taeric

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by taeric 1y ago
But not everyone reacted to trauma by going into denial? Some people had really crappy things happen to them. They did not deny this, necessarily. They just found a way to move to the next things. And note, that it wasn't everyone.
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by taeric 1y ago
I only mentioned the housework because it was listed on the google result. And I'm fairly confident most of us have far more than 2 hours of house work that needs to be done.
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by taeric 1y ago
That is just the run, though? My point in mentioning the other things is that it isn't that much, all told. I also 100% think that your offset point is a big part of it. 90 minutes walking the dog outside is doubly beneficial because
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by taeric 1y ago
Is 500 calories of movement a lot? Googling says that is running for about 45 minutes? Or walking for 90 minutes. Doing housework would only need about 2 hours to hit that.
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by taeric 1y ago
True that standards of living have gone up. I'm... not clear where you were going with this, though? You are using the word "cope" in a way that implies people did not grow after their trauma in the past. I do think I'
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by taeric 1y ago
Uh, maybe we've met different social workers? Because I've absolutely seen that happen before. Which, fair that you can easily catch yourself in a 'no true social worker' scenario. But it definitely happens. Especiall
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by taeric 1y ago
Similar to what I said in the sibling post, this is classic talking past each other. The word "disorder" doesn't appear in the thread until here. If you are speaking to a definition that distinguishes traumatic events and d
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by taeric 1y ago
So then this is just classic talking past each other? The point of the discussion, to me, was some people have defined it such that everyone is battling childhood trauma. The book literally has the example of the trauma of the umbilical c
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by taeric 1y ago
I've seen similar with kids? Indeed, it is easily seen as one of the reasons they form fears to many bugs. Parents freak out over the bug that wasn't bothering a kid enough times, and the kid will eventually build a fear of bugs
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by taeric 1y ago
My experience is that liking something is basically unrelated to it being hard. Being good at it, on the other hand, requires putting in hard work. No matter what it is. Note that you can build a ramp up process such that you don't i
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by taeric 1y ago
I think you are still taking my point to a maximal position that I don't hold. People need help all the time. It shouldn't take trauma to get people to agree on that point. Good help will be goal oriented, though. And the goal
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by taeric 1y ago
This is a big point that really blows my mind in the discussion. It is basically indisputable that we are exposed to less trauma than people in the past. To a laughable degree. And it wasn't just children. Before the advent of antis
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by taeric 1y ago
Tinnitus is another good example for this idea. Bringing awareness to it makes it worse.
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by taeric 1y ago
I don't understand the angle here? Go check out the cross country running team of your local high school. They will literally have to have carb loading parties for the kids so that they are able to do the run the next day. The artic
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by taeric 1y ago
This is just taking my point to be maximal that people always recovered from these things. I don't think that. But nor do I take what seems to be the near maximal other side, where everyone is fighting some hidden trauma from their c
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by taeric 1y ago
But you haven't separated these things out. You have definitionally stated that some things exist. But you have no method to separate the genuinely traumatic from the potentially traumatic. Broken bones. Death in the family. Death
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by taeric 1y ago
The hazard I'm pointing at, though, is that this will be very individual. And what is a difficult thing to overcome for some kids, will be trivial for others. And seemingly flat out impossible for others, still.
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by taeric 1y ago
Agreed.
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by taeric 1y ago
And where did I say that? You seem to be purposely misreading my posts. I said growth is the important part. If you are focusing people on identifying themselves as traumatized, you are doing it wrong. You want to focus them on how to gr
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by taeric 1y ago
I would have to take more time to read up on Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). The wikipedia intro to it isn't fully favorable, sadly. And agreed that "severe" cases are almost certainly special cases tha
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by taeric 1y ago
I didn't say that, though? Some things that don't kill you can, obviously, make you really really weak. Isn't hard to find examples on that front. Polio is the poster case. But thinking kids are made weaker from any and al
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by taeric 1y ago
On this, then, I would generally have a hard time agreeing. I'd be comfortable with the idea that not everyone is very resilient. I'd expect that. If the claim, then, is that there is an absurdly high variance there, I'd a
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by taeric 1y ago
I mean... depends on the trauma? Do you consider it traumatic to lose a pet? What is the difference between survival and moving on? What sort of growth would you expect there?
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by taeric 1y ago
I think there is a bit of a crowd that is pushing the idea that you can make events worse by telling people that they are forever scarred from them? That is, yes, some trauma sticks with you. History shows people are also very resilient a
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by taeric 1y ago
What sucks is when the information wasn't necessarily misleading, but still overwhelmingly misleads people.
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by taeric 1y ago
I am grateful that I had not, in fact, heard of this book. I would like to say I would have rejected the idea, but I'm not certain. And yeah, these criticisms are pretty solid.
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by taeric 1y ago
Google isn't making it easy to find the direct studies, but their silly AI summary at the top is pretty direct. "Yes, evidence suggests that trans fats can contribute to food allergies by activating mast cells, altering the gut m
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by taeric 1y ago
No, trans fats are flat out worse. They are not safe. Pretty much period. https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6... is an older study that supports this pretty directly. Is a big part
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by taeric 1y ago
I confess that combo would be a positive for me. :D Hands down the best dogs out there.
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by taeric 1y ago
I honestly don't know, so was surprised to see them listed as a popular choice anywhere and meant my comment just to ack that it is ridiculously regional.

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