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Believe in me, I've been in your shoes before, it seems like an endless problem! But the cure starts with the basics that we often neglect: 1) Go out for some
by boredemployee 3y ago
Believe in me, I've been in your shoes before, it seems like an endless problem! But the cure starts with the basics that we often neglect:
1) Go out for some exercise (45min of moderate walking)
2) Get some sunlight
3) Check your Vitamin D levels
4) Drink about 2 liters of water
5) Eat healthily
6) After all this, start thinking about your employability again
Never forget that when one opportunity closes, others open up. The following metaphor might seem like quackery, but "instead of focusing on a sick tree, look at the entire forest around it"
- silverquiet 3y agoMeditation can be helpful too. 15 minutes a day. Find some guided ones on youtube that you like.
- herbst 3y agoOr yoga, breathing, or any other form of active slowness!
- kirkarg 3y ago100% on this. Prioritize you health and you will see some huge changes. Plus, if it helps, try to see the "numbers" behind your situation, remove any abstract thoughts and try to find a logical approach
- akeck 3y agoAlso try lifting weights. Done carefully to avoid injury, it can produce fairly quick body fitness changes that usually help during job interviews. Having usually done long distance rowing, I was surprised how fast my muscles tightened up and grew with one lifting session a week.
- earthling8118 3y agoAnd if you do these things and it doesn't solve your problems, don't feel bad about it. People really hype up the effects of working out but for some of us it doesn't change anything.
- reactordev 3y agoThe effects are quite measurable
- herbst 3y agoEffects on your body or mental health? As far as I know nobody crowned sports as a magic cure for mental well-being yet.
- asauce 3y agoExercise has some huge physiological and psychological benefits [0]. It won’t immediately cure serious mental illnesses, but it definitely doesn’t hurt. Anecdotally, my mental health is much better with a good diet and some physical exercise every week. [0]https://cursosextensao.usp.br/pluginfile.php/834363/mod_resource/content/1/2017%20Mikkelsen%20et%20al.%20-%20Exercise%20and%20Mental%20Health.pdf https://cursosextensao.usp.br/pluginfile.php/834363/mod_reso...
- herbst 3y agoAnecdotally mine is as well. But for me it's about enough exercise and not about making a new hobbie out of it. I guess most people don't have enough healthy exercise, getting to the point of enough is definitely a health benefit without question. But people here recommend going full on muscle building what seems like a shift of their issues more than anything.
- reactordev 3y agoI love the fact that you call out exercise in its other forms. Physical labor is… exercise. Getting out and about and doing things can be exercise. It’s not just hitting a gym. I got in my best shape by avoiding the gym. There’s so much marketing around it, everyone trying to make money, when the reality is all you need is you. Calisthenics requires no upfront purchase. Only a time commitment. Lifting weights is cool too if you have them or want to buy them. Running is great too if you’re into that (or like the resulting “runners high”). I found sports, martial arts, and getting physical in my shop is plenty enough exercise to keep me in my current size jeans for the foreseeable future.
- aurareturn 3y ago> Also try lifting weights. 100% on this. Exercising, especially lifting weights, feels like you're improving yourself after every single session. You will literally see the difference in the mirror. It's something that you can control. You can't always control how lucky or successful you are in your career. But you can always control your exercising. Once you improve the way you look, you start to feel better and people will also see you as more confident. Slowly, you'll get more opportunities. Tldr; control what you can first which is your body, and the things you can't control will slowly get better.
- herbst 3y agoOn the same note, control what you can control can also mean to change your environment and lifestyle if that is what makes you depressive. Sports, even more weight lifting, have not helped me in any way. If anything it established a wrong body image of myself. Something I never wanted to be or look like. Self-Confidence based on looks sounds fragil and very risky to me. It's no magic cure and if you sell it as one people might get sad if it doesn't work for them.
- aurareturn 3y ago>Sports, even more weight lifting, have not helped me in any way. If anything it established a wrong body image of myself. Something I never wanted to be or look like. Self-Confidence based on looks sounds fragil and very risky to me. It's done the opposite for me. I used to have lower self-esteem. Once I got into shape and visible muscles through shirts, suddenly everyone is nicer to me. Girls are talking to me more. Men are nicer. No bullying. I quit weed and started lifting weights at the same time. When combined, these two decisions have done wonders for my mental health.
- herbst 3y agoGlad to hear it worked for you. I totally get where you are coming from, but people are not nicer because you look better but because you approach them differently with your additional self esteem. You definitely wouldn't need muscles for that. Getting to love yourself has the very same effect.
- herbst 3y agoHow did these muscles help in tech job interviews?
- robjan 3y agoSelf confidence
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- unparagoned 3y agoYep, you need to do all that for your brain to function properly. Many studies show exercise is as good if not better than drugs at treating depression.