by bradlys 4y ago
How old are you? I’ve found many men also severely underrate how physically attractive they are. I’ve had male models tell me they’re average looking, guys who are 6ft+ say they’re average height, and guys who literally have girls asking th
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by bradlys 4y ago
I assume you and your friends are also just naturally good looking too. (Taller than average, good face, preferred race, etc.) For places like the bar, online, and other cold approach avenues - looks are paramount to your success. If someon
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by bradlys 4y ago
I get quite tired of the boomer-esque takes on HN and everywhere else. The quintessential one is “shower, dress, have a job, and be respectful” is somehow enough to attract just about any woman. People assume that 60% of young men must just
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by bradlys 4y ago
These cities also have a housing affordability issue. They all refuse to build enough housing - especially mixed development. It’s not really a shock as to why homelessness is rising when you literally can’t afford a roof and everything els
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by bradlys 4y ago
I’d add also that this is really only an issue for some women. Most men I’ve met end up leaving the dance scene once they have a partner - if said partner doesn’t dance. It’s reflected by polling the crowd. There are way more women in relat
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by bradlys 4y ago
This will also push me (an adult) to other websites. I have no interest in giving any ID to any random website.
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by bradlys 4y ago
It's not really a problem in today's market, IMO. I've yet to have my string of short tenures ever really hold me back. The biggest issue is that you will have to regrind the leetcode gauntlet and go through a dozen more onsi
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by bradlys 4y ago
The issue with ones that are "profitable" at seed or Series A and don't pursue more funding is that I don't think they ever go public. The founders will find a way to get their payday but as an employee - you're SOL
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by bradlys 4y ago
lol - this seems like a great way to keep a class divide. “I can’t let the poors know I make so much. They might try to take my money!” Way to not work on class unity. I’ve told my friends, family, peers, and anyone else how much I made all
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by bradlys 4y ago
My cold application process works pretty well historically. I can’t speak for the current conditions though. I’ve gotten all my jobs through non-referrals in the past. It does work. Can’t speak for now though - could be most places just are
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by bradlys 4y ago
It’s wild that this isn’t the top response. I get a ton of emails from random startups in stealth mode, early funding, whatever. You know where they all go? Spam folder. As far as I’m concerned, they pay the equivalent of dog shit and are m
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by bradlys 4y ago
The problem is that what makes a good manager for an IC does not make a good manager for the manager’s manager. They are fundamentally at odds unless you have servant leadership from the top down. (Which is nearly unheard of)
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by bradlys 4y ago
Eh, the resume stack is fundamentally flawed. A lot of URT are never going to go into tech because they just don’t want to. It’s a large cultural issue.
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by bradlys 4y ago
We’ve hired people at my jobs (big tech to startups in SV) that were underqualified because of diversity measures. If we had ran them through the typical interview gauntlet with the same rubric, they wouldn’t pass. We often changed the inte
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by bradlys 4y ago
This read heavily like any of the polyamorous circles that I’ve been in. The poor handles around consent and the desire to maximize their reputation months after such incidents is… well, strikingly familiar to me. I never have been poly and
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by bradlys 4y ago
tl;dr - no, there are no solutions. If you cannot fix the source of stress then you’re fucked. I also agree with the sentiment. Anytime my stress levels rise - my sleep goes back to shit. Is there a solution? Nope! If you cannot fix the sou
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by bradlys 4y ago
It’s all a horse and pony show. It’s most definitely not just one politician deciding things - they just want you to think that. Ever notice how the villain changes ever few months? It’s planned.
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by bradlys 4y ago
Talk about a strawman. At no point are the men getting mad at her or expressing that. They're not like, "Well fuck you, ya damn stupid cunty bitch." They're not doing that and you know they're not. If she just says
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by bradlys 4y ago
It is that bad. If I was in college again - I might consider the same approach. Modern dating is exceptionally difficult - especially so for men. People really hate the other gender and there are very few ways to interact with the opposite
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by bradlys 4y ago
People these days just hate the other gender and are incredibly socially awkward. Look online - there’s nothing out there from people saying they love the other gender. Nothing. It’s all hate. It’s because they’re all so fucking awkward and
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by bradlys 4y ago
True. Going to class to meet girls is a pretty crazy thought. “Hey man, that professor sucks and we can learn the material outside of class more effectively.” “I gotta go though man, it’s my only way to meet girls… in a lecture where you ca
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by bradlys 4y ago
Well if she’s fending off men - why would they be friendly? I’m not friendly to anyone who acts like an asshole to me. Your daughter is also probably just not attracted to the overwhelming majority of those men. She’s probably quite picky.
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by bradlys 4y ago
Coed colleges become all male quite quickly when choosing certain majors - especially in the STEM region. When I did math & cs - there were almost no women in any classes I took. The few that showed up were typically fob and didn’t spea
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by bradlys 4y ago
It depends. I’ve listened to enough conversations where someone “derailing” things with personal anecdotes actually is fucking hilarious. You’re probably just not happy with the resident smart guy regardless of what he says. He could say an
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This movie alone is the number one reason I will never work or be alone with children that aren’t my own.
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by bradlys 4y ago
Generally, that's just classism though. There are a ton of dudes in that work who are wanting to come home to a family. This doesn't change that the women don't want to be with those guys because what they do isn't consi
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by bradlys 4y ago
Homelessness increasing while the cost of housing has skyrocketed. Solution is more affordable housing? No, you don’t say. It’ll never happen though. We look at housing as an investment from a cultural perspective in the USA. This has been
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by bradlys 4y ago
You’re just more aware. It’s been like this for longer than five years - lol. For some of these issues - it’s been a while. Our entire media system is built around attention. Your attention is more easily grabbed by bad things than good.

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