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by bradlys 2y ago
As far as I know, you're also not spending $3m+ on a home. Even at $700k/yr income, I still need another income to afford a decent bay area home unless I want to live on the absolute razors edge. It also means that if I lose my wo
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Two weeks is a really long time. You should’ve cut that down to 3 days. You’re right about there being a lot of women on these platforms who just use it as a validation and emotional need tool. It’s probably most of the interactions men hav
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This kind of advice only works if you’re not interested in a woman who works. You’re not going to be getting an ambitious woman from abroad and bringing her back to the US. Most of those women would already be in the US if they were interes
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I’ve experimented with both. Neither really values where you come from and what you’ve accomplished. What they care about is what you’re going to do for them. In my case, I just happen to care about what they’ll do back because I’m not inte
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I think we’re going through a cultural shift. Looks is becoming the most important thing across the board. Most people won’t meet your partner but they’ll see them on social media. You need someone you feel proud about and secure of. On top
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Breeze arguably is even more superficial than other apps. You don’t get the chance to talk or anything. You have to show up and make it work. For most women, you’re only going to do that with a guy you’re 100% physically attracted to from t
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I’m not interested in charity or exploitation.
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Let’s say that you meet a few hundred average women in real life and none express physical attraction to you. I’d say you’re still ugly. Meeting single women in real life through acquaintances is pretty uncommon. Most of the women I meet th
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by bradlys 2y ago
Ugly by most standards is simply not being desired by anyone. You don't have to be an acid victim like two-face to be ugly. I'd say someone is definitely ugly if you swipe on a few hundred average looking people and get zero match
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> More than 50% of men just never receive a like, and never means maybe 2 or 3 likes in the lifespan of several weeks As someone in that more than 50%, it’s very annoying to constantly get told to get on the apps to meet women. I’m surro
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by bradlys 2y ago
Prices in 2010 were certainly far more achievable than they are now. I was in college and had made a lot of career plans based on typical incomes an engineer could achieve and what a decent home cost in several cities at the time. It was fe
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Yeah. I think you'll find my story is going to be more and more common in the next few years. Currently, cosmetic surgery for men is heavily scrutinized but I think in the next few years it will become more like Korea. Hair transplants
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It wouldn't make any sense for me. I'm looking for a professional working woman and not a housewife.
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It's all very minor stuff. I've had surgery before and it was a very minor improvement. In most aspects, I look like a "healthy" adult male. The problem is that my facial attractiveness is subpar and most women I run int
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That’s a very different kind of matchmaker. Those aren’t usually marriages of love to begin with.
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I’ve done all that. It’s insufficient. I’m getting surgery in LA next month to help push it forward more. My surgeon said I’m one of his oldest clients for what I’m getting done. Most people at my age aren’t getting surgeries like this beca
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Yeah, I looked into it. Part of the deal with professional matchmakers is that they're very selective with their male clients. One said they wouldn't take on a client if they didn't believe they had over 80% chance of matchin
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I’m just gonna let you know that most Americans actually hate this. Most women don’t like men sitting in the wait and hoping the woman will catch feelings back. They want someone who is forward with their intentions from the get go. It’s a
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Here in NYC, I will say that trend is reversing at least on the ground. Many women I've talked to in real life are much more open to it now and realize that what many women had said over the last decade was a big mistake. It was a pe
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Statistics matter in these. If there is even a slight gender imbalance in the singles - it creates a very challenging environment. I’ve investigated groups for hiking and cycling - here in nyc I can say they don’t exist in good numbers (esp
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by bradlys 2y ago
As someone who is entering the age where I should be spending as little time as possible in my life alone (presumably because I’d be married with kids) I’m looking at a very lonely life in the traditional sense. I’m single with no indicator
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BMW 135is convertible. It has a recognizable license plate and is located in Silicon Valley. I’ve considered other cars but it’s hard to find anything else that hits every mark that I want. I considered a boxster spyder but I didn’t like th
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90%+ of the effort is just weighing everything and writing it down. If you make a lot of custom dishes that's fine - just save the recipe and measure out the ingredients consistently. Weigh out your portions and it's not a big dea
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How did you manage to buy a house on your own while making just salary? Usually salary at YC startups doesn’t get past $250k and that’s not enough to afford anything in the bay.
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Senior and staff. I don’t think it’s an issue with level. They’re just really picky right now cause it’s an employers market for the last three years.
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This is something I considered but I have a real knack for getting on the most toxic teams and I already live in NYC. I don't want to move back to SFBA until I'm married. It's a pretty terrible place to be a single straight m
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If you removed the top country responding to that survey, would Canada still be the highest?
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Couple hundred jobs last year. Got a few onsites but everyone was extremely picky. My performance during interviews wasn't too bad. I got the feeling multiple times that it didn't matter how well I performed - there was something
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> Would you be eager to relocate for a job this year? Where and why? I'm in the process of trying to land a job in NYC, coming from SF. I've been in team match with Meta for several months. They have next to zero openings in NY
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> With enough preparation That's quite the qualifier. I could not regularly pass these interviews when I had done 200+ LC problems. It's only when I got to 1000+ LC problems and had done hundreds of technical interviews that I

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