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by afarrell 5y ago
> Because someone was called some names and meant to feel bad about themselves. First: If you are in a leadership position, you have a duty of care to the way you practice leadership. And yes, a lot leadership consists of the language yo
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> Nobody wants to touch this story with a comment in 3 hours? I wonder why. Because wise people have humility about their ability to communicate clearly with strangers about trauma-related topics.
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> can all be boiled down to word choice I don't think that, but I lack the communication skill to be sufficiently clear to avoid being misunderstood in this medium on this topic.
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> I don't know if society as a whole is there yet, but I think it's basically rude to expect you can just interrupt someone at any point and demand their direct attention to have a synchronous voice conversation with you. This
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A bunch of folks are concerned about their ability to build healthy companies under conditions of such hostility from the legal system. ... so same problem, different layer of abstraction. Doesn't change the fact that running a company
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They also lack the ability to signal listening.
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This is very true. A CEO of a startup is used to operating under Dunbar's number. For him to not actually not know everyone is hard to admit.
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Also, there isn't that much in the way of scientific grounding. Mechanical engineering has physics as a foundation. Chemical engineering has chemistry as a foundation. What is the scientific foundation of software engineering? I suspec
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> What if the company you're interested in doesn't present at meetups? Options: A. Reach out to one of their recruiters on linkedin B. Ask someone you already know (classmate, TA, professor, etc) if they know anybody at the com
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The three steps to networking: 1. Find conversations with people who are working on problems aligned with your interests. Be present. Listen and pay attention. 2. Ask questions which demonstrate your genuine curiosity about their problems a
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> Can you link some resources or write tips on this one! https://www.kalzumeus.com/2011/10/28/dont-call-yourself-a-pr...
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> What alternatives do you have? Talking to people in-person at meetups, being curious about what they are working on, listening attentively and following up. > Do you think that you consider sending a CV to be unproductive exactly be
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> Meanwhile you get distracted by random people on the internet instead of focusing on your actual customers or potential customers. This is super fair and requires some courage to stick to.
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So you are not interested in the perspective of the following categories: - People who would make the switch if the messaging about the product was improved - People who would make the switch if the product had less friction ? Your loss.
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Sure, but what I’m in the audience you say that you intend to target, but I can see that I wouldn’t use the product? That means you have a problem that you’d want to know about early. A. You aren’t filling a need I have. B. You aren’t sho
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Right. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/McNamara_fallacy
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> The question of "this is important" is tricky This question is not tricky. It is weighty and scary. If it was tricky, there would be a puzzle you could solve to answer it. Instead as you say it must first involve listening be
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There seems to be an AI safety problem here: The youtube algorithm is optimizing for engagement at the cost of some other less-quantifiable human value like social trust. https://youtu.be/L5pUA3LsEaw
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If I recall correctly, the internet was born from a DARPA project to enable resilient communications that would ensure a nuclear missile launch order would always get through. If so, then it is indeed contrary to the spirit of the internet
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Or your background level of life stress increases and you are 2% more likely to escape from it with vodka and then fall into a spiral of alcoholism.
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One cause of misapplying tactical patterns is learning. When people start learning something, they do it badly and in inappropriate contexts. The solutions to this are: A. Don't learn things. B. Dedicate some amount of time to learn so
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by afarrell 5y ago
> instead of trying to "processify" A cause of this problem is when people are worried about what happens when they say "erm, I don't know how to do this cleanly" and so they want the "how" to be define
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The boss would prefer you ask such questions of your coach, therapist, or friends — they are not in a good place to give you the answer.
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Any tips on to persuade a stakeholder , senior leader, or your team lead that their area of focus is not a core part of the business without them feeling defensive about their status within the company? Any tips of how to do DDD when every
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Because 1. People making choices which feel unpleasant often consider themselves to be forced. Those people can be willing to use violence to avoid those choices. 2. I’m responding to someone who talked about forcing behavior change.
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Right. By taking an approach which is: 1. Persuasion-based 2. Adapted to local cultures -- Such as the startup/industrial culture of California and much of the US. We can significantly reduce the environmental impact without sparking l
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First, thanks for raising that. Good-faith discussion matters. The strongest interpretation I was able to come up with is "Meat has enough environmental impact that it is worth public interventions to raise the prices of meat in enough
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It would be a very strange way to describe encouraging people to choose a more sustainable diet with writings like https://veganmuslims.com/dont-kill-an-animal-this-eid It is a pretty normal way to describe trying to force
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> We changed the dietary habits... No, we allowed people to change their own dietary habits and they chose to do so. > There's no reason we couldn't change them back. There is a reason: The probability that they would respon
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> We just need to The word "just" in this sense is a signal that you might easily be underestimating the difficulty or cost of something. > We just need to make meat cost prohibitive enough to force the majority of people to

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