MIT apparently just instituted some parental leave policies for grad students. I go my PhD about ten years ago, and we did not have parental leave policies acro

MIT apparently just instituted some parental leave policies for grad students. I go my PhD about ten years ago, and we did not have parental leave policies across departments at that time. What bugs me about much of the discussion is that many of the commenters here are talking about how ideal a stay-at-home parent (mom) is, while not acknowledging that fact that actually being a stay-at-home parent involves lots of not staying at home and making arrangements so that you can get time not with your kid or doing less intensive supervision of your kid, but still firmly holding that you are more virtuous if you are sitting on your porch drinking wine with other mommies while the kids play, or cleaning up their poop, than if you are in a standup about what's happening this sprint and your kid is in daycare playing with the other kids and having poop cleaned up by someone who gets some money for the task. Something just seems lost in the rhetoric.