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This sounds incredibly judgemental and imposing of your own world view and moral compass

bandie91 17d ago
what is so "incredibly" and "imposing" in the parent comment, that saying «my experience is…», «i feel more in it than many imagine/expect», «factually ruins many lifes», and «it just seem working this way», even «remove the judgment element» ?? it is as gently and friendly of a warning as it could be. i would say rather less nicely: people! don't be degenerate! it does not worth it. it causes harm to you, to neighbours, to bystanders too, even if you dont intend.
- freehorse 17d ago
  Well OP claiming they get "bothered, upset and irritated" by people having "rape kinks" and "pitying them" sounds kind of judgemental to me. Same goes with "don't be degenerate" for sexual behaviours you do not approve that, somehow, also harm one's neighbours for some reason.
  - pigpop 17d ago
    Something being judgemental is not a reason to dismiss it.
    - freehorse 17d ago
      Imo judgemental as in starting from "my life experience" and getting to that's "how to live" is a reason to dismiss it as an argument, as others may have different life experiences and yours is not universal.
    - preg_match 17d ago
      It is when there’s no concrete reasoning behind it. The reasoning provided here is “well I don’t like it, therefore it must be bad!” That kind of thinking would be acceptable if we were like… 8 years old. But as an adult, having that reasoning process is embarrassing.
- tuesdaynight 17d ago
  How having lot of sex would cause harm to my neighbours?
  - stickfigure 17d ago
    Puritanism: The haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be having a good time.
  - MC995 17d ago
    I'm sure OP would argue that the breakdown of the family structure and social cohesion has a deleterious effect on society as a whole, which includes your neighbors.
    - tuesdaynight 17d ago
      It's really a hard time for freedoms, huh?
  - krageon 17d ago
    They might get sad because they feel like they're missing out
- deinonychus 17d ago
  >There's a proper and healthy way to live. dude straight up said other people are Doing Life Wrong

what is so "incredibly" and "imposing" in the parent comment, that saying «my experience is…», «i feel more in it than many imagine/expect», «factually ruins many lifes», and «it just seem working this way», even «remove the judgment element» ?? it is as gently and friendly of a warning as it could be. i would say rather less nicely: people! don't be degenerate! it does not worth it. it causes harm to you, to neighbours, to bystanders too, even if you dont intend.

freehorse 17d ago
Well OP claiming they get "bothered, upset and irritated" by people having "rape kinks" and "pitying them" sounds kind of judgemental to me. Same goes with "don't be degenerate" for sexual behaviours you do not approve that, somehow, also harm one's neighbours for some reason.
- pigpop 17d ago
  Something being judgemental is not a reason to dismiss it.
  - freehorse 17d ago
    Imo judgemental as in starting from "my life experience" and getting to that's "how to live" is a reason to dismiss it as an argument, as others may have different life experiences and yours is not universal.
  - preg_match 17d ago
    It is when there’s no concrete reasoning behind it. The reasoning provided here is “well I don’t like it, therefore it must be bad!” That kind of thinking would be acceptable if we were like… 8 years old. But as an adult, having that reasoning process is embarrassing.
tuesdaynight 17d ago
How having lot of sex would cause harm to my neighbours?
- stickfigure 17d ago
  Puritanism: The haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be having a good time.
- MC995 17d ago
  I'm sure OP would argue that the breakdown of the family structure and social cohesion has a deleterious effect on society as a whole, which includes your neighbors.
  - tuesdaynight 17d ago
    It's really a hard time for freedoms, huh?
- krageon 17d ago
  They might get sad because they feel like they're missing out
deinonychus 17d ago
>There's a proper and healthy way to live. dude straight up said other people are Doing Life Wrong