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I'm 13 and None of My Friends Use Facebook
- minimaxir 13y agoNow, when we are old enough to get Facebook, we don’t want it. By the time we could have Facebooks, we were already obsessed with Instagram. Facebook was just this thing all our parents seemed to have. There's a lot of unintentional irony in that statement.
- EliRivers 13y agoI like this bit best: I love Facebook, really I do... I think it's a great idea for a website, and I wish Facebook the best of luck. Utterly dismissive. Facebook is some kind of niche website for grandparents.
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- cko 13y agoI'm sorry, but at the risk of boring all the HN readers who "got it", I must ask for an explanation of what "unintentional irony" you saw. Were her verb tenses all mixed up? English is my primary language and I can't even really tell.
- infinite_snoop 13y agoMaybe the fact that Instagram was aquired by FB?
- Aardwolf 13y ago> I’m a teen living in New York. All of my friends have social networks — Instagram <snip> Isn't Instagram part of Facebook?
- asperous 13y agoI think it's owned by, and integrated with partially. I'm pretty sure Facebook saw this coming (kids parents having Facebook, so kids no longer thinking it was cool), and that's why they jumped on the sale of insta.
- rickyc091 13y agoYep, and most kids don't realize that Instagram is owned by Facebook. It seems these days Instagram and Kik are the big things. (I teach middle school children).
- dictum 13y agoGood. EDIT: My overly clever pithiness that doesn't add to the discussion stems from having seen too many similar posts for every social network or mobile app since the early 2000s. Any service that relies heavily on everyone buying in will eventually lose steam, in part for cultural reasons[1] and also because other companies find areas where they can improve and desires that hadn't been tapped yet. So, for a big social network to survive for decades and become an entrenched part of everyone's lives, it has to become like infrastructure. I suppose one way to do that is to continually buy new hot companies, as Facebook did to Instagram. Instagram too shall pass. But when I read the headline, I did wish her friends were just finding new interests, and the new interests were taking too much time and leaving none to spend on FB. [1] Imagine that Seinfeld was still being produced to this day.
- EliRivers 13y agoImagine that Seinfeld was still being produced to this day. Or the Simpsons! That would have stopped being funny in the nineties and now it'd be wheeled out each week just begging to be put of its misery.
- gavingmiller 13y agoOr maybe you're no longer part of the culture that the Simpsons is relevant to...
- dools 13y agoAs a side note check out @SeinfeldToday
- coldtea 13y ago>Imagine that Seinfeld was still being produced to this day. I don't get the obsession with Seinfeld. It wasn't funny even in it's day.
- thristian 13y agoAlthough I was rather fond of Seinfeld when it first aired, I can understand why it's particular sense of humour wasn't for everyone. These days, of course, there's also http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/SeinfeldIsUnfunny http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/SeinfeldIsUnfunny to contend with.
- vertr 13y agoWait till she gets to college... then the value increases substantially.
- singingfish 13y agoI agree. I have a 13 year old and she has a facebook account which she doesn't use.
- denzil_correa 13y agoI read this particular part with great interest Facebook is also a big source of bullying in middle school. Kids might comment something mean on a photo of you, or message you mean things. This isn’t Facebook's fault, but again, it does happen there. If my mom heard I was getting bullied on Facebook, she would tell me to quit right away. The power wars have caught on Facebook too.
- evincarofautumn 13y agoWhat’s silly is the parent’s (hypothetical) reaction. It’s as if they would take a kid out of school for being bullied in class, instead of trying to solve the actual problem.
- clubhi 13y agoI'm 30 and have plenty of 13 year old friends on facebook.
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- insteadof 13y agoDo they know you're 30?
- gamegoblin 13y agoI assume nieces/nephews/younger cousins?
- to3m 13y agoMy brother is a secondary school teacher, and at one point would fairly often get friend requests from his pupils. I thought this a little odd. So did he. But in the end he figured out which box to tick so that they could be his friend, without actually letting them see anything, and this seemed to keep everybody happy. (The subject hasn't come up recently so I don't know whether this is still the case, or whether his pupils have moved on to some other system, probably one that I've never heard of.)
- mhurron 13y agoPerhaps you should have a seat over there.
- logn 13y agoI'm 30. All my friends use facebook and it's been very hard for me to leave. I have left though and literally have lost contact with people merely because they always forget to invite me to things, and we've gone our separate ways. When I joined The Facebook, it was just a fun place for college kids. When I left it was a mega evil empire where you could lose your job, be put in prison, get lectures from concerned parents, and upset people. That's not fun, so I've logged off forever now.
- threeseed 13y agoIf you are indeed 30 then you should know that Facebook isn't to blame because your country has screwed up privacy laws or because you don't know how to send posts to specific people.
- michalu 13y agoWow, have got some unresolved personal issues to respond that way? It's not about privacy and posting, I left facebook too, it has not much to offer and I find it a waste of time. There are better options to connect or spend time online for a 30 year old, it's as simple as that.
- threeseed 13y agoWhat are you talking about ? The OP WAS talking about privacy and posting. To which you have completely ignored and replied with your own Facebook personal story.
- logn 13y agoIt's less about privacy and more about people taking facebook too seriously. I'd rather have geocities and myspace back like they were... or facebook circa 2005. Or like HN, no one actually cares what you say on here, with very few and occasional exceptions. I think once you design a site to replicate your in-real-life identity and social interactions, it becomes too serious and not fun.
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- recursive 13y agoI thought minors were disallowed by the TOS? But then, I am hopelessly out of touch.
- 67726e 13y agoGenerally the demarcation line of age is 13 in the US due to the Children's Online Privacy Protection Act[1] [1] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Children's_Online_Privacy_Protection_Act http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Children's_Online_Privacy_Prote...
- hobs 13y agoI thought COPPA allowed a guardian to approve?
- icebraining 13y agoYeah, but it adds a bunch of requirements on the operators that most don't want to have to abide by; it's easier to just ban <13 year olds.
- hobs 13y agoYeah, that makes sense.
- mikek 13y agoThis is anecdotal... not necessarily indicating a trend.
- gk1 13y agoTrue, but so are most op-ed pieces. It's a given that this is going to be one person's opinion and not necessarily everyone else's.
- holyjaw 13y agoThere's a meta conversation to be had here about how this 13-year old girl had a well written op-ed piece posted on Mashable. Her bio there links to hellogiggles[1] where she is apparently a regular contributer. Arguably not the most prestigious publications nor the best writing, but I am still super impressed with her work. [1]: http://hellogiggles.com/author/ruby-karp http://hellogiggles.com/author/ruby-karp
- beloch 13y agoI thought the article was very well written given her age. I do hope "Ruby Karp" is a pen name though. If not... Poor girl!
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- cgag 13y ago13 and already over facebook. I'm glad I at least got to have a childhood largely free of the internet and social media.
- leoedin 13y agoThis isn't something new. When I was a teenager there was a whole load of pre-social-network blogging platforms, then along came Myspace, then Bebo, then Facebook. Everybody spent hours every night on MSN messenger. The aspects that I use facebook for most - keeping in touch with fairly widely spread social groups - are not really relevant to a 13 year old. I don't think I'd have needed anything as complex as Facebook when I was 13. 13 year olds like to message each other, be it via SMS, IM or some social networking platform du-jour. Their messages are disposable nonsense that don't really need anything like the complexity of Facebook.
- coldcode 13y agoExactly, its like saying teenagers don't use email. Everyone they care about is close by, you want to keep in close contact. Once you get past college many of your friends are very distant and you need slow asynchronous methods to keep in touch. Both my age friends from college and the next generation I met volunteering at a local university use Facebook for that exact reason.
- dageshi 13y agoI've always felt that facebook was a better contacts management system than what came before, the "social" bit e.g. snooping on other peoples lives was just a really good way of keeping you engaged because it didn't exist before in such an accessible way. I kind of wonder though whether we won't see a kind of craigslist aftermath effect, where craigslist comes along and provides a service which everyone wanted and then other startups choose particular niches and attempt to do them better.
- badclient 13y agoBecause you're 13.
- bgroins 13y agoFacebook is so insignificant to her that she wrote an article about it.
- logicallee 13y agoHonestly, I doubt she wrote that. Why would she? This sounds like the work of a hoverparent. > Facebook used to be all I could talk about when I was younger. “Mom, I want a Facebook!” and other whining only a mother could put up with. Sounds to me like the mother wrote that. Bet you anything her mom's a journalist.
- icebraining 13y agoWell, her mother is Marcelle Karp, a "feminist writer, editor, and television director and producer". But it seems Ruby herself writes (and performs live) quite a lot, so I don't see why we should assume she hasn't written this.
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- tjculbertson 13y agoAgree with Logicallee. If you read it again the teen language and syntax is odd. "Dumb-dumb posted..." I don't think a 13 year old as smart and hip to the latest trends would be caught dead using dumb dumb past 4th grade. Maybe mom is short Facebook and is getting squeezed with all this damn mobile revenue coming in :)
- hbnyc 13y agoBut they all use the hell out of a facebook owned company...
- jff 13y ago"A Facebook", "An Instagram", "We all had Instagrams", am I the only person who finds this incredibly annoying? "Ten movies streaming across that, that Internet, and what happens to your own personal Internet? I just the other day got… an Internet"
- jt2190 13y agoFrench and Spanish speakers put articles in front of everything, and none of them seem too bothered by it.
- Gormo 13y agoIndefinite articles?
- mhurron 13y agoYa, kids really aren't up on technology. But seriously, the internet is not something you just dump things on, it's not a big truck.
- discostrings 13y agoThis, along with "I put it on my Facebook" and even "Do you have Facebook?" bother me every time I hear them. Unfortunately, this usage seems to be gaining momentum even outside colloquial conversation--I cringed when I first saw "Your Firefox is up to date". While on the surface it's just a peculiarity, I think there's also an aspect of this sort of usage that masks the very notion of how things work. It subtly leads one to feel more that these are personalized, bespoke services rather than massive projects. I generally try to take a descriptivist approach to language usage, but this one makes me cringe a little every time.
- freshyill 13y agoSomeone should write a blog about this topic.
- joonix 13y agoLike it or not, language is always evolving. Someone older than you was annoyed by your teenage vernacular as well. Writing "account" after everything is kind of silly when I think about it. These aren't banks or wholesale vendors. I'm not sure what my Instagram "account" involves, it's just file storage. After all, we all understand what they mean by "I got an instagram," and it seems like English is always leaning towards function over form.
- bobbles 13y agoWhile I still have my facebook account, I've completely stopped posting updates. The number one reason is my dad and auties and uncles turn every post I make into a family conversation and theres nothing lamer than having your party photos discussed by your parents
- needacig 13y agoI'm no Facebook fanboy, but to the criticism about what happens when your friends share incriminating posts, I exasperatedly say: quit complaining and learn to use your privacy and sharing settings. The issue of bullying is a serious and valid criticism though. I'm glad social networks weren't a thing when I was a teenager.
- adventured 13y agoAmusingly, Facebook is primed to be disrupted by a college social network. College is a high density social time in your life, and you're making a ton of new friends; those attributes among others make it ideal to escape the Facebook network effect. No teenager really wants to hang out on the same social network as their parents.
- gdilla 13y agoWell this was obvious. When Facebook started, your parents, and grandparents had no idea what it was. And therefore it was interesting. Now, it's like a perfunctory listing of every human you know, including family members. It's like a phonebook. Employers look at it. Your Mom sees it. Is that fun? No, it's just mundane. Teenagers today see their parents using it all the time and think, well, what can I do on there that's fun? Ya.. Tell my grandma I did well in math class. Whupeee. When we 30 somethings were young, our rents knew nothing of what we did online. And isn't that what we liked about it, at least in part?
- superuser2 13y agoOnce you start to have a wider social network and meet new people (i.e., when multiple middle schools feed into a single high school, you can drive and develop friendships with people in other districts), email-like messaging by real name because a killer app and Facebook dominates. I could not imagine, for example, navigating the landscape of my new college class of '17 online on a pseudonymous service like Instagram. Facebook is perfect for this.
- honestcoyote 13y agoThis is true of my niece and her friends. When she was 11 and early 12, she was kinda obsessed with facebook, mainly because it was forbidden. But, now that she can get on it, she doesn't care much. Instagram, Snapchat, and sms are the way they all communicate. She thinks about getting a facebook account just to talk to the adult relatives that she likes and so she can annoy her mum with silly pics, but that's essentially putting facebook in the old people camp. And, knowing her laziness, I think in the end she probably won't even bother with it.
- jongraehl 13y agoSince the are so many suitable alternatives, what all the kids are doing varies from school to school. So this is just an isolated anecdote.
- drill_sarge 13y agoI only use Facebook to message other people and nothing else. Didn't look at all the other stuff (games and all that crap) for years. Also my usage of FB has declined rapidly lately. Mostly I and my buddies use better services for just messaging. but: for me IRC is still around and never gets old. None of these fancy new social whatever stuff will beat it.