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by xor1 9y ago
>People suffering from borderline are still individual humans. Being the victim of childhood abuse or trauma does not give you the right to abuse people unrelated to those events today. You have agency, and you are responsible for your b
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by xor1 9y ago
> i’m sorry for your experience but this is also patently false applied as a general statement to “us”. you’re not helping the situation by putting all of us over “there” where there is always one instant away of you being nothing to us.
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by xor1 9y ago
>Before you write off BPD people or assume you know how this disorder works or what the prognosis is, take the time to read up on more recent work in this field. I was raised by a BPD mother (who actually did an incredible job coping wit
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by xor1 9y ago
>I think what you describe is the main reason for a lack of sympathy for people with BPD. For people with other mental disorders, it's much easier to see how the person is suffering or negatively impacted by their illness. But it&#x
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by xor1 9y ago
What is it then?
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by xor1 9y ago
I'd like to point anyone reading the above comment towards /r/bpdlovedones and /r/raisedbyborderlines. Then check out /r/bpd after that.
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by xor1 9y ago
>I'm not a professional, but think he's untreatable mostly due to his completely non acknowledgement of his disease. Yeah, this has been the entirety of my experience with people who have personality disorders.
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by xor1 9y ago
Why isn't there a bigger push to hire more pilots? Especially when you consider how badly the American pilot industry needs diversification. Seems like a no-brainer to me.
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by xor1 9y ago
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Histrionic_personality_disorde... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Borderline_personality_disorde... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_pers
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by xor1 9y ago
>I'm really surprised (even concerned) that the West (in particular) doesn't demand the same access to China that China gets to the rest of the world. That's because the right people are getting their palms greased
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by xor1 9y ago
>If we overcome all natural impulse (how?) this species is finished and are something else, certainly not "humanity" at that point. What's wrong with that?
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by xor1 9y ago
I am a firm believer in humanity's ability to overcome our biology.
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by xor1 9y ago
I think that people who are "traumatized" by past relationships were the ones who had psychological issues of some sort to begin with, that that sort of damage happens when you are a child, and that your typical, emotionally healt
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by xor1 9y ago
From that link: >We found that wives who believed they held higher status positions than their husbands were indeed more likely to experience feelings of resentfulness or embarrassment, feeling that their status was decreased by their hu
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by xor1 9y ago
I have only dated women smarter/richer than me so far, and yes, it is very motivating.
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by xor1 9y ago
>Entitled or not, we generally think that if would be better if people who want relationships were in relationships. In a perfect world, sure. Sadly, we are discussing reality here.
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by xor1 9y ago
True, but better to have loved and lost, right?
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by xor1 9y ago
>We're fast converging on a future where IQ and inherited wealth will be the only two fundamental positive qualities. Genome editing might take care of IQ.
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by xor1 9y ago
There are more women at this level, but some (many?) of them are not interested in an equal partner.
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by xor1 9y ago
Hope they're willing to settle for someone with nothing more than a Bachelor's who still outearns them 2:1, after accounting for time spent in school instead of working and debt.
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by xor1 9y ago
>I have definitely noticed the happiest people I know, in terms of romance, found their life partner in college. Definitely. I am almost 30, and I started dating extremely late (26). I'm happy with who I'm with right now, but I
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by xor1 9y ago
>men who aren't threatened by women who are more educated (and possibly higher-paid) than they are Do these people actually exist anymore? What kind of man is really going to pass on an otherwise suitable partner just because she&#x
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by xor1 9y ago
>Finding an "equal" man in your mid-thirties as a women is very hard. Finding an "equal" woman in your mid-thirties as a man who doesn't want to date down in terms of education, status, wealth, or mental health i
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by xor1 9y ago
>They can of course do whatever they want, but I have very little sympathy for people who recognize how reality is and don't try to act in ways that will optimize the probability of the outcome they want. Yep. I recognized that I wa
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by xor1 9y ago
No one is entitled to being in a relationship. No one is entitled to having a partner.
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by xor1 9y ago
I treat all interactions with coworkers (male or female or otherwise) as if I were under surveillance by the KGB or Stasi, and any sort of misstep would mean imprisonment or death. I also refuse to ever drink with coworkers. It's worke
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by xor1 9y ago
Irvine is the closest thing to this that I can imagine in the modern-day US. Seems to be working out...
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by xor1 9y ago
Never heard of using CGRect.divide(), thanks!
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by xor1 9y ago
Looking forward to having my adderall delivered by drone.
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by xor1 9y ago
I'm very jealous of my friends with SF jobs who work remote and live with their parents. I know three who do this, they're all late 20s/early 30s. I totally would do it if I had the opportunity, I still get along great with m

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