I've taken close to three years off so far. I took my time off to hack the hardest problem of my entire life - finding someone to get married to. For some of yo

I've taken close to three years off so far. I took my time off to hack the hardest problem of my entire life - finding someone to get married to. For some of you, this was trivial and you met your spouse in college, arranged marriage, or whatever. Unfortunately, I've had the most difficult time of any neurotypical person I've ever met due to my physical shortcomings. I've traveled the world, lived in NYC extensively, and spent enough hours in the gym where that $10,000/month membership at Continuum sounded reasonable. I am trying my best to down a protein bar as I write this post even though it tastes like minty dirt. I don't pay $10k - my current gym membership is only $420/month. Although, I did have 3 gym memberships at one point and did utilize each fully. Was/Is it worth it? I don't know. I'm still single but I know that I would 100% still be single if I stayed working back in SV. It's hard to even find a job outside of SV due to my heavily startup focused resume. (Very much a 0 to 1 resume) I've mostly accepted that I will just have to focus on career when I get back to SV. I have plenty of money still but I've learned my body has a limit of two hours of hard exercise everyday. Due to that, I am considering going back to work but I spent a month in SV this year and it was absolutely miserable on the dating front. It was completely pointless. So, if I move back, I will have to be traveling very long distances a lot to meet any women. As far as resume/career/etc impact. I have a very focused startup background. It has had little impact. In SV, it's extremely typical for people to take sabbaticals and I think due to the down market in tech - it's very common right now. I don't tell people I was wife searching though cause that sounds absolutely crazy. If I wanted a job, I'd have it. I'm in team match with some big companies right now but due to my focus on only wanting to join NYC - they can't find me a spot. If I was open to SV, I'd be matched very quickly.