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Child-locked devices can already whitelist/blacklist sites and apps. The issue is not capability. And before anyone blames the parents, parents will always be

Child-locked devices can already whitelist/blacklist sites and apps. The issue is not capability. And before anyone blames the parents, parents will always be shitty. They are an impediment to children's health society must work around. I wish we would just pull the plug on ad-based social media altogether. The incentives add up to destroying society.

forgetfreeman 2mo ago
"parents will always be shitty" Maybe cut nontechnicals a little slack? Their adversaries have invested literally billions of dollars in R&D.
- throwaway27448 2mo ago
  This isn't a question of technicality....
  - adolph 2mo ago
    Ok, what is your stack? Which MDM did you put on your tween's devices? What about the 15 year old who really wants Graphene OS? Do they VPN back to your home network to ensure your DNS and IP block based filtering applies to their mobile usage? Are you caching the teachers' recommended YouTube videos to Plex from the YTDL container or just monitoring their watch list stats of brain rot shorts?
    - iamnothere 2mo ago
      He’s saying that parents will always allow their kids to see, think, learn, and say things that he believes should be off limits, with government stepping in to decide that.
      - forgetfreeman 2mo ago
        I mean I think we can all broadly agree that showing snuff and hardcore porn to 11 yr olds is objectively bad. There is a line, we just might not agree on exactly where it should be placed.
        iamnothere 2mo ago
        Are you saying that most parents show this stuff to their kids? > And before anyone blames the parents, parents will always be shitty. They are an impediment to children's health society must work around. This is what I was referencing. Your reply is a non sequitur here.
        forgetfreeman 2mo ago
        I'm saying most parents are perfectly powerless to prevent their children from seeing shit like that on the internet. Hell there's snuff on YouTube. Hardly a non sequitur.
        iamnothere 2mo ago
        It’s still a non sequitur because it’s not the argument I was responding to (which I found bizarre). I’m not really interested in rehashing general “must protect the children” arguments, sorry.
      - doright 2mo ago
        Some parents will berate their kids or discipline them inappropriately and instill stress and anxiety in them that causes them to seek out things that should be off limits. It's easier to see a solution for the second issue when the first is not socially acceptable to talk about out loud. Nobody wants to be told they are parenting their own kids inappropriately. But in some cases, that just reality. Tech CEOs are a 100% reliable source of blame; parents - the people who are physically around their children the most - are not. (Source: myself. The best I managed to escape childhood with was C-PTSD, and I have had to get therapy to be able to manage my digital device usage ever since.)
        iamnothere 2mo ago
        So rather than work on the first problem, which is admittedly difficult, you want to remove the outlet that helps them cope? What do you imagine to be the most immediate consequences?
  - forgetfreeman 2mo ago
    Except technicality absolutely factors in. Sure there's mouthbreathers out there that exercise no oversight at all over the content their kids are exposed to but there's also a large group of well-intentioned parents that would likely do a much better job at this if the bar wasn't set quite so high.
skybrian 2mo ago
I don't think passively assuming you'll end up on the relevant lists is going to do it for websites that need to keep kids out for whatever reason.
- throwaway27448 2mo ago
  Regulating such a list seems like a very backwards and expensive way to do this when kids will just use their parents identity (or make up one wholesale). Surely this is really about trying to hold people liable for speech politicians and lobbyists don't like.
wavemode 2mo ago
> And before anyone blames the parents, parents will always be shitty. They are an impediment to children's health society must work around. ...huh? This is completely backwards. We should be making laws that punish parents for failing to parent properly. Not laws that punish everyone. If we pass a law that children under a certain age may not use social media, then giving your child a non-child-locked device should be treated the same way we treat giving your child alcohol or cigarettes.
- fc417fc802 2mo ago
  I get what you're saying but > should be treated the same way we treat giving your child alcohol or cigarettes. In many (perhaps most?) places that's completely legal provided you're the legal guardian, you're present, not in public, etc, etc.
adolph 2mo ago
> And before anyone blames the parents, parents will always be shitty. They are an impediment to children's health society must work around. Zuckerberg was not a parent when he conceived of Facebook and "society" as a whole is pushing social media on kids, not parents.
txrx0000 2mo ago
Parents generally have their own children's best interests in mind. If you personally have kids, feel free to delegate responsibility to someone else, since you believe that you're shitty to your own child. But you do not get to decide how to parent other people's children.
hvb2 2mo ago
> parents will always be shitty. They are an impediment to children's health society must work around. The health of kids with parents is infinitely better than those without. Just saying

forgetfreeman 2mo ago

"parents will always be shitty" Maybe cut nontechnicals a little slack? Their adversaries have invested literally billions of dollars in R&D.

throwaway27448 2mo ago
This isn't a question of technicality....
- adolph 2mo ago
  Ok, what is your stack? Which MDM did you put on your tween's devices? What about the 15 year old who really wants Graphene OS? Do they VPN back to your home network to ensure your DNS and IP block based filtering applies to their mobile usage? Are you caching the teachers' recommended YouTube videos to Plex from the YTDL container or just monitoring their watch list stats of brain rot shorts?
  - iamnothere 2mo ago
    He’s saying that parents will always allow their kids to see, think, learn, and say things that he believes should be off limits, with government stepping in to decide that.
    - forgetfreeman 2mo ago
      I mean I think we can all broadly agree that showing snuff and hardcore porn to 11 yr olds is objectively bad. There is a line, we just might not agree on exactly where it should be placed.
      - iamnothere 2mo ago
        Are you saying that most parents show this stuff to their kids? > And before anyone blames the parents, parents will always be shitty. They are an impediment to children's health society must work around. This is what I was referencing. Your reply is a non sequitur here.
        forgetfreeman 2mo ago
        I'm saying most parents are perfectly powerless to prevent their children from seeing shit like that on the internet. Hell there's snuff on YouTube. Hardly a non sequitur.
        iamnothere 2mo ago
        It’s still a non sequitur because it’s not the argument I was responding to (which I found bizarre). I’m not really interested in rehashing general “must protect the children” arguments, sorry.
    - doright 2mo ago
      Some parents will berate their kids or discipline them inappropriately and instill stress and anxiety in them that causes them to seek out things that should be off limits. It's easier to see a solution for the second issue when the first is not socially acceptable to talk about out loud. Nobody wants to be told they are parenting their own kids inappropriately. But in some cases, that just reality. Tech CEOs are a 100% reliable source of blame; parents - the people who are physically around their children the most - are not. (Source: myself. The best I managed to escape childhood with was C-PTSD, and I have had to get therapy to be able to manage my digital device usage ever since.)
      - iamnothere 2mo ago
        So rather than work on the first problem, which is admittedly difficult, you want to remove the outlet that helps them cope? What do you imagine to be the most immediate consequences?
- forgetfreeman 2mo ago
  Except technicality absolutely factors in. Sure there's mouthbreathers out there that exercise no oversight at all over the content their kids are exposed to but there's also a large group of well-intentioned parents that would likely do a much better job at this if the bar wasn't set quite so high.

skybrian 2mo ago

I don't think passively assuming you'll end up on the relevant lists is going to do it for websites that need to keep kids out for whatever reason.

throwaway27448 2mo ago
Regulating such a list seems like a very backwards and expensive way to do this when kids will just use their parents identity (or make up one wholesale). Surely this is really about trying to hold people liable for speech politicians and lobbyists don't like.

wavemode 2mo ago

> And before anyone blames the parents, parents will always be shitty. They are an impediment to children's health society must work around. ...huh? This is completely backwards. We should be making laws that punish parents for failing to parent properly. Not laws that punish everyone. If we pass a law that children under a certain age may not use social media, then giving your child a non-child-locked device should be treated the same way we treat giving your child alcohol or cigarettes.

fc417fc802 2mo ago
I get what you're saying but > should be treated the same way we treat giving your child alcohol or cigarettes. In many (perhaps most?) places that's completely legal provided you're the legal guardian, you're present, not in public, etc, etc.

adolph 2mo ago

> And before anyone blames the parents, parents will always be shitty. They are an impediment to children's health society must work around. Zuckerberg was not a parent when he conceived of Facebook and "society" as a whole is pushing social media on kids, not parents.

txrx0000 2mo ago

Parents generally have their own children's best interests in mind. If you personally have kids, feel free to delegate responsibility to someone else, since you believe that you're shitty to your own child. But you do not get to decide how to parent other people's children.

hvb2 2mo ago

> parents will always be shitty. They are an impediment to children's health society must work around. The health of kids with parents is infinitely better than those without. Just saying