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by dsnuh 8y ago
How it works (unless you settle for some amount, which I did, which ended up biting me in the ass when our stock took a 30% haircut, but I digress...) is that there is a community property interest in all assets earned during the marriage,
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by dsnuh 8y ago
No offense taken! Divorce is a shit sandwich, no matter which end you are on. If I may ask, were attorneys involved on either side in your case? I suspect that is the main differentiator between my experience and others that I have talked w
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Look, I'm bitter and angry about my situation, so take this with a grain of salt... I feel like the incompatibility we had in regards to savings, financial discipline, etc., should have been a much bigger red flag to me. If you are hav
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by dsnuh 8y ago
If you are expecting logic to rule in this domain, you're in for some disappointment. Edit: I'll give you a concrete example - let's say my ex-wife decides to marry the systems engineer she is dating, who is also a high-earne
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by dsnuh 8y ago
San Diego, and yes, bought a home in 2006 (smart move!) before we got married. The mortgage, deed, title, everything was in my name only, as my ex-wife (girlfriend at the time) had shitty credit, and zero savings. The house was deeply under
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Please see my response above, I wasn't clear in my original post, my apologies.
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by dsnuh 8y ago
I honestly doubt I am that far off an outlier based on this being HN... Edit: To be clear, I mean that I suspect that there are a number of high-earning individuals on this forum that have assets like property, retirement accounts, stock op
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by dsnuh 8y ago
It's almost three years out, and I still feel hopeless about being able to salvage my life financially.
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Those all applied in my case, and I simplified my original statement too much (I lost more than half because that's where I had saved funds that I had to use in the divorce to "offset" the other party's interest). My apo
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Sorry, I was sort of vague here. Basically, I had to give $105,000 (half) of the 401K to my ex-wife, I had to pay her out for potential values of my stock options and RSU's (have fun valuing those!), I had Smith-Ostler riders attached
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by dsnuh 8y ago
It was 10 years ago that I was 32, but at that point in time I had over $100K easily in my 401K. By the time I divorced three years ago, I had over $200K in there. After the divorce, I have about $20K left after having to split it with my e
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by dsnuh 8y ago
No, I don't see "social bifurcation" (which I think needs to be defined) happening over drivers licensing requirements. Over race? Sure. Over systemic income/opportunity inequalities? You bet. But over driving? I just d
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by dsnuh 8y ago
It wasn't obvious to me either. It sounded like you made an argument that at least 30% of people shouldn't be allowed to drive, and then leaping to that leading to some sort of societal bifurcation? Your argument or point isn&#x27
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Yeah, when I hear "bad neighborhood", I think more of property related crime, graffiti, loitering, abandoned/neglected houses, etc.
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Norton, Kasperky, Dell, Wolfram, HP, Cray, HTC, Bose...
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Not attempting to discount your experience, just wondering why you refer to being mugged as a "gender-fueled hate crime"?
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by dsnuh 8y ago
I was trying to make the same point, I think? I was just trying to note that I have done the single contact lens thing as well, and even after just a few hours, your brain starts compensating for it.
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by dsnuh 8y ago
This is the feeling I get as well. Tighter integration with Kubernetes gets more people interested in using GCP and GKE.
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Did you play with only one eye open, or just one contact lens? I have worse vision than you (-8.0, -7.50), and I know that I can still function with just one lens in of needed. You definitely still have stereo vision even if one input is bl
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by dsnuh 8y ago
For #2 - Maybe try setting up your own Kubernetes cluster on a cloud service provider, without using shortcuts? Perhaps etcd and the Raft protocol would be interesting and helpful in some cases, but leans more towards #1. For #1 - CAP Theor
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Reminds me also of the opening of John Dies At The End. https://imdb.com/title/tt1783732/
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Are you forgetting about POKE and PEEK?
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by dsnuh 8y ago
I understand what you are saying, places are whatever people agree to call them, but I don't doubt that real estate agents, developers, etc are eager to have places called by new names when they are gentrifying the area.
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by dsnuh 8y ago
There's also divorce. Trust me, it can drop you down to 1 in a heartbeat.
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by dsnuh 8y ago
I've noticed this before too. It has all the real names for these areas that people use, but with so much noise thrown in. I'm happy to see my old stomping grounds of Golden Hill are regulated to about 6 blocks now in Google Maps.
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by dsnuh 8y ago
I'm in San Diego, and with the housing prices, I'm sure it's a constant search for areas that gentrifiers can afford. The last neighborhood to pop was Barrio Logan, which used to be a very rough neighborhood. Now it's yo
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by dsnuh 8y ago
The guy's apartment building isn't called Silver Lake Heights, what he did was start using the term "Silver Lake Heights" to describe an area previously known as "Silver Lake". Realtors often drive the naming o
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by dsnuh 8y ago
It is really even that. Just because it may not be logical or make sense, family bonds amd familial love are still a thing, even in families with lots of problems.
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by dsnuh 8y ago
What are your criteria?
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by dsnuh 8y ago
Are you sure you're not actually saying "poor parents shouldn't be allowed to raise their children"?

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