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by bradlys 2y ago
This is quite disingenuous. “Low performers” in many of these companies aren’t low performers. It’s often whoever the boss likes the least due to whatever reason. I’ve rarely seen anyone let go and thought the person was a low performer. Mo
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by bradlys 2y ago
I think if you're looking at women who don't prioritize a relationship then okay but who cares about what they want? It's like trying to sell a Econovan to someone who wants a 911.
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You’re also in Europe. The culture is very different. I’m living in regions where homes regularly cost $3m. It’s unfortunate but people of similar backgrounds pair off here cause it’s unfair otherwise.
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by bradlys 2y ago
> Finding beautiful women on the arm of a man who is old or unattractive man is easy, if he has other attributes women like more. Only seen this with gold diggers. I’ve never seen this in any other circumstance. It’s well accepted that m
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by bradlys 2y ago
Sounds like you haven't been on the dating market in a long time. There is no "just world" when it comes to human sexuality. Some people are born physically unattractive. Most people who are college educated meet on dating ap
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by bradlys 2y ago
> I would consider it a deal breaker if I found out my partner didn't think I was attractive. Most women really feel this too. For better or worse, most women feel their self-worth is tied to their looks. If you told her that you di
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by bradlys 2y ago
> Right now, the biggest issue my sister have is how pushy men are with her, not 'commitment'. I think it's a bit of both. I don't think a lot of women would care about the pushiness if it was with high commitment. It
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by bradlys 2y ago
I’ll say that men in general suck in the same way that women in general suck. Both suck. Being jaded and thinking only shit men exist is a very bad mentality. The women I know who didn’t stay jaded and pursued men who were reasonable and sh
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by bradlys 2y ago
I think this is the new norm and it will only get worse. Social media isn’t going anywhere and the amount of interconnectedness we have is also not going anywhere. Everyone will be in an environment where any social trend will spread like w
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by bradlys 2y ago
Yeah, exactly. This is the difference. People in tech assume that when this happens to women that it’s sexually motivated. No. It’s motivated by knowing you’re stack ranked and the best way to get ahead is by tearing others down. The indust
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by bradlys 2y ago
This won’t be a popular sentiment among the woke mafia that puruses HN but I’ve seen far more women drop out of tech roles due to the general work environment than due to some sexist commentary. In fact, I don’t know any who left due to som
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by bradlys 2y ago
A lot of students at UW - especially ones in the CS department - come from rich families. A lot of foreign students as well - who again - come from a ton of money.
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by bradlys 2y ago
It appeals to old people. Young people aren’t coming back. It’s been on a downward trend for longer than the pandemic started.
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by bradlys 2y ago
Swing dance is down overall compared to ten+ years ago in NA. There are way less events. The events don't go as late either. It used to be that almost every event would go to 5am. The crowd at these events is much older now too. It use
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by bradlys 2y ago
Next to no recruiters out there are doing things by hand. Everything is automated. They’re not googling for you.
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by bradlys 2y ago
In NYC, I disagree. I get sick very frequently whenever I take the subway. It is absolutely disgusting. The amount of crazy people on there is a lot too. Every friend has some story of some person assaulting or nearly assaulting them on the
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by bradlys 2y ago
You're right. It is very hard for men/leads. Most follows/women I know are incredibly judgy and won't dance with new leads. This is a big difference from a decade ago when saying "yes" was the norm. This is a
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by bradlys 2y ago
"US" - other parts of the world are doing okay with social dancing.
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by bradlys 2y ago
It's unfortunate that these articles and discussions written by Americans about the dance are mostly going to be lost to the ether in the next ten years. As this dance and some others are mostly on their last breath in the US. Pre-covi
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by bradlys 2y ago
It's a joke.
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by bradlys 2y ago
It feels like there's nothing of substance in this article. My own addition to this beyond the "we need third spaces", etc. that gets repeated is that I believe where you live has a huge influence that maybe scales in a way t
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by bradlys 2y ago
I've taken close to three years off so far. I took my time off to hack the hardest problem of my entire life - finding someone to get married to. For some of you, this was trivial and you met your spouse in college, arranged marriage,
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by bradlys 2y ago
I don't know what the solution is but I don't feel like making it easier is going to be helping either. I'm not entirely sure if this toxic culture would go away as soon as people have green cards. After all, this culture is
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by bradlys 2y ago
You're assuming people are really learning anything in those programs that they wouldn't have had in their undergrad. I've never met an American with an undergrad who is underperforming compared to their foreign MS counterpar
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by bradlys 2y ago
The working conditions for Americans suck due to this fucking program. People come here to live subservient lives and bring along a toxic culture of submission. The level of ass licking that I see on the regular is akin to a well known Kore
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by bradlys 2y ago
They've said this for decades and SV engineers still pulling down $500k+/yr while someone in Hyderabad isn't making anywhere close to that.
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by bradlys 2y ago
Isn't it well known that the main reason that most foreigners have advanced degrees is because that's how they get into the country legally in the first place? I don't see many people getting employed straight out of undergra
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by bradlys 2y ago
Cost of living in the US is very high. HN skews towards the SV crowd. $80k isn't even a year of rent for many here. If you instead bought a home recently in SV, $80k wouldn't even get you halfway through the year. There's a r
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by bradlys 2y ago
Is it sexism to acknowledge that we have 80%+ men in tech? Is it sexism to acknowledge fields like nursing and elementary teaching have 80%+ women? You're free to exist in the real world rather than some third wave feminism utopia.
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by bradlys 2y ago
I have more experience with this than most of the HN crowd. I've not been working for 2.5 years. Being unemployed is considered unattractive but if you spin it - it's not too bad. I spin it as, "I did startups in SV, one of t

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