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by fleddr 4y ago
To simplify the reasoning about this dynamic, I call it the duck lip effect. At what point did "society" ask for duck lips? Where exactly did specifically men ask for it and actively select for it? If anything, they widely reject
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by fleddr 4y ago
Yes, I was wrong on all accounts. And even though locals will readily confirm and admit to these cultural issues and are equally frustrated by it, it's best to pretend they don't exist. Because I said it. And obviously my only pos
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by fleddr 4y ago
Recently an organization representing war news reporters was distressed by the rise in female reporters getting killed, 6 more than the year before. The fact that 85% of killed reporters were men...ah, well. Men are not doing alright. And o
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by fleddr 4y ago
It's amazing how easily you skim over the behavior that women don't marry down. It's always been a selfish behavior void of love, but I suppose that one can find rationalization in needing stability and protection if one is t
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by fleddr 4y ago
Exactly. So boys are hurting and the conclusion is: do better. We'll just add that to the ever growing list that defines Mr Perfect. Imagine that in this particular article we'd say to teen girls: your mental health issues are ima
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by fleddr 4y ago
Cherry-picked examples. I could easily do the same and claim that men are undervalued. They are sacrificed in wars, make up the main portion of the homeless and they do the hardest and dirtiest work to provide the modern infrastructure of t
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by fleddr 4y ago
"But as far as I can tell, there is no causal evidence between femaleness and social media addiction or suicidal ideation" And yet the charts look wildly different.
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by fleddr 4y ago
"We" as in a total society or specifically as men do not stack any of these specific expectations on young girls. Young girls do this to each other. The influencers are girls and followed by girls. Instagram is girl territory and
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by fleddr 4y ago
This is the Chinese approach and this is one of few things where I'm not creeped out by it. Enforced max screen time and content is forcefully educational, fun, age-appropriate. Nobody likes this but the consequences of not taking acti
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by fleddr 4y ago
I get what you're saying but we shouldn't escalate this into a type of prison gang situation, there's significant middle ground. When the research is becoming clear that these dynamics and these years of a teen life cause so
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by fleddr 4y ago
This feels very similar to a manager with late night emails. A type of hostage situation.
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by fleddr 4y ago
I would add that beyond the effects of it crushing one's self-image, it also messes with your world view. Social media presents the world as nothing but doom and gloom whilst in reality it's not that bad.
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by fleddr 4y ago
"I believe that using social media could actually have greater benefits for me, such as being able to record Tiktok dances with my friends" It was believable until the agenda was revealed :) See, dinosaur me would insist that youn
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by fleddr 4y ago
I'm childless so it may come across as arrogant to give any advise. One thing I learned from observing the teenagers of my friends is that they don't want this either. We're adults and talking and a bunch of kids sit in a row
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by fleddr 4y ago
I consider digitization in general to be destroying mental health. Social media, delivery services, dating using an app, virtual working, the list goes on. They create a touchless society where we no longer connect with real people and bare
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by fleddr 4y ago
Let's admit that HN's culture is that many of us are confidentially wrong, which we cover up with impressive technical jargon. As such, any wrong answer in this AI is in fact correct.
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by fleddr 4y ago
I'm from the Netherlands, one of the most light-polluted areas on the planet and had my first proper dark night only in my 30s. It was in South Africa. We were driving with a roofed jeep on some plains in search of nocturnal wildlife.
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by fleddr 4y ago
On Twitter recently a Nigerian business man shared some of his frustrations which I found insightful. He started a bar. Yet later discovered that his business partner was reselling booze via the back door, pocketing this money for himself.
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by fleddr 4y ago
Brutal, but I couldn't agree more. Sure, by exception it's possible for one to have a deep emotional connection to a piece of art or the artist, but in general I don't think anybody is curious at all beyond it looking good&#x
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by fleddr 4y ago
"In light of both attacks, we notify the maintainers of each affected dataset and recommended several low-overhead defenses." Such a disappointing ending.
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by fleddr 4y ago
I would think yes. A curious mind plus endless opportunities to distract and entertain yourself creates the night owl. Being introverted may also contribute to the behavior.
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by fleddr 4y ago
It's hard to say who is truly a night owl and for who it's a lifestyle. I've always considered myself to be a night owl. I struggle to go to bed on time. Yet on some of my lengthy remote travels I learned it's all bullsh
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by fleddr 4y ago
I'm not confused, your definition of censorship is just weird and impractical. Yes, I can write what I want in my personal word editor but quite obviously that's not the topic at hand in a discussion on social networks.
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by fleddr 4y ago
The paywall is a writer option, indeed one can opt-out.
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by fleddr 4y ago
What does that even mean?
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by fleddr 4y ago
"Its the same kind of freedom the copy machine or the home word processor gives." Thanks for confirming my point, glad you agree.
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by fleddr 4y ago
Really weird that a very obvious choice, Medium, did not make the cut. I'm quite aware of how unpopular it is here on HN, but that's mostly a meme. It doesn't cost anything and there's no ads. Even linking your domain to
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by fleddr 4y ago
Project this into the future and all text written past and new will be converted into a bland gray blob catering to any imagined sensitivities, including those still to be invented. "Updated for a modern audience" as they say, whe
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by fleddr 4y ago
Quite the contradiction. Mastodon has more censorship, not less.
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by fleddr 4y ago
My guy, dude...I didn't contradict the idea that the Netherlands has superior transit options compared to the US. I was giving push-back against the idea that the Dutch situation is utopian as if some kind of paradise. It isn't.

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