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Regarding the Happy Hours: In 2019, my team would occasionally need to work long hours or would deliver something awesome. I would reward them with HH and dinn

Regarding the Happy Hours: In 2019, my team would occasionally need to work long hours or would deliver something awesome. I would reward them with HH and dinner/late meal. It gave me a chance to say "thanks" and for us to bond over the challenge we overcame. I can't do that anymore! I've don't virtual HH, but it isn't the same! I would REALLY like a virtual solution to "bond with your team" and "say thanks in a meaningful way" - cost be damned. As a side note, politics suck. I really like WFH. Working long hours is bad - bonding is good.

nomoreplease 5y ago
> I would reward them with HH and dinner/late meal. Maybe your team would appreciate a $200 gift card instead of HH + dinner/late meal, especially when some people don't drink or prefer healthy meals instead of steakhouses.
- JohnWhigham 5y ago
  Classic HN missing the point of social interaction and the benefits it provides.
  - cujo 5y ago
    Classic comment missing the point that not everyone needs or wants the social interaction with their work mates.
    - kristjansson 5y ago
      Not everyone of course, and one should be attentive to and accommodating of teammates that feel that way. But surely “let’s knock off at three today and go down the pub, thanks for all the hard work” is a positive for most people?
      - bluefirebrand 5y ago
        "Thanks for all the hard work, let's knock off at three today" Is a positive. "Let's go down to the pub" is still capitalizing on my time. It's still work, just the location has changed. And in the past it has often started at 3 and then kept going and going until way later than if I'd just worked out my day. There is always some idealism around it like "oh if you don't drink you don't have to, just come hang out for a bit" or "you don't have to stay late you can leave early" but in practice people aren't actually that understanding. You try to head home and it's all "you're not having a good time?" Or "you're not a team player" No thanks. I'll pass on all of that from now on.
        ecpottinger 5y ago
        Exactly my experience.
        asdff 5y ago
        I can't believe that's real life for some people. I would never drink with someone who has "team player" in their dictionary unironically. That being said, the vast majority of my coworkers, all of them actually, are not robots like that. If they were, I would find a new job fast. If you are in a place like this currently, there are greener pastures my friend. Seek them out. Find people who don't care that you go home to beat traffic instead of hitting up the bar. They exist.
      - Angostura 5y ago
        Try Let’s knock off at three today. I'm going down the pub - anyone care to join me? I'm buying."
        ivarv 5y ago
        An argument could be made that non-pub goers are still excluded from some kind of reward or compensation. If the buyer was spending their own personal money that might be one thing, but more often than not the funds come out of company expenses.
    - JohnWhigham 5y ago
      Writing software in most companies is a team endeavor. If you can't handle interacting with others on a daily basis, find another industry. Better yet, start your own company.
      - bluefirebrand 5y ago
        There is a huge difference between working on a team and the team essentially acting as a replacement for your social life. I love working on a team. I don't want to spend my free time with them. That's what my friends are for. Sometimes people from the team become friends that I spend time with outside of work, but that's on my terms not my employers. It really seems like many people do not have any kind of healthy boundary with their employer.
        Ronson 5y ago
        I get away with being "The grumpy Scotsman", it's got the point that I don't even get invited which took some work but wouldn't have it any other way. I am still held in high regard at work and part of the furniture now. I just don't do that forced shit. It's not my personality.
    - legerdemain 5y ago
      THIS, 100% this. I don't want to be "social" with you, I don't want to "bond" with you, and I don't care about you as a human being. You are 100% just a queue of work tasks and a source of pay checks. The less I see, hear, or know about the other people on my team, the happier I am and the better off they are. WFH forever, don't mess with a good thing.
      - symlinkk 5y ago
        Completely sociopathic
      - shannongreen 5y ago
        FWIW, I would hate working with someone like this. You don't have to be super active, socially, but treating the other people (and they _are_ people) on your team as just drones is a) not conducive to good collaboration and b) pretty damn rude.
        IggleSniggle 5y ago
        It doesn’t have to be rude. Seeing it as rude is an imposition on those of us who don’t see it as rude. I’m pretty antisocial, personally, and love it when my workmates get to the point and focus on the actual “drone”-tasks. Why? Because that is why I do software. I don’t do software because I love people. I don’t do software because I love the paycheck. I do software because I love software and every second away from focusing on the concerns of producing quality software just seems like a genuine waste of time. Even here on HN, it’s mostly an opportunity to safely experiment with “politics” in a way that isn’t totally exhausting. I get that everyone is not like me, and I’m okay with that. I don’t expect everyone to have my preferences. I’d personally prefer to be treated as a respected “drone” (now THAT seems rude) and I don’t really want to spend time on banter, unless it’s being used as a metaphor that can improve our collective output. This is “fun.” This is why I “work” (it’s not work to me). Discussing requirements and problem solving solutions is great; it’s fun. Happy hour is “work” to me. Please don’t act like I’m rude just because I don’t share your preferences.
        5y ago
    - bpodgursky 5y ago
      It's fine that some teams of workers don't socialize, and they aren't expected to socialize. It's fine that some teams of workers socialize, and are expected to socialize. It's fine for teams to select for people who will socially mesh with the office culture. Nobody here is wrong; just work at a company where the culture fits what you want. Not everybody wants or needs the same thing.
    - bluedino 5y ago
      Closer team’s performance is probably higher than teams that don’t socialize together
      - valand 5y ago
        The keyword here is "probably"
  - lotsofpulp 5y ago
    Then do it during work hours, and everyone wins.
    - tannedNerd 5y ago
      Seriously this is the best solution. Instead of after work, do a (virtual or not) HH at 3 on Friday. People don’t have to donate free time and will appreciate it much more.
      - bluefirebrand 5y ago
        I'd still bet that many people would rather just go home early on a Friday. I know I would.
        valand 5y ago
        But at least HH on time allocated from work does not demand more time from the participants, which is a win.
        fastasucan 5y ago
        Until monday comes and everyone has to take up the slack from friday.
    - shard 5y ago
      My previous company had done mid-week outings (definitely not Fridays, people want to go home), where everyone in the team kicks off at 3PM, go see a movie together (the team splitting up based on what movie they wanted to see), then have a nice dinner, with games and prizes at the end at around 7PM. I won a Nintendo Switch one time. It wasn't a bad way to spend an afternoon.
  - CoastalCoder 5y ago
    I think the problem with something like (specifically) Happy Hour is that it's really welcome by some employees, and really hated by others. Imagine being one of the few Mormons, observant Muslims, or recovering alcoholics at a company that "rewards" your team with Happy Hours. Or being someone who's been sexually harassed or assaulted at previous events where coworkers drank too much. I'm not suggesting that it's easy (or even possible) to plan a social event that's guaranteed to be welcomed by every member of a team. But I think events that focus or rely on alcohol as the means of team bonding can be a bad idea depending on the team.
    - lamontcg 5y ago
      Imagine just being someone who is an introvert and feels exhausted after hanging out with people 8 hours a day in an office, who really can't put up with being around other people for 12+ hours a day... I'm much better with a long lunch + socialize and then piss off early from work as a reward.
    - asdff 5y ago
      What you describe, company sponsored fun times, sound a little toxic. But just buddies hanging out is a valuable option for people who need a social outlet. A lot of times, after undergrad and you move to a new city, it becomes exceedingly difficult to meet other people and make friends. You don't have to be friends with your coworkers, but if you are, even shitty jobs can feel a lot more bearable in my experience. In the beforetimes we had a standing happyhour. Some coworkers never showed up and that was fine. Some showed up but only drank water and that was also fine. If you work somewhere that alienates you instead of not caring at all about the highschool clicky bullshit, I'd run for the hills.
  - topkai22 5y ago
    Following up late nights working by expecting people to attend an after-work event is not a benefit to the worker. As others have said, having a big team lunch and then sending them home is a benefit.
  - acituan 5y ago
    ROI for workplace schmoozing is not the same, let alone positive, for all job ladders and levels.
  - bigbillheck 5y ago
    When I was single and in my 20s / early 30s I was a big fan of the happy hour / dinner option, but I'm old now and have a partner and a dog and even when I like my co-workers I'd rather just go home and be with them.
  - hparadiz 5y ago
    Stop assuming people like to drink.
    - smabie 5y ago
      I mean, I think most people do like to drink? Am I wrong? I know I like to drink.
      - valand 5y ago
        Most people around you might. There are people who don't like to drink and there are people who are not allowed to drink due to their believe/health problem. And they are not minority-minority in some places
      - ecpottinger 5y ago
        YES! You are thinking the whole world is the same as your location.
        hparadiz 5y ago
        It's not even that. American work drinking culture is just not up to par. You're expected to pound coffee all day then go and drink on an empty stomach at 5 before you've eaten dinner. It's just not realistic. Heaven forbid my first meal of the day is lunch and not breakfast. People who have "normal" eating habits just can't understand.
    - novok 5y ago
      As someone who never has drunk, it's fine. You just drink fizzy water, diet coke and free food or whatever and nobody gives a shit. It's a work happy hour, nobody should be getting drunk and nobody notices.
      - heavyset_go 5y ago
        It excludes people who have very good reasons to not be around alcohol, and not people who just don't like it.
  - rewgs 5y ago
    I have 30+ food allergies that developed as an adult (which includes alcohol). Yes, it's ridiculous. I literally cannot eat food that isn't prepared by me from a hilariously small and ever-shrinking list of approved ingredients. I also can't prepare food more than a day in advance due to a histamine intolerance (food grows in histamine count as it sits in the fridge), so roughly 50% of my free time is spent cooking, else I starve. I find these kinds of social outings shitty because I'm invariably left out, asked why I'm left out, and now we're talking about my health issues. Politely declining is never met as well as you'd like it to be (people always insist), so either I forcefully decline so as to avoid option #2 (and people think I'm an asshole); or I take option #2 and talk about it, and am now sad because it sucks and will never stop sucking and I don't really like bringing it up. Then, the following script: everyone gives the minimum pity, commensurate with social niceties. At least two people tell me about their experiences with food intolerances (not even remotely the same thing) and how they got over it (which is not possible with adult-developed food allergies), or they suggest that it's leaky-gut (not scientifically-proven to exist; god knows I've looked into it regardless), or suggest acupuncture, or some other pseudoscience bullshit. Now I get to either choose to tumble head-first into yet another unpaid lecture on the nuances of food allergies, and perhaps inform them as to why what they're suggesting isn't scientifically sound (which is bound to offend, no matter how nicely I say it, because pseudoscience and pop-science is believed with near-religious fervor; the best I'm gonna get is "agree to disagree," so it's not worth it). Or -- my preferred choice nowadays -- I nod and smile and thank them for their novel, sage advice, and tell them I'll be sure to contact the homeopath they suggested first thing tomorrow, as I'm sure that, finally, now, thanks to their intervention, my nightmare is about to come to an end. At this point, an uncomfortable amount of people are listening to me. I mumble something about "and..uh...yeah." Someone stumbles to change the subject, the wheels of conversation spin in the mud for a while before finally getting back to normal -- and everyone subtly ignores me for the rest of the night, lest I bring down the mood or suck the air out of the room again. I've been through this song and dance so many times, I'm completely over it and now just avoid it altogether. Which sucks, because now you're the social pariah that never wants to hang out (because virtually all social gatherings revolve around food). I want nothing more than to enjoy good food and drink with my friends and peers and to be happy and merry and well-fed and buzzed. That used to be my element. It's a touchy subject, because prior to age 30, I was the biggest "foodie" and craft beer freak you've ever met. Finding a new restaurant or trying something I'd never eaten before was literally my favorite activity, period. I was legendary for my weight-to-ability-to-pound-food ratio (I've always been a stick). Now, it's rice and chicken (no spices!) from here to the grave. Washed down with water, and nothing but. Coffee in the morning is fine -- thankfully, I'm not yet allergic to that (no OJ, though). I hate that my best option is "lie and smile" -- saying "I'm not hungry" (when I'm actually starving, made worse by watching everyone else eat and enjoy the camaraderie that only a shared meal can bring, slowly losing blood sugar and trying in vain to combat the moodiness that always accompanies it); or "I need to wake up early" (as an excuse for no drinks; otherwise some asshole pressures you to drink anyway or someone across the table gives you a knowing nod, thinking they've found another fellow AA attendee, which now you'll be talking about later). And because it smells pretty bad socially to ask for that Happy Hour "compensation" be paid in another way ("hey, mind giving me a check for the money you would've spent on my meal and drinks?" will obviously never fly), I'm now just getting literally paid less than everyone else, and getting left out, and being labelled a social pariah no matter which of the above paths I take. It sucks. Life and people are infinitely complex and varied, and those of us reluctantly pushed outside of the mainstream normal are constantly fighting to simply be understood, let alone to not have the only choices thrust upon us be ridiculed.
  - ulfw 5y ago
    It's a job, not a social club
- codyb 5y ago
  Maybe just offer the option to accomodate people and how they feel at whatever moment you in time you’d like to reward them during.
time0ut 5y ago
The kind of happy hour you are describing is great and one of the things I miss about the office. Chilling with your tight knit team after a long day or a big release is great. I assume the GP is talking about the other sort of happy hour where it is a bigger crowd. I can’t stand those.
- throwawayboise 5y ago
  I've worked with teams that worked well together and got stuff done, at work. But never wanted to hang out after work with anyone. We all had different lives. Some single, some married, some with kids, some not, etc. At the end of the day everyone just wants to go home to his or her private life.
- shard 5y ago
  I prefer the larger team outings, as there are usually more people that I enjoy hanging out with than the small 4-7 people team that I work with. Also, larger team outings usually means more things to do because of the larger budget, so it could be a trip to a tourist attraction or activity camp, as opposed to just a meal when it is the smaller team.
zelphirkalt 5y ago
It can be great to sometimes (!) put in a little more time to reach a goal, deliver something the team wanted to deliver for a long time or improve upon some annoyances in status quo. Working extra hours is not to be expected and should be valued. A team probably works better when extra effort is valued. I think it is great, that you are trying to thank your employees / coworkers.
- lotsofpulp 5y ago
  You can thank employees and coworkers without using their non work time. Do it at lunch.
  - zelphirkalt 5y ago
    True, you got a point, but consider: Saying a few words at lunch time can become a kind of automatism quickly. Perhaps inviting people to social time going out to eat somewhere will leave a more lasting memory. It might not be for everyone. For example people having children and all that. But it does give people a chance to be in a setting outside of work, but with people from the job, which might give a chance to bond through other topics. I think there might not be the perfect reward/thank you for everyone.
    - bluefirebrand 5y ago
      > I think there might not be the perfect reward/thank you for everyone There is actually. It's called big stacks of money. Oddly, companies don't seem to want to reward people with it, the one universal thing that basically everyone could appreciate and is the entire reason anyone works anywhere in the first place. Crazy. It's almost like playing relatively small amounts for a big expensive catered meal saves the company way more money than rewarding people with meaningful sums of money would.
      - mLuby 5y ago
        I value a $50 gift or experience with my team far more than an extra $50 electronically added to my account. Presentation matters.
SteveNuts 5y ago
Take the money you would have spent on this and give it to your team directly.
- OJFord 5y ago
  Surely that'd be an insultingly small amount to receive as cash? (Maybe that was your point? 'And then realise it doesn't show that much gratitude after all'?)
- UnpossibleJim 5y ago
  I worked in the hardware lab for a while, and we had the incredulity to ask why they didn't do just this. Turns out, our director told us "it set a bad precedent, and if they did this with us other teams might be encourage to do this as well." As you might have guessed, the hardware lab was not the most social and 1/2 of us didn't drink, so bars were out.
dao- 5y ago
> I can't do that anymore! Good. You'll have to think harder to find ways not to overwork your team in the first place. This attitude towards workers rubs me the wrong way, but your side note saved you in my eyes: > Working long hours is bad Yes! Overworking people and then saying "thanks" by exploiting the fact ("using the chance", as you put it) that you locked them into the office isn't exactly fair. If this is what people mean by happy hour, that's absurd. If they chose to stay for social stuff after a normal day of work, that's of course another thing.
reidjs 5y ago
If you all still live in the same area would it be impossible to organize a little offsite at a bar or restaurant?
bluefirebrand 5y ago
Spending more time at work (yes, going to a happy hour with my coworkers is still "at work") is not a reward for hard work. More money or time off is. I work hard to have my own life, outside of work. I don't work hard to be rewarded with a single expensive meal with booze paid for. I don't even drink anyways.
conductr 5y ago
> It gave me a chance to say "thanks" "Me" is the key word > and for us to bond over the challenge we overcame. That occurred already. It happened through the process of overcoming the challenge. I get the intent, but your people probably just want to rest and get some of their time back. If you must celebrate, do it during hours. I typically did offsite lunch time activities pre-COVID. Now it's more gift driven and individual. I made up award systems like the high school "most likely to ...". If someone renovated their masterbath, give them something that is specific to that as a thanks. Find out if they prefer public or 1:1 gratitude
- Aeolun 5y ago
  I don’t know. For me, I’m very much looking forward to having dinner and a party with my co-workers again. I don’t want that every week, but the once every 3 months’ish that we had going was pretty nice.
  - conductr 5y ago
    That’s a bit different than when the leader wants to celebrate your long hours by making you work more hours in a social capacity. It’s very much different strokes for different folks. Just like everyone’s personal lives differ so does their appetite for coworker extracurricular activities. But I agree that the every 3 months or so is a fine cadence. But, 1) schedule it at the beginning of the quarter 2) be ready to reschedule it if it coincides with a sprint of long hours. In a perfect world, your team would tell you if they were too burned out for it or not, in a judgement free way. But that doesn’t happen due to fear of judgment or not wanting to rock the boat (say nay when others want yay) or multitude of other reasons. Point is, if you know anyone on the team has significant others, kids, pets, or any life outside work you as a leader shouldn’t ask them to work more in the name of celebration.
Taylor_OD 5y ago
Yup. Ever after 5pm work thing I've been "rewarded" with is still work. Even if it's more fun than working at my desk its still work. I'm not able to do with that time what I want. It's only a reward if it is replacing work. And really it's only a reward if the amount of time that it is replacing is taken out of the sprint planning. At the end of the day if you take a weeknight from me I'm going to be annoyed at best and upset at worst. If you take a work day from me, or part of one, but still expect me to get a full days or work done we will both be in a bad position. I get the intention here. I used to be a people manager and I planned lots of things for after work. But I stopped when I realized how difficult it actually made things for many people and people with kids.
- Jagerbizzle 5y ago
  I'm trying to get some budget right now to do a in-person social event for my team now that almost everyone is fully vaccinated, and I've been extremely explicit about scheduling it during regular business hours (1pm-3pm for example), to ensure there's no competition between this event and what people actually want to do with their evenings/spare time.
- fastasucan 5y ago
  This resonates with me as well. And it was hard/impossible to get my last employer to understand it. I dont care if you treat us at a great restaurant, its still work, because if I had a choice I'd rather do something else.
watwut 5y ago
These things are highly individual. Usually, after crunches and pressures, I tended to be angry at disorganization that caused it and also wanted to go home due to pile of stuff that accumulated there. I get that there were people who appreciated these, but not everyone does. It is one more added duty after you have already done a lot.
- bluefirebrand 5y ago
  Imo, It's people who have no other life or responsibility outside of work that love work organized and paid for events. And they seem incapable of understanding that other people have better things to do than get wasted at a bar with their coworkers on a weeknight, even if the company is paying for it.
  - shard 5y ago
    It depends on the kind of work-organized events. My previous company organized free concerts, from pop to classical to jazz, as well as family events such as Theme Park Day. Aside from company-wide events, there are the large team events (~50 people) that included day hikes, museums, activity camps, and plays. I've enjoyed many of these despite having responsibilities outside of work.
  - patmorgan23 5y ago
    It's a balancing act. It's good for people to have some bounding time with the people they work with in a non work environment. It builds empathy across individuals, teams, and departments which makes resolving conflicts easier. Work is a big part of your life and there's nothing wrong with building strong long lasting relationships with your co-workers. On the flip side, work is a big part of your life and it shouldn't be 100% of you life. It's good to have relationships and commitments outside of work. Finding this balance is hard and different for everyone.
halgir 5y ago
It sounds like you're the manager in this case, and that your intentions are genuine. But are you entirely sure that your team feels the same? I've done similar, but in local restaurants during working hours. It's unfair to implicitly demand your team to donate free time, regardless how much you believe they should enjoy and appreciate it. That aside, virtual options have come pretty close for us. Give everyone a budget to arrange their own food and either organize activities/games that your team will enjoy or just hang out.
dcolkitt 5y ago
What about the occasional company ski trip?
agent008t 5y ago
How about reward them with a cash bonus?
bcrosby95 5y ago
At my workplace, long hours are usually compensated with a bonus and commensurately shorter hours for a period of time.
- dylan604 5y ago
  yeah, after pulling long hours to meet ridiculous deadlines, the last thing i want is to be required to spend even more time with coworkers instead of just been given time off.
  - late2part 5y ago
    @dylan604 - I'm curious; do you have any company stock?
    - dylan604 5y ago
      nope. i've never worked for a company that gave away stock. i also never wear the swag t-shirts/hoodies that companies give out to employees (or worse sell). why?
      - late2part 5y ago
        Thank you for answering. I ask because I have this theory that there is a correlation between employees who don't mind working more to make stock to go up if they have stock. It's never a simple analysis. I don't mind working more for a deadline if I recognize a tangible increase in revenue or cost savings, as I benefit from the stock. "Gave away" is an interesting term. In our company, stock is 10-40% of our compensation, so it aligns our motives in a way that folks without stock don't have.
        lazyasciiart 5y ago
        I've always worked for companies where stock is part of the compensation and people still don't want to work long hours.
        5y ago
jedberg 5y ago
One manager I had would reward us with a nice lunch out. It meant we didn't have to give up personal time for the reward, and it also limited drinking since we all had to go back to work and it was midday (usually there wasn't any drinking). We all enjoyed it because it meant getting time off work and having a nice meal without giving up family time. You could replicate that by ordering a nice lunch to be delivered to everyone's house and enjoying the meal together remotely.
agjm 5y ago
I am the type of person who appreciates this sort of thing, but it seems like we're in the minority. Growing up, I always loved getting to see people from school / school clubs (e.g. FSAE team, photography, etc) out of the normal context. It really opens up relationships and helps you figure out how to work better as a team. If someone's not there because they don't want anything to do with work after hours, it's hard to treat them fairly -- the people who do show up are going to start viewing them as an outsider, and they might get passed up on promotion for someone that the higher-ups got to know better after office hours. So, objectively, having a happy hour probably tends to punish the people that don't show up, turning it into a mandatory function. I'd never really thought about it that way. That said, I'd still prefer to have them.
- tjr225 5y ago
  I don’t think we’re in the minority. The HN crowd that is pro WFH has been extremely vocal since even before the pandemic. For what it’s worth I was remote starting a couple years before the pandemic. I can’t wait to go back in at least a couple days a week. I can’t wait to spend time with my coworkers in some capacity. Heck, most of the newly remote have only been doing so for twelve months; wait until your life has been one context for 3 years. It becomes quite brutal.
- etripe 5y ago
  Liking this kind of thing correlates highly with being extraverted. In the general population, off the top of my head, "you people" (tongue in cheek) represent about 60%. In tech, I'd wager it's skewed heavily in favour of introverts.
artur_makly 5y ago
Custom Team Portraits are also a nice personal thoughtful touch. Either sprinkled around the office and/or at home: https://POPteam.io https://POPteam.io
- quesera 5y ago
  Hard disagree. There is nothing nice, personal, or thoughtful about a photograph of my coworkers. As a manager, I would expect to be laughed at (with a healthy team, to my face; with a dysfunctional team, behind my back) for such an idea.
  - artur_makly 5y ago
    Last time I checked, Art is personal, emotional, and in our case, sends a clear message of team unity and celebration. 100's of other CEO's and managers who have bought and rebought from us think otherwise, and have had incredibly positive feedback from their teams. But instead of assume the creative tastes of your team, or project yours, why not just simply ask them what they think? YMMV.
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    - quesera 5y ago
      I wish you luck in your business, and certainly opinions will vary. My teams are more skeptical of corporate gestures. As the culmination of a week-long offsite in an exotic locale, a candid team photo might be a welcome commemoration. Anything more artificial would be artificial. PS: It's customary to disclose your relationship when plugging your own business, here on HN. I did not realize you had a vested interest in your opinion. Again, good luck with customers of other dispositions than ours!
valand 5y ago
Personal experience which is at the very opposite point of the spectrum from yours. I have had the pleasurable working in a team where bonding is simply working toward a common goal. This was an extremely cohesive team. Our main motivation of working long hour was to push the company to a more beneficial position so that we are also benefited from it. The reward is the good result of the work itself and going home/out knowing that it will benefit us in the future. The experience was almost like playing a co-op game rather than doing typical office work. Happy hours and additional recreational activity were a way to regulate stress rather than a main reward. Of course this is pretty unique, and is a rare thing to happen, especially in big companies where profit and work rather detached.
- hinkley 5y ago
  Did you have much banter in meetings, or were the organizers all business? Some places make it very hard to bond during work hours.
  - valand 5y ago
    If we're assembled ahead of time, yes, but usually everyone is all business to keep the meetings short and packed. Outside of meetings, yes we had banters. We were nerds, so we conversed about nerdy things, which sometimes are spin-offs of our works. Another it was about food because who don't love food? The workplace was a small open-plan office, 27 desk max in that room. When stressed and needing someone to talk to, I would see if anyone didnot have earphones on and are not working. I guess that was the "busy"/"not busy" signal. > Some places make it very hard to bond during work hours. I guess yeah, moreover if there are physical or procedural separator between people. Also, I realized I don't feel the same atmosphere once we grew into a larger company with varying prople with varying interests. I guess it was a niche kind of thing.
hinkley 5y ago
Parties with my coworkers are often far enough from the office that we all have to drive anyway. That doesn't work for these impromptu things, but it does work for things you know a priori. When you say reward people for working hard on something, you don't mean the same night, do you? That sounds like possibly fun for extroverts and no fun at all for everyone else.
Turing_Machine 5y ago
If you really wanted to give them a treat, you could do the "team bonding" stuff during normal work hours, rather than asking them to give up yet more of their personal time when they've already been overworked. Maybe something like "We're playing hooky today, folks. We're all going to lunch and...we're not coming back to the office afterward."
cristicismas 5y ago
What my team does, is every 1 or 2 months we would all go to work at the office for 1 day (not mandatory of course, but people usually like to come), at the end of which we would all go to a really nice restaurant, and order anything we'd like, paid by our boss. 90% of us are WFH, and I find this works really well and helps with bonding.
fastasucan 5y ago
It sounds like your intentions are good and that you are a great manager, but to be honest, and just to share my personal perspective: the last thing I want after working long hours is to spend even more of my personal time on work, even if its a HH or a expensive meal. I just want to get home/off work and do my own stuff, even if its just eating pizza in my couch. Its probably not like this for everyone, but it is for me. Don't sweat it that you haven't been able to arrange HH, some of your team might be like me.

nomoreplease 5y ago

> I would reward them with HH and dinner/late meal. Maybe your team would appreciate a $200 gift card instead of HH + dinner/late meal, especially when some people don't drink or prefer healthy meals instead of steakhouses.

JohnWhigham 5y ago
Classic HN missing the point of social interaction and the benefits it provides.
- cujo 5y ago
  Classic comment missing the point that not everyone needs or wants the social interaction with their work mates.
  - kristjansson 5y ago
    Not everyone of course, and one should be attentive to and accommodating of teammates that feel that way. But surely “let’s knock off at three today and go down the pub, thanks for all the hard work” is a positive for most people?
    - bluefirebrand 5y ago
      "Thanks for all the hard work, let's knock off at three today" Is a positive. "Let's go down to the pub" is still capitalizing on my time. It's still work, just the location has changed. And in the past it has often started at 3 and then kept going and going until way later than if I'd just worked out my day. There is always some idealism around it like "oh if you don't drink you don't have to, just come hang out for a bit" or "you don't have to stay late you can leave early" but in practice people aren't actually that understanding. You try to head home and it's all "you're not having a good time?" Or "you're not a team player" No thanks. I'll pass on all of that from now on.
      - ecpottinger 5y ago
        Exactly my experience.
      - asdff 5y ago
        I can't believe that's real life for some people. I would never drink with someone who has "team player" in their dictionary unironically. That being said, the vast majority of my coworkers, all of them actually, are not robots like that. If they were, I would find a new job fast. If you are in a place like this currently, there are greener pastures my friend. Seek them out. Find people who don't care that you go home to beat traffic instead of hitting up the bar. They exist.
    - Angostura 5y ago
      Try Let’s knock off at three today. I'm going down the pub - anyone care to join me? I'm buying."
      - ivarv 5y ago
        An argument could be made that non-pub goers are still excluded from some kind of reward or compensation. If the buyer was spending their own personal money that might be one thing, but more often than not the funds come out of company expenses.
  - JohnWhigham 5y ago
    Writing software in most companies is a team endeavor. If you can't handle interacting with others on a daily basis, find another industry. Better yet, start your own company.
    - bluefirebrand 5y ago
      There is a huge difference between working on a team and the team essentially acting as a replacement for your social life. I love working on a team. I don't want to spend my free time with them. That's what my friends are for. Sometimes people from the team become friends that I spend time with outside of work, but that's on my terms not my employers. It really seems like many people do not have any kind of healthy boundary with their employer.
      - Ronson 5y ago
        I get away with being "The grumpy Scotsman", it's got the point that I don't even get invited which took some work but wouldn't have it any other way. I am still held in high regard at work and part of the furniture now. I just don't do that forced shit. It's not my personality.
  - legerdemain 5y ago
    THIS, 100% this. I don't want to be "social" with you, I don't want to "bond" with you, and I don't care about you as a human being. You are 100% just a queue of work tasks and a source of pay checks. The less I see, hear, or know about the other people on my team, the happier I am and the better off they are. WFH forever, don't mess with a good thing.
    - symlinkk 5y ago
      Completely sociopathic
    - shannongreen 5y ago
      FWIW, I would hate working with someone like this. You don't have to be super active, socially, but treating the other people (and they _are_ people) on your team as just drones is a) not conducive to good collaboration and b) pretty damn rude.
      - IggleSniggle 5y ago
        It doesn’t have to be rude. Seeing it as rude is an imposition on those of us who don’t see it as rude. I’m pretty antisocial, personally, and love it when my workmates get to the point and focus on the actual “drone”-tasks. Why? Because that is why I do software. I don’t do software because I love people. I don’t do software because I love the paycheck. I do software because I love software and every second away from focusing on the concerns of producing quality software just seems like a genuine waste of time. Even here on HN, it’s mostly an opportunity to safely experiment with “politics” in a way that isn’t totally exhausting. I get that everyone is not like me, and I’m okay with that. I don’t expect everyone to have my preferences. I’d personally prefer to be treated as a respected “drone” (now THAT seems rude) and I don’t really want to spend time on banter, unless it’s being used as a metaphor that can improve our collective output. This is “fun.” This is why I “work” (it’s not work to me). Discussing requirements and problem solving solutions is great; it’s fun. Happy hour is “work” to me. Please don’t act like I’m rude just because I don’t share your preferences.
        5y ago
  - bpodgursky 5y ago
    It's fine that some teams of workers don't socialize, and they aren't expected to socialize. It's fine that some teams of workers socialize, and are expected to socialize. It's fine for teams to select for people who will socially mesh with the office culture. Nobody here is wrong; just work at a company where the culture fits what you want. Not everybody wants or needs the same thing.
  - bluedino 5y ago
    Closer team’s performance is probably higher than teams that don’t socialize together
    - valand 5y ago
      The keyword here is "probably"
- lotsofpulp 5y ago
  Then do it during work hours, and everyone wins.
  - tannedNerd 5y ago
    Seriously this is the best solution. Instead of after work, do a (virtual or not) HH at 3 on Friday. People don’t have to donate free time and will appreciate it much more.
    - bluefirebrand 5y ago
      I'd still bet that many people would rather just go home early on a Friday. I know I would.
      - valand 5y ago
        But at least HH on time allocated from work does not demand more time from the participants, which is a win.
        fastasucan 5y ago
        Until monday comes and everyone has to take up the slack from friday.
  - shard 5y ago
    My previous company had done mid-week outings (definitely not Fridays, people want to go home), where everyone in the team kicks off at 3PM, go see a movie together (the team splitting up based on what movie they wanted to see), then have a nice dinner, with games and prizes at the end at around 7PM. I won a Nintendo Switch one time. It wasn't a bad way to spend an afternoon.
- CoastalCoder 5y ago
  I think the problem with something like (specifically) Happy Hour is that it's really welcome by some employees, and really hated by others. Imagine being one of the few Mormons, observant Muslims, or recovering alcoholics at a company that "rewards" your team with Happy Hours. Or being someone who's been sexually harassed or assaulted at previous events where coworkers drank too much. I'm not suggesting that it's easy (or even possible) to plan a social event that's guaranteed to be welcomed by every member of a team. But I think events that focus or rely on alcohol as the means of team bonding can be a bad idea depending on the team.
  - lamontcg 5y ago
    Imagine just being someone who is an introvert and feels exhausted after hanging out with people 8 hours a day in an office, who really can't put up with being around other people for 12+ hours a day... I'm much better with a long lunch + socialize and then piss off early from work as a reward.
  - asdff 5y ago
    What you describe, company sponsored fun times, sound a little toxic. But just buddies hanging out is a valuable option for people who need a social outlet. A lot of times, after undergrad and you move to a new city, it becomes exceedingly difficult to meet other people and make friends. You don't have to be friends with your coworkers, but if you are, even shitty jobs can feel a lot more bearable in my experience. In the beforetimes we had a standing happyhour. Some coworkers never showed up and that was fine. Some showed up but only drank water and that was also fine. If you work somewhere that alienates you instead of not caring at all about the highschool clicky bullshit, I'd run for the hills.
- topkai22 5y ago
  Following up late nights working by expecting people to attend an after-work event is not a benefit to the worker. As others have said, having a big team lunch and then sending them home is a benefit.
- acituan 5y ago
  ROI for workplace schmoozing is not the same, let alone positive, for all job ladders and levels.
- bigbillheck 5y ago
  When I was single and in my 20s / early 30s I was a big fan of the happy hour / dinner option, but I'm old now and have a partner and a dog and even when I like my co-workers I'd rather just go home and be with them.
- hparadiz 5y ago
  Stop assuming people like to drink.
  - smabie 5y ago
    I mean, I think most people do like to drink? Am I wrong? I know I like to drink.
    - valand 5y ago
      Most people around you might. There are people who don't like to drink and there are people who are not allowed to drink due to their believe/health problem. And they are not minority-minority in some places
    - ecpottinger 5y ago
      YES! You are thinking the whole world is the same as your location.
      - hparadiz 5y ago
        It's not even that. American work drinking culture is just not up to par. You're expected to pound coffee all day then go and drink on an empty stomach at 5 before you've eaten dinner. It's just not realistic. Heaven forbid my first meal of the day is lunch and not breakfast. People who have "normal" eating habits just can't understand.
  - novok 5y ago
    As someone who never has drunk, it's fine. You just drink fizzy water, diet coke and free food or whatever and nobody gives a shit. It's a work happy hour, nobody should be getting drunk and nobody notices.
    - heavyset_go 5y ago
      It excludes people who have very good reasons to not be around alcohol, and not people who just don't like it.
- rewgs 5y ago
  I have 30+ food allergies that developed as an adult (which includes alcohol). Yes, it's ridiculous. I literally cannot eat food that isn't prepared by me from a hilariously small and ever-shrinking list of approved ingredients. I also can't prepare food more than a day in advance due to a histamine intolerance (food grows in histamine count as it sits in the fridge), so roughly 50% of my free time is spent cooking, else I starve. I find these kinds of social outings shitty because I'm invariably left out, asked why I'm left out, and now we're talking about my health issues. Politely declining is never met as well as you'd like it to be (people always insist), so either I forcefully decline so as to avoid option #2 (and people think I'm an asshole); or I take option #2 and talk about it, and am now sad because it sucks and will never stop sucking and I don't really like bringing it up. Then, the following script: everyone gives the minimum pity, commensurate with social niceties. At least two people tell me about their experiences with food intolerances (not even remotely the same thing) and how they got over it (which is not possible with adult-developed food allergies), or they suggest that it's leaky-gut (not scientifically-proven to exist; god knows I've looked into it regardless), or suggest acupuncture, or some other pseudoscience bullshit. Now I get to either choose to tumble head-first into yet another unpaid lecture on the nuances of food allergies, and perhaps inform them as to why what they're suggesting isn't scientifically sound (which is bound to offend, no matter how nicely I say it, because pseudoscience and pop-science is believed with near-religious fervor; the best I'm gonna get is "agree to disagree," so it's not worth it). Or -- my preferred choice nowadays -- I nod and smile and thank them for their novel, sage advice, and tell them I'll be sure to contact the homeopath they suggested first thing tomorrow, as I'm sure that, finally, now, thanks to their intervention, my nightmare is about to come to an end. At this point, an uncomfortable amount of people are listening to me. I mumble something about "and..uh...yeah." Someone stumbles to change the subject, the wheels of conversation spin in the mud for a while before finally getting back to normal -- and everyone subtly ignores me for the rest of the night, lest I bring down the mood or suck the air out of the room again. I've been through this song and dance so many times, I'm completely over it and now just avoid it altogether. Which sucks, because now you're the social pariah that never wants to hang out (because virtually all social gatherings revolve around food). I want nothing more than to enjoy good food and drink with my friends and peers and to be happy and merry and well-fed and buzzed. That used to be my element. It's a touchy subject, because prior to age 30, I was the biggest "foodie" and craft beer freak you've ever met. Finding a new restaurant or trying something I'd never eaten before was literally my favorite activity, period. I was legendary for my weight-to-ability-to-pound-food ratio (I've always been a stick). Now, it's rice and chicken (no spices!) from here to the grave. Washed down with water, and nothing but. Coffee in the morning is fine -- thankfully, I'm not yet allergic to that (no OJ, though). I hate that my best option is "lie and smile" -- saying "I'm not hungry" (when I'm actually starving, made worse by watching everyone else eat and enjoy the camaraderie that only a shared meal can bring, slowly losing blood sugar and trying in vain to combat the moodiness that always accompanies it); or "I need to wake up early" (as an excuse for no drinks; otherwise some asshole pressures you to drink anyway or someone across the table gives you a knowing nod, thinking they've found another fellow AA attendee, which now you'll be talking about later). And because it smells pretty bad socially to ask for that Happy Hour "compensation" be paid in another way ("hey, mind giving me a check for the money you would've spent on my meal and drinks?" will obviously never fly), I'm now just getting literally paid less than everyone else, and getting left out, and being labelled a social pariah no matter which of the above paths I take. It sucks. Life and people are infinitely complex and varied, and those of us reluctantly pushed outside of the mainstream normal are constantly fighting to simply be understood, let alone to not have the only choices thrust upon us be ridiculed.
- ulfw 5y ago
  It's a job, not a social club
codyb 5y ago
Maybe just offer the option to accomodate people and how they feel at whatever moment you in time you’d like to reward them during.

time0ut 5y ago

The kind of happy hour you are describing is great and one of the things I miss about the office. Chilling with your tight knit team after a long day or a big release is great. I assume the GP is talking about the other sort of happy hour where it is a bigger crowd. I can’t stand those.

throwawayboise 5y ago
I've worked with teams that worked well together and got stuff done, at work. But never wanted to hang out after work with anyone. We all had different lives. Some single, some married, some with kids, some not, etc. At the end of the day everyone just wants to go home to his or her private life.
shard 5y ago
I prefer the larger team outings, as there are usually more people that I enjoy hanging out with than the small 4-7 people team that I work with. Also, larger team outings usually means more things to do because of the larger budget, so it could be a trip to a tourist attraction or activity camp, as opposed to just a meal when it is the smaller team.

zelphirkalt 5y ago

It can be great to sometimes (!) put in a little more time to reach a goal, deliver something the team wanted to deliver for a long time or improve upon some annoyances in status quo. Working extra hours is not to be expected and should be valued. A team probably works better when extra effort is valued. I think it is great, that you are trying to thank your employees / coworkers.

lotsofpulp 5y ago
You can thank employees and coworkers without using their non work time. Do it at lunch.
- zelphirkalt 5y ago
  True, you got a point, but consider: Saying a few words at lunch time can become a kind of automatism quickly. Perhaps inviting people to social time going out to eat somewhere will leave a more lasting memory. It might not be for everyone. For example people having children and all that. But it does give people a chance to be in a setting outside of work, but with people from the job, which might give a chance to bond through other topics. I think there might not be the perfect reward/thank you for everyone.
  - bluefirebrand 5y ago
    > I think there might not be the perfect reward/thank you for everyone There is actually. It's called big stacks of money. Oddly, companies don't seem to want to reward people with it, the one universal thing that basically everyone could appreciate and is the entire reason anyone works anywhere in the first place. Crazy. It's almost like playing relatively small amounts for a big expensive catered meal saves the company way more money than rewarding people with meaningful sums of money would.
    - mLuby 5y ago
      I value a $50 gift or experience with my team far more than an extra $50 electronically added to my account. Presentation matters.

SteveNuts 5y ago

Take the money you would have spent on this and give it to your team directly.

OJFord 5y ago
Surely that'd be an insultingly small amount to receive as cash? (Maybe that was your point? 'And then realise it doesn't show that much gratitude after all'?)
UnpossibleJim 5y ago
I worked in the hardware lab for a while, and we had the incredulity to ask why they didn't do just this. Turns out, our director told us "it set a bad precedent, and if they did this with us other teams might be encourage to do this as well." As you might have guessed, the hardware lab was not the most social and 1/2 of us didn't drink, so bars were out.

dao- 5y ago

> I can't do that anymore! Good. You'll have to think harder to find ways not to overwork your team in the first place. This attitude towards workers rubs me the wrong way, but your side note saved you in my eyes: > Working long hours is bad Yes! Overworking people and then saying "thanks" by exploiting the fact ("using the chance", as you put it) that you locked them into the office isn't exactly fair. If this is what people mean by happy hour, that's absurd. If they chose to stay for social stuff after a normal day of work, that's of course another thing.

reidjs 5y ago

If you all still live in the same area would it be impossible to organize a little offsite at a bar or restaurant?

bluefirebrand 5y ago

Spending more time at work (yes, going to a happy hour with my coworkers is still "at work") is not a reward for hard work. More money or time off is. I work hard to have my own life, outside of work. I don't work hard to be rewarded with a single expensive meal with booze paid for. I don't even drink anyways.

conductr 5y ago

> It gave me a chance to say "thanks" "Me" is the key word > and for us to bond over the challenge we overcame. That occurred already. It happened through the process of overcoming the challenge. I get the intent, but your people probably just want to rest and get some of their time back. If you must celebrate, do it during hours. I typically did offsite lunch time activities pre-COVID. Now it's more gift driven and individual. I made up award systems like the high school "most likely to ...". If someone renovated their masterbath, give them something that is specific to that as a thanks. Find out if they prefer public or 1:1 gratitude

Aeolun 5y ago
I don’t know. For me, I’m very much looking forward to having dinner and a party with my co-workers again. I don’t want that every week, but the once every 3 months’ish that we had going was pretty nice.
- conductr 5y ago
  That’s a bit different than when the leader wants to celebrate your long hours by making you work more hours in a social capacity. It’s very much different strokes for different folks. Just like everyone’s personal lives differ so does their appetite for coworker extracurricular activities. But I agree that the every 3 months or so is a fine cadence. But, 1) schedule it at the beginning of the quarter 2) be ready to reschedule it if it coincides with a sprint of long hours. In a perfect world, your team would tell you if they were too burned out for it or not, in a judgement free way. But that doesn’t happen due to fear of judgment or not wanting to rock the boat (say nay when others want yay) or multitude of other reasons. Point is, if you know anyone on the team has significant others, kids, pets, or any life outside work you as a leader shouldn’t ask them to work more in the name of celebration.

Taylor_OD 5y ago

Yup. Ever after 5pm work thing I've been "rewarded" with is still work. Even if it's more fun than working at my desk its still work. I'm not able to do with that time what I want. It's only a reward if it is replacing work. And really it's only a reward if the amount of time that it is replacing is taken out of the sprint planning. At the end of the day if you take a weeknight from me I'm going to be annoyed at best and upset at worst. If you take a work day from me, or part of one, but still expect me to get a full days or work done we will both be in a bad position. I get the intention here. I used to be a people manager and I planned lots of things for after work. But I stopped when I realized how difficult it actually made things for many people and people with kids.

Jagerbizzle 5y ago
I'm trying to get some budget right now to do a in-person social event for my team now that almost everyone is fully vaccinated, and I've been extremely explicit about scheduling it during regular business hours (1pm-3pm for example), to ensure there's no competition between this event and what people actually want to do with their evenings/spare time.
fastasucan 5y ago
This resonates with me as well. And it was hard/impossible to get my last employer to understand it. I dont care if you treat us at a great restaurant, its still work, because if I had a choice I'd rather do something else.

watwut 5y ago

These things are highly individual. Usually, after crunches and pressures, I tended to be angry at disorganization that caused it and also wanted to go home due to pile of stuff that accumulated there. I get that there were people who appreciated these, but not everyone does. It is one more added duty after you have already done a lot.

bluefirebrand 5y ago
Imo, It's people who have no other life or responsibility outside of work that love work organized and paid for events. And they seem incapable of understanding that other people have better things to do than get wasted at a bar with their coworkers on a weeknight, even if the company is paying for it.
- shard 5y ago
  It depends on the kind of work-organized events. My previous company organized free concerts, from pop to classical to jazz, as well as family events such as Theme Park Day. Aside from company-wide events, there are the large team events (~50 people) that included day hikes, museums, activity camps, and plays. I've enjoyed many of these despite having responsibilities outside of work.
- patmorgan23 5y ago
  It's a balancing act. It's good for people to have some bounding time with the people they work with in a non work environment. It builds empathy across individuals, teams, and departments which makes resolving conflicts easier. Work is a big part of your life and there's nothing wrong with building strong long lasting relationships with your co-workers. On the flip side, work is a big part of your life and it shouldn't be 100% of you life. It's good to have relationships and commitments outside of work. Finding this balance is hard and different for everyone.

halgir 5y ago

It sounds like you're the manager in this case, and that your intentions are genuine. But are you entirely sure that your team feels the same? I've done similar, but in local restaurants during working hours. It's unfair to implicitly demand your team to donate free time, regardless how much you believe they should enjoy and appreciate it. That aside, virtual options have come pretty close for us. Give everyone a budget to arrange their own food and either organize activities/games that your team will enjoy or just hang out.

dcolkitt 5y ago

What about the occasional company ski trip?

agent008t 5y ago

How about reward them with a cash bonus?

bcrosby95 5y ago

At my workplace, long hours are usually compensated with a bonus and commensurately shorter hours for a period of time.

dylan604 5y ago
yeah, after pulling long hours to meet ridiculous deadlines, the last thing i want is to be required to spend even more time with coworkers instead of just been given time off.
- late2part 5y ago
  @dylan604 - I'm curious; do you have any company stock?
  - dylan604 5y ago
    nope. i've never worked for a company that gave away stock. i also never wear the swag t-shirts/hoodies that companies give out to employees (or worse sell). why?
    - late2part 5y ago
      Thank you for answering. I ask because I have this theory that there is a correlation between employees who don't mind working more to make stock to go up if they have stock. It's never a simple analysis. I don't mind working more for a deadline if I recognize a tangible increase in revenue or cost savings, as I benefit from the stock. "Gave away" is an interesting term. In our company, stock is 10-40% of our compensation, so it aligns our motives in a way that folks without stock don't have.
      - lazyasciiart 5y ago
        I've always worked for companies where stock is part of the compensation and people still don't want to work long hours.
      - 5y ago

jedberg 5y ago

One manager I had would reward us with a nice lunch out. It meant we didn't have to give up personal time for the reward, and it also limited drinking since we all had to go back to work and it was midday (usually there wasn't any drinking). We all enjoyed it because it meant getting time off work and having a nice meal without giving up family time. You could replicate that by ordering a nice lunch to be delivered to everyone's house and enjoying the meal together remotely.

agjm 5y ago

I am the type of person who appreciates this sort of thing, but it seems like we're in the minority. Growing up, I always loved getting to see people from school / school clubs (e.g. FSAE team, photography, etc) out of the normal context. It really opens up relationships and helps you figure out how to work better as a team. If someone's not there because they don't want anything to do with work after hours, it's hard to treat them fairly -- the people who do show up are going to start viewing them as an outsider, and they might get passed up on promotion for someone that the higher-ups got to know better after office hours. So, objectively, having a happy hour probably tends to punish the people that don't show up, turning it into a mandatory function. I'd never really thought about it that way. That said, I'd still prefer to have them.

tjr225 5y ago
I don’t think we’re in the minority. The HN crowd that is pro WFH has been extremely vocal since even before the pandemic. For what it’s worth I was remote starting a couple years before the pandemic. I can’t wait to go back in at least a couple days a week. I can’t wait to spend time with my coworkers in some capacity. Heck, most of the newly remote have only been doing so for twelve months; wait until your life has been one context for 3 years. It becomes quite brutal.
etripe 5y ago
Liking this kind of thing correlates highly with being extraverted. In the general population, off the top of my head, "you people" (tongue in cheek) represent about 60%. In tech, I'd wager it's skewed heavily in favour of introverts.

artur_makly 5y ago

Custom Team Portraits are also a nice personal thoughtful touch. Either sprinkled around the office and/or at home: https://POPteam.io https://POPteam.io

quesera 5y ago
Hard disagree. There is nothing nice, personal, or thoughtful about a photograph of my coworkers. As a manager, I would expect to be laughed at (with a healthy team, to my face; with a dysfunctional team, behind my back) for such an idea.
- artur_makly 5y ago
  Last time I checked, Art is personal, emotional, and in our case, sends a clear message of team unity and celebration. 100's of other CEO's and managers who have bought and rebought from us think otherwise, and have had incredibly positive feedback from their teams. But instead of assume the creative tastes of your team, or project yours, why not just simply ask them what they think? YMMV.
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  - quesera 5y ago
    I wish you luck in your business, and certainly opinions will vary. My teams are more skeptical of corporate gestures. As the culmination of a week-long offsite in an exotic locale, a candid team photo might be a welcome commemoration. Anything more artificial would be artificial. PS: It's customary to disclose your relationship when plugging your own business, here on HN. I did not realize you had a vested interest in your opinion. Again, good luck with customers of other dispositions than ours!

valand 5y ago

Personal experience which is at the very opposite point of the spectrum from yours. I have had the pleasurable working in a team where bonding is simply working toward a common goal. This was an extremely cohesive team. Our main motivation of working long hour was to push the company to a more beneficial position so that we are also benefited from it. The reward is the good result of the work itself and going home/out knowing that it will benefit us in the future. The experience was almost like playing a co-op game rather than doing typical office work. Happy hours and additional recreational activity were a way to regulate stress rather than a main reward. Of course this is pretty unique, and is a rare thing to happen, especially in big companies where profit and work rather detached.

hinkley 5y ago
Did you have much banter in meetings, or were the organizers all business? Some places make it very hard to bond during work hours.
- valand 5y ago
  If we're assembled ahead of time, yes, but usually everyone is all business to keep the meetings short and packed. Outside of meetings, yes we had banters. We were nerds, so we conversed about nerdy things, which sometimes are spin-offs of our works. Another it was about food because who don't love food? The workplace was a small open-plan office, 27 desk max in that room. When stressed and needing someone to talk to, I would see if anyone didnot have earphones on and are not working. I guess that was the "busy"/"not busy" signal. > Some places make it very hard to bond during work hours. I guess yeah, moreover if there are physical or procedural separator between people. Also, I realized I don't feel the same atmosphere once we grew into a larger company with varying prople with varying interests. I guess it was a niche kind of thing.

hinkley 5y ago

Parties with my coworkers are often far enough from the office that we all have to drive anyway. That doesn't work for these impromptu things, but it does work for things you know a priori. When you say reward people for working hard on something, you don't mean the same night, do you? That sounds like possibly fun for extroverts and no fun at all for everyone else.

Turing_Machine 5y ago

If you really wanted to give them a treat, you could do the "team bonding" stuff during normal work hours, rather than asking them to give up yet more of their personal time when they've already been overworked. Maybe something like "We're playing hooky today, folks. We're all going to lunch and...we're not coming back to the office afterward."

cristicismas 5y ago

What my team does, is every 1 or 2 months we would all go to work at the office for 1 day (not mandatory of course, but people usually like to come), at the end of which we would all go to a really nice restaurant, and order anything we'd like, paid by our boss. 90% of us are WFH, and I find this works really well and helps with bonding.

fastasucan 5y ago

It sounds like your intentions are good and that you are a great manager, but to be honest, and just to share my personal perspective: the last thing I want after working long hours is to spend even more of my personal time on work, even if its a HH or a expensive meal. I just want to get home/off work and do my own stuff, even if its just eating pizza in my couch. Its probably not like this for everyone, but it is for me. Don't sweat it that you haven't been able to arrange HH, some of your team might be like me.