mparkola

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by mparkola 4y ago
Hi, what do you mean by that?
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by mparkola 4y ago
I've encountered my fair share of such people and I probably was one of them for at least some portion of my own career :( Is there anything in particular that worked for you?
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by mparkola 4y ago
That's indeed challenging. Is there anything specific that helped you do the untangling? And on the company front - how do you stay in touch with the overall direction while minimising those meetings?
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by mparkola 4y ago
That's super interesting. How do you go about increasing that consistency?
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by mparkola 4y ago
I'm sorry you've had such a bad experience with managers. I can assure you it looks much different in my neck of the woods.
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As an engineer who becomes a leader – what is your number one challenge?
7 points by mparkola 4y ago|11 comments
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Limits, regeneration and meaning – a mental framework for avoiding burnout(fluidcircle.net)
1 points by mparkola 5y ago|1 comments
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by mparkola 5y ago
Still no silver bullets, but the next best thing is an easy to remember framework that can remind you to take care of what needs taking care of.
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Ask HN: What was the biggest leadership challenge of your career?
260 points by mparkola 5y ago|227 comments
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by mparkola 6y ago
Here's one that copies directly into your clipboard: http://michalparkola.com/roam-bookmarklet
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by mparkola 7y ago
I think this perspective/skill is extremely powerful. It is also extremely hard. I try to repeat to myself "find something to agree with" whenever I encounter a difficult situation. Sometimes I succeed. Other questions I foun
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by mparkola 7y ago
"Logic is not a great tool for understanding reality" as my mother used to say ;) Another way to look at it is that there's always a perfectly good reason _from a certain perspective_.
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by mparkola 7y ago
I agree! ;) I try to make it more meaningful by saying why I agree with or like something in order to clarify the (prefferably shared) values behind my appreciation. I've also recently used a torrent of appreciation (the Mesita strateg
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by mparkola 7y ago
I struggle with this as well as I read many warnings against deriving self-worth from external sources. However I am not free from that and I don't think I'll ever be. I draw the line at excessive rumination when someone does NOT
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by mparkola 7y ago
It was and still is hard for me as well. I tend to get emotionally involved with whatever job I do and the people I work with and that sometimes creates friction with people who prefer a level of professional detachment (or just don't
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by mparkola 7y ago
I found NVC super valuable for opening my eyes to new concepts but challenging to implement in real life. When I tried it for the first time the other person got super angry because they thought I was making fun of them by asking about thei
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by mparkola 7y ago
I love the 7 habits. I aspire to implement them as a basic OS for everything I do.
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by mparkola 7y ago
Not sure if it's possible during an interview (the same way typical interviews suck at predicting the job performance of the employee) but I heard someone suggest using the question "What is something that could only happen on thi
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Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned earlier in your career?
539 points by mparkola 7y ago|423 comments