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by kaitai 6y ago
This has a lot to it, and I believe this is one of the thing that holds women back later on in their careers -- if you are rewarded as a girl for going along/allowing people to save face, you have practiced skills that don't serve
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by kaitai 6y ago
Gotta disagree. Bleeding, bleeding, bleeding, tears, pelvic instability, trouble pooping, breast milk coming in, mastitis, difficulty walking for several weeks, hormonal changes to sleep ability. People who give birth need time to physicall
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by kaitai 6y ago
MIT apparently just instituted some parental leave policies for grad students. I go my PhD about ten years ago, and we did not have parental leave policies across departments at that time. What bugs me about much of the discussion is that m
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by kaitai 6y ago
Can you explain to me the utility I get from raising my kid? I'm not really a kid person, you should know up front.
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by kaitai 6y ago
I just don't understand why 2-4 years off work is the ideal. Have you spent 2-4 years with a baby/toddler? The moments of delight are interspersed with poop and boredom and any human would want a break. I think the neo-American
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by kaitai 6y ago
I don't disagree with your larger point, rayiner, about "figur[ing] out a way to allow women to have careers and also children". But I agree with the GP poster (hycaria) that the top poster (astan?) creates a false dichotomy,
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by kaitai 6y ago
Agree, as another woman. People have had children in many adverse circumstances throughout life: I have friends who grew up in refugee camps, under politically repressive regimes, in real poverty. People make it work as best they can. You c
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by kaitai 6y ago
Honestly, I think most of these things are essentially tribal. A great source of data to support this idea is the 2015 table of physicians by gender and subspecialty [1]. Why are neurologists 28% female while neurological surgeons are only
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by kaitai 6y ago
I've done the math with my Midwestern salary and I still come out ahead in the Midwest on average. Yes, you're looking at it all economically, disregarding culture, quality of life, access to nature, family, etc, but even economic
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by kaitai 6y ago
But no one is an exact copy of anybody. I am a woman who never ever wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, and I'm not, and that's great. I have a husband who did a 4-day week to spend three days with his kid, and that's great. Doe
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by kaitai 6y ago
I agree and disagree. During my PhD, I had several women friends have kids. It was a great time to have kids other than the poverty thing, if you had a supportive advisor. But what was not great was the lack of structure around it, by which
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by kaitai 6y ago
Yep, I finally landed my first grant as a co-PI two months after I left academia for corporate data sci. Amusingly, or whatever, of the three grants I had up for review as a co-PI or contributor, two finally got funded -- but I was gone.
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by kaitai 6y ago
You know, I'm back, because the more I think about this, the more it bugs me. You compare Christmas to Halloween and Thanksgiving, which are in the US secular holidays. The most common argument I've heard for wishing everyone &quo
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by kaitai 6y ago
One of the pieces you quoted said that two were killed by police.
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by kaitai 6y ago
It's a bit tendentious to fail to mention that some of those folks were shot by the police.
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by kaitai 6y ago
Ohoh!! Here's the money quote: "American culture". How is American culture relevant here? I thought we were talking about a religious holiday (Christmas), and that if the religion is sincere then you're trying to lead pe
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by kaitai 6y ago
Do you say Happy Birthday to people when you know it's not their birthday? It's pretty much that simple. It's just good manners and common sense. As someone whose heritage comes from a fairly radical side of European Christia
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by kaitai 6y ago
There are different kinds of powering through. I powered through writing my dissertation and got a PhD. I powered through a workout that felt wrong and got rhabdomyolysis. You win some, you lose some. Consider the risks and the rewards.
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by kaitai 6y ago
Hey, this ties in with the Weak Man Superweapon thread! https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25876554
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by kaitai 6y ago
I think this is so weird. I live in a "democrat-run city" to use a phrase popularized by the weird right, and people here say Merry Christmas if someone says Merry Christmas to them or they know each other from church, and say Hap
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by kaitai 6y ago
We need reform in the system, though. I know two heterosexual couples in different states with decent jobs, good finances, deep desire to adopt, commitment. (I mention heterosexual only because there has long been stigma against same-sex co
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by kaitai 6y ago
How does it "belittle activists" to make a comparison?
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by kaitai 6y ago
Wow, looks like free speech went here to die! Police are raiding her house, pointing guns at her kids, continuing to come back with technically illiterate and nonsensical reasons to arrest her, because she's said something that someone
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by kaitai 6y ago
The best educated voter -- any voter in fact -- can also run for office and transform the party. I dislike the rhetoric you're using that implies the parties are outside and beyond the reach of "normal" citizens. Of course th
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by kaitai 6y ago
Unlike many folks here, I agree with you (in that a lot of focus on productivity makes me sad). For a point of contrast, though, every now & then I'll log my activities for a week -- just a week -- as a way of auditing my commitmen
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by kaitai 6y ago
It is useful to look at history. Women have always worked (other than a particular subset of rich women and then, in the US and western Europe in the 1900s, a slightly broader subset of well-off women). It's just that much of that work
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by kaitai 6y ago
As a non-royal yet non-poor person, I have to disagree, in that I find teaching my kids how to live a life an important part of both parenting and living these days. By that, I mean that the actions of learning how to clean up after oneself
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by kaitai 6y ago
What are the public threats that you are citing? And what is the recourse Anima has in this fight? Pedro tweets sexual innuendo about her porn habits, and truly, what is there to do? All these fights are asymmetrical. That is why I am angry
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by kaitai 6y ago
Name some names. Who is fired?
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by kaitai 6y ago
Who is off Twitter? Turns out it's only Anima Anandkumar. No one else in this particular saga. Whose career is destroyed? Pedro is still doing fine. Enumerate the damage for me, please, in dollars or jobs.

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