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I always tell my daughter to be a kind person because there is currently an oversupply of assholes. I try to compliment someone on something whenever I go out a

I always tell my daughter to be a kind person because there is currently an oversupply of assholes. I try to compliment someone on something whenever I go out and about. I like your hair, I like your shirt, etc. It's the simple things. The author and their anecdotes seem like compulsive behavior/thinking. They'll hopefully get over it once life beats them down a bit more. Just be good to people, don't over think it.

f1shy 2y ago
> there is currently an oversupply of assholes. I say always that, and also of stupids, and the 2 are extremely difficult to tell apart.
matwood 2y ago
> I try to compliment someone on something whenever I go out and about. And if you can't do that, just ask people how are they doing.
jimt1234 2y ago
> there is currently an oversupply of assholes. My grandpa used to say, "There are more horses' asses than there are horses." Looks like there's a history around that quote: https://quoteinvestigator.com/2024/11/15/horses-ass/ https://quoteinvestigator.com/2024/11/15/horses-ass/
atmosx 2y ago
> I always tell my daughter to be a kind person because there is currently an oversupply of assholes. I'm sorry to hear that. I don't want to come across as harsh, but your approach/wording seems condescending, egotistical, and ultimately an empty way to live. Wise people learn by observing others (as the saying goes), but allowing others to dictate who you are reflects a lack of character IMO.
- Dfiesl 2y ago
  I'm guessing from your reply that you don't think its important to emphasise kindness as part of supporting your childrens' growth. If that is the case, what do you emphasise if anything?
  - atmosx 2y ago
    You're guessing wrong. Kindness has a merit on it's own and ultimately it's a good idea for a person to decide what they want to be and take responsibility for their choices. Being kind "because there are too many unkind people out there" sounds wrong. I have no idea how they measured the "too many unkind people out there" but lets assume for a moment this balance shifts - then what? They should be unkind because there are too many kind people out there? Is this is a simple act of balancing the two sides?
    - Dfiesl 2y ago
      I think the sentiment is that it feels like theres a lot of unkindness in the world and that makes it a worse place and you can either be part of that or you can make the world a better place by striving to be kind. Thats my interpretation anyway.
      - hackable_sand 2y ago
        It sounds bad because the root comment is priming a negative perspective of the world. They could have said: "Most people are kind. Be kind and most people will be kind back." Or something with positive intent. Instead they seem to be priming a superiority trip.
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        theonething 2y ago
        Agreed. Or they could said: "Be kind because it's the right thing to do."
        atmosx 2y ago
        This. This is good enough reason to be kind. So let’s do that :-)
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- Clubber 2y ago
  >> I always tell my daughter to be a kind person because there is currently an oversupply of assholes. >I don't want to come across as harsh Found one!

f1shy 2y ago

> there is currently an oversupply of assholes. I say always that, and also of stupids, and the 2 are extremely difficult to tell apart.

matwood 2y ago

> I try to compliment someone on something whenever I go out and about. And if you can't do that, just ask people how are they doing.

jimt1234 2y ago

> there is currently an oversupply of assholes. My grandpa used to say, "There are more horses' asses than there are horses." Looks like there's a history around that quote: https://quoteinvestigator.com/2024/11/15/horses-ass/ https://quoteinvestigator.com/2024/11/15/horses-ass/

atmosx 2y ago

> I always tell my daughter to be a kind person because there is currently an oversupply of assholes. I'm sorry to hear that. I don't want to come across as harsh, but your approach/wording seems condescending, egotistical, and ultimately an empty way to live. Wise people learn by observing others (as the saying goes), but allowing others to dictate who you are reflects a lack of character IMO.

Dfiesl 2y ago
I'm guessing from your reply that you don't think its important to emphasise kindness as part of supporting your childrens' growth. If that is the case, what do you emphasise if anything?
- atmosx 2y ago
  You're guessing wrong. Kindness has a merit on it's own and ultimately it's a good idea for a person to decide what they want to be and take responsibility for their choices. Being kind "because there are too many unkind people out there" sounds wrong. I have no idea how they measured the "too many unkind people out there" but lets assume for a moment this balance shifts - then what? They should be unkind because there are too many kind people out there? Is this is a simple act of balancing the two sides?
  - Dfiesl 2y ago
    I think the sentiment is that it feels like theres a lot of unkindness in the world and that makes it a worse place and you can either be part of that or you can make the world a better place by striving to be kind. Thats my interpretation anyway.
    - hackable_sand 2y ago
      It sounds bad because the root comment is priming a negative perspective of the world. They could have said: "Most people are kind. Be kind and most people will be kind back." Or something with positive intent. Instead they seem to be priming a superiority trip.
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      - theonething 2y ago
        Agreed. Or they could said: "Be kind because it's the right thing to do."
        atmosx 2y ago
        This. This is good enough reason to be kind. So let’s do that :-)
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Clubber 2y ago
>> I always tell my daughter to be a kind person because there is currently an oversupply of assholes. >I don't want to come across as harsh Found one!