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I quit reddit too recently, I still look at it for info but I'm not logged in/scrolling through it I find myself reaching for something when I have YouTube/chi

• jmyeet 2y ago
  The Instagram dating thing is because, in the heteronormative sense, a guy without one odd WAY more likely to be cheating. If you’re in a relationship, even if you don’t post, your significant other will likely tag you in their posts. I’ve never really understood doomscrolling on Twitter or Reddit. The only social media I find remotely useful out entertaining is actually TikTok. The comments are IME the least toxic and most entertaining. And I’ve gone down fascinating rabbit holes of things that have absolutely no relevance to my life like medical residency TikTok.
  • ge96 2y ago
    My reddit scrolling wasn't doom for my case. I was either personal topics I liked (cars, computing, software, photography, etc...) or brain rot/stupid shi that's the main reason I've left because I could be more productive than looking at an endless supply of that stuff You can mute subreddits and not see them anymore Funny you have to purge the algo on things like YouTube if you click on a thubmnail with some hot chick, boom your feed is nothing but click bait of hot women
  • kbelder 2y ago
    I 100% believe that guys with Instagram accounts are more likely to cheat than guys without them.
    • bakuninsbart 2y ago
      Agreed, but we are getting thrown in with the people who have an insta account, but say they don't so they don't get fact-checked on their relationship status.
• jordanpg 2y ago
  One healthy way to consume Reddit that I recently learned about is creating a "custom feed" (see left margin of new UI). You can just add subs that are of interest that lack the torrent of bad news and only ever visit that custom feed. It doesn't ever algorithmically add posts from subs you don't manually include, as far as I've seen.
  • boringg 2y ago
    User groups you would be interested in get hijacked by whatever the overall sentiment of Reddit is. Threads that aren't political suddenly get political for no reason. It's completely dead in there - content quality is brutally low.
    • awfulneutral 2y ago
      I just bookmark subreddits for things I'm interested in, and visit them individually. I hardly ever see any political content doing that.
      • bombcar 2y ago
        The key is to stay in smaller, dedicated subreddits and avoid anything remotely popular or generic.
      • JKCalhoun 2y ago
        r/localllama, r/bambulabs ... Politics has a way of creeping in.
      • lmm 2y ago
        Politicisation happens, though slowly. Therewasanattempt used to be funny pictures/videos and is now purely TDS. My city's sub used to have useful local content and is now about 50% national politics.
    • tacticalturtle 2y ago
      The wave of X bans was so frustrating. Particularly for sports subreddits where that’s where all of the breaking news and team announcements happen. In fact NFL teams are specifically banned from having bluesky accounts as an official media channel, and r/nfl still banned X/Twitter. sigh
• ziddoap 2y ago
  >It's unfortunate people expect you to have social media like a girl asks me if I have Instagram and I'm weird to not have one Outside of reddit/discord/hn, I haven't had any social media since roughly 2010, and I don't use reddit or discord for anything remotely "social media"-ish. While I still get the occasional look as if I'm wearing a tinfoil hat when I say "I don't have FB. No, no insta either. No... not snapchat either", I find it's a lot less common now, thankfully. When I first left social media in ~2010, it was rough. Not only dating scene wise, but I lost out on a few job opportunities (at least a few, probably more than I know) as well. Now you're just considered kind of weird/fringe, instead of being borderline insane. Moving (slowly) in the right direction, I think.
  • throwaway4220 2y ago
    I agree. In my 40s and at work most people my age do have fb instagram and TikTok but everyone’s super understanding when I say I like my privacy
  • HPsquared 2y ago
    Maybe you're just iteratively refining your friend group.
  • AznHisoka 2y ago
    I wouldn't care a whole lot if someone told me they weren't in IG, FB, Snap, Twitter, etc. However, if someone told me they never bothered with Linkedin, it would be hard for me to resist bowing at their feet.
    • ziddoap 2y ago
      Out of all the social media I don't have, that's the one that has lost me the most job opportunities for sure. I probably would have caved and signed up if I didn't end up getting a job through some old-fashioned (face-to-face) networking.
    • wholinator2 2y ago
      We were required to make linkedin profiles as part of the computer science career preparedness class. I got an internship out of that career day though so it was a win for me
• mywittyname 2y ago
  > I will miss posting stuff like "what is this car" or being part of the car talk for a sporty car I drive but idk kind of want to just live too I used to waste so much time posting about cars on Reddit. I'd open my computer at 11pm, reply a few times to a single post on Reddit, and before long, I'd see 1:45am on the clock. Not posting anything has been a massive time saver.
  • wholinator2 2y ago
    Same, except i reply on the drugs and harm reduction subreddit trying to help kids make decisions that dont destroy their lives. It's really difficult to leave because i remember when i needed those people and sometimes it feels like all the adults left the room and I'm the only one left. Who's gonna help these kids? Seems futile to attempt to stem the tide of gen alpha tiktok brainrot idiocy but sometimes people actually listen to me and their life improves. I've given myself a time that I'll work down to 15 minutes a day to try to consolidate that extra time. Recently I've been using some of my addiction advice on myself to quit reddit
• niceice 2y ago
  I checked reddit recently for the first time in a while, and I was shocked by how radicalized its become. An echo chamber of hateful people and perhaps GPTs that are agitating the big subreddits. The contrast is stark with all the "no place for hate" in the rules and endless banning of microaggressions. I saw dozens of death threats. Even an explicit death threat thread with over 40,000 upvotes before reddit stepped in and shut the whole subreddit down. It reminded me of Ghostbusters 2 with all the aggressively angry people and the ooze pouring out of the sewers, all building upon itself.
  • gosub100 2y ago
    Agreed. There is exactly one way to think and believe on Reddit. The "outrage" might be tolerable or even informative in some cases if it was equally distributed. It's disheartening when the one-track politics infects every square inch. It's a good point about bots because 1) they can be sold or rented to advertisers, 2) they are more valuable with higher karma, and 3) the easiest way to get a bot to harvest karma is by agreeing with the hive. So they're amplifying "the message" without even intending to.
  • input_sh 2y ago
    That particular subreddit isn't shut down, it was temporarily suspended as the moderators simply got overwhelmed. There's no indication of bad faith from either the mod team nor the reddit admins, the floodgate was just too much for them to handle. It pretty much says so in the ban message, admins are gonna help them take back control and it will be up within a couple of days.
    • niceice 2y ago
      To be even more precise, here's the message from the source; > This community has been banned > This subreddit has been temporarily banned due to a prevalence of violent content. Inciting and glorifying violence or doxing are against Reddit’s platform-wide Rules. It will reopen in 72 hours, during which Reddit will support moderators and provide resources to keep Reddit a healthy place for discussion and debate.
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• blackeyeblitzar 2y ago
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  • tejohnso 2y ago
    I discovered the same recently and have abandoned it. It's unfortunate because the potential is there for a real city wide or nation wide group discussion platform. But who moderates the moderators?
    • Klonoar 2y ago
      I don’t have too much issue with Reddits politics at the moment, but I do think it’s odd that such a powerful platform in society is managed by volunteer (mostly) anonymous moderators. I will be explicit in that I am not condoning doxxing Reddit mods. I just don’t think we’d be fine with this in normal day to day life.
      • warkdarrior 2y ago
        Do you know the editors at your local TV stations? The local radio stations? The people who curate the datasets that train the YouTube recommendation model?
        • lmm 2y ago
          > Do you know the editors at your local TV stations? The local radio stations? Not personally, but their names are public, and if they were taking backhanders there would be a scandal. Remember the payola lawsuits?
          • throwaway2037 2y ago
            Slightly off-topic: Do you know if Spotify (and other music streaming services) are allowed to accept payment to play/recommend songs for users? I am unsure if payola rules in the United States are strictly for radio stations.
• dbtc 2y ago
  My suggestion: music! Give the eyes a break.
  • ge96 2y ago
    I have music/noise on all the time, rarely in silence. I play the same playlist/song over and over when focusing. Unfortunately working in an open office it sucks people having conversions (to each other or to computer)
    • JKCalhoun 2y ago
      If I don't have music playing, a song will play in my head. Over and over.... I'm always growing my "playlist" though. One room of the house is where I auditioning new music. Another room plays my entire music catalog on shuffle.
      • ge96 2y ago
        I feel that, can't play something new if trying to focus, but if doing chores/physical task can do new music passively in the background
    • otteromkram 2y ago
      Man, I hope you wear headphones. Fun fact: No one is impressed by your "sports" car, but I'll bet 100% don't want hear it and wish the worst upon you. I know some places are testing sound ticketing, which I cannot wait to see implemented everywhere. https://www.autoweek.com/news/technology/a39906304/california-targets-loud-exhaust-with-sound-activated-camera-enforcement/ https://www.autoweek.com/news/technology/a39906304/californi... I hope you get over your noise addiction sooner than later. Or, go broke in the process.
      • williamdclt 2y ago
        They're clearly not talking about their car, let's chill out. They're just saying they're always listening to their own music or (white?) noise, because their open office is noisy from conversations.
• concordDance 2y ago
  One unfortunate aspect of this phenomena is that as reddit "evaporatively cools" (ala https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/ZQG9cwKbct2LtmL3p/evaporative-cooling-of-group-beliefs https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/ZQG9cwKbct2LtmL3p/evaporativ... ) as the more level headed people leave reddit gets even more radical. It's even possible the places that people then move to (such as HN) also get more radical if the leavers have higher levels of radicalism than the place they join.
• natnat 2y ago
  > It's unfortunate people expect you to have social media like a girl asks me if I have Instagram and I'm weird to not have one, I get it they can scope you out too for safety but when I tried using that stuff I felt this pressure to post about something Probably worth Googling something like [men who don't have social media] to think what women think about this, it's more positive than you might think :)
• carlosjobim 2y ago
  > It's unfortunate people expect you to have social media like a girl asks me if I have Instagram and I'm weird to not have one, I get it they can scope you out too for safety but when I tried using that stuff I felt this pressure to post about something It's not about scoping you out. Asking for your Instagram is like what asking for your number was in the past. It's flirting, it's that they want to get in touch again, set up a date. If you say "I don't have Instagram", the girl will assume that you don't like her, not that you don't have Instagram. So just make an empty Instagram (with a normal profile photo) for connecting with people. And say so when sharing it with a girl. If it's somebody who wants to "scope you out", you're already dealing with a person who you don't want to deal with.
  • oneeyedpigeon 2y ago
    > If you say "I don't have Instagram", the girl will assume that you don't like her, not that you don't have Instagram. > So just make an empty Instagram Why not, instead, say "I don't have Instagram, here's my [ bluesky handle / phone number / email address ]"?
    • carlosjobim 2y ago
      > bluesky handle Just tell her you are an Arch Linux admin and skip the flirting. > phone number Yes, in regions where people use phone numbers / WhatsApp numbers in that way. > email address Just tell her you wanna sell her a time share and skip the flirting.
  • andyjohnson0 2y ago
    > Asking for your Instagram is like what asking for your number was in the past. It's flirting, it's that they want to get in touch again, set up a date. Personal website is the way to go. Preferably a static site built with a home-made templating engine written in Ruby and running on a non-mainstream budget cloud provider. The chicks dig it man. Even a hint of Wordpress is social death. /s
• nonethewiser 2y ago
  > It's unfortunate people expect you to have social media like a girl asks me if I have Instagram and I'm weird to not have one, I get it they can scope you out too for safety but when I tried using that stuff I felt this pressure to post about something I actually feel really good when people expect me to be on social media and I tell them Im not. Kind of similar to the feeling when I say that I quit cigarettes. Im still surprised by it and talking about it makes me feel very blessed to be free of it.