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> give them an outlet for sharing their personal feelings and opinions, not only on work issues but also on personal or political topics Holy cow! Are people r

> give them an outlet for sharing their personal feelings and opinions, not only on work issues but also on personal or political topics Holy cow! Are people really sharing personal or political topics in work meetings?! I’ve worked with people for more than a decade whom I meet with nearly every day in stand ups and other meetings and I know nothing about their political, religious, personal beliefs and life. I would never share that kind of stuff in a business setting. It is completely inappropriate. Separately, we have a company rule of no meeting Fridays. By far and away this is my favorite day of the week.

gherkinnn 4y ago
How is that inappropriate? Within reason I’d even expect to. Even the Finns I work with mention this and that in passing.
- hunterb123 4y ago
  Don't talk money, politics, or religion. It's basic etiquette.
  - Enginerrrd 4y ago
    To strangers, and in the most formal contexts... MAYBE, but teams of coworkers are most effective when more traditional human bonds form between them and that won't happen without being somewhat informal with them.
    - hunterb123 4y ago
      Working is one of the most formal contexts. Politics and the workplace don't mix. Don't be that annoying activist bothering your coworkers and making people feel uncomfortable with incoherent political rants. -- edit @ cutemonster -- > GP mentions how to create a more trusting and closely bonded team Yes my counter is that you aren't bonding, you're most likely isolating others. You can rarely change someone's core religious or political beliefs, especially with the weak arguments of today. The workplace is not a place to try to do so. Talk politics with your friends, not with your coworkers, they are too nice to say they don't want to hear it. -- edit @ blowski -- > Quite a lot of overgeneralisation there I'm not generalizing, I'm saying if you're amongst friends and know they're okay with talking politics go ahead. If you're amongst coworkers and don't know then shut your mouth so we can all work in peace. > In some cultures your comment woud be 100% true, but in others, your refusal to discuss such topics would look aloof. Oh, which cultures? That's kind of my point though, don't force people to talk politics. They shouldn't have to worry about their refusal to discuss a topic or looking "aloof".
      - cutemonster 4y ago
        GP mentions how to create a more trusting and closely bonded team, and you reply "annoying activist bothering your coworkers"?
      - blowski 4y ago
        Quite a lot of overgeneralisation there, I suspect you're projecting your own personal preferences onto everyone else. In some cultures your comment woud be 100% true, but in others, your refusal to discuss such topics would look aloof. Choose to work in a culture you like, rather than trying to impose a culture you like on one you don't.
      - gherkinnn 4y ago
        You imply that any political discussion is activism. That is nonsense. And not all political topics are divisive. And it’s fine to disagree and move on. It really isn’t that hard.
    - junofan 4y ago
      I really don’t care to know which set of political consultants have managed to dupe my coworkers.
    - zenrex 4y ago
      I think that it's natural to create a strong interpersonal relationships between people in a more familiar environments.The pressures of a deadline can bring out the short fuses and some passion for the product. Leave working in the workplace; you'll both know that there's nothing wrong with happy hour.
  - Pasorrijer 4y ago
    Definitely disagree with don't talk money. It's an outdated stigma that only benefits the employer and leads to people getting significantly underpaid and/or taken advantage of.
    - hunterb123 4y ago
      People work at different levels and competency. If you're amongst friends sure, but it doesn't usually lead to good vibes talking money amongst coworkers. Go ahead, but don't be surprised if you cause rifts. Glassdoor is a click away and anonymous, no need to bring money into personal conversations and compare dick sizes. -- edit @rexpop -- > I am not sure "good vibes" is a healthy super-ordinate goal among adults. You don't think good vibes is a healthy goal? I would strive for good vibes in the workplace. Your coworkers would appreciate a peaceful work environment. Your political or religious debate is not that important, wait for the bar with your friends.
      - rexpop 4y ago
        I am not sure "good vibes" is a healthy super-ordinate goal among adults.
        hunterb123 4y ago
        > I am not sure "good vibes" is a healthy super-ordinate goal among adults. Ok, elaborate why not
        rexpop 4y ago
        Because life is fraught with real peril, and high stakes projects that we, as adults, are burdened to tackle. "Good vibes" is nice for the holidays, but it can't be cultivated nonstop. The "bad vibes" must be dealt with—piecemeal, or in catastrophe.
        hunterb123 4y ago
        Please don't stress your coworkers with more shit. Talk amongst your friends with your woes.
  - djrobstep 4y ago
    In other words “don’t start questioning the elites”
    - vlunkr 4y ago
      I don’t know what that has to do with “the elites.” In my experience, discussing sensitive topics at work tends to bring out the people with the loudest and least nuanced opinions, and leaves everyone else feeling uncomfortable.
  - jen20 4y ago
    If only the religious agreed.
q7xvh97o2pDhNrh 4y ago
Yes, it's become really common. (Between a few different gigs and hearing from friends, I've gotten to see inside lots of companies' product teams over the last few years.) There's a constant drumbeat of forced intimacy and incessant prying into your personal life. "What did you do this weekend?" "Tell two truths and a lie!" "What'd you think of the $SPORT game?" "Where are you going for vacation?" "Are you thinking about moving, getting married, having kids?" "Don't forget to vote!" "Don't forget to donate!" Combine that with the endless oversharing that's used as a mock-facade for true psychological safety, and the net result is very little time spent on actual work. I know way too much about which engineers are on which antidepressants, who's having weddings/babies/whatever, how they're voting, and what race/gender/etc they identify with... but simple conversations about schema-design or even code-review still veer into awkward, passive-aggressive intensity within a matter of minutes. It's honestly absolutely exhausting. I do my best to duck out for the few minutes (or 20 minutes) of the meeting that gets frittered away on it. But it's inescapable, sooner or later. I've learned to have some bland nonsense ready to answer this sort of thing.
- kdmccormick 4y ago
  > "Tell two truths and a lie!" > "Don't forget to donate!" Sure, I get what you're saying about those. And this one is prying in just about any context, work or not: > "Are you thinking about getting married, having kids?" But these? > "What did you do this weekend?" > "What'd you think of the $SPORT game?" > "Where are you going for vacation?" > "Don't forget to vote!" Those are just normal ways of making conversation! 99% of the time if someone's asking you this, they're not trying to get inside your brain and invade your privacy... they're just trying to talk to you. Honest question: do you prefer to have zero social interaction with your coworkers? Edit: Also, it's bonkers to me that you think that this "has become" a thing. People have been making idle conversation at work since the dawn of civilization.
  - q7xvh97o2pDhNrh 4y ago
    Thought about it a little more since my original comment does make me sound like a grumpy old geezer. First off: you're right about there being a spectrum here, and some things do fall under the banner of plain ol' smalltalk. I think what's gotten to me is how relentless it is lately. Back in the olden days, before the pandemic, whether you were meeting in a large group or small, remotely or in-person, everyone would just show up to the meeting and get on with it. The socializing would then happen afterward in small, occasional, in-person settings. You'd go for lunch or coffee or drinks or dinner, and you'd end up talking to the 1 or 3 people next to you and having an actual conversation. Nowadays, it feels like the socializing is much more broad and shallow. And it's constant. It feels like nearly every meeting starts with several minutes of this sort of desperate veneer of friendliness. You have to constantly be upbeat and chipper and "on" as you click your way from one virtual meeting room to another, repeating the same bland story about your weekend several times a day. TL;DR: You're right it's always been a thing, but I do think something has shifted in our post-pandemic world. Now, it feels much more like an ever-present demand for constant emotional labor, rather than actual social interaction.
rexpop 4y ago
Where else am I to share my feelings on personal or political topics? Work dominates my schedule. I can't reasonably isolate strong feelings to a peripheral milieu. I agree that it is, by the explicit standards of corporate management, "completely inappropriate," but I think in the interest of a stable society, this is a standard we're obligated to violate.
- kortilla 4y ago
  It’s “completely inappropriate” not because of corporate management but because your coworkers won’t share your views on all of your emotional outbursts.
  - Barrin92 4y ago
    > but because your coworkers won’t share your views on all of your emotional outbursts in a democratic society that's to be expected and a good thing, I'm not exactly sure why anyone would have a discussion if they already share their views. Here in Germany politics is generally present in workplaces and nobody finds that odd because it's not like the place where you spend half of your day ought to be a civil society free zone. Covid workplace mandates and rules were highly contentious, where else is a better place to discuss them than at work, where they matter?
    - zdragnar 4y ago
      You are assuming that people are willing to discuss issues in good faith. That is certainly not always the case - being on the wrong side of the line means getting publicly shamed, insulted, and your career path ended. This happened to a friend of mine who merely suggested that discussions on abortion happen in a chat channel other than the main engineering one. Unlike religion or race, there are no legal protections for political views. If you disagree with your boss, you're risking yourself. If you agree with your boss, you might be alienating a future boss. There's no winning.
  - rexpop 4y ago
    I wasn't aware that only universally held views were appropriate to share but even if that were so, how can one even know what is or isn't shared unless one or the other speaks first? It's funny, because if were is a ban on sharing unshared views, we could never hold any views at all!
wheybags 4y ago
Not everyone works in such a formal setting. I talk about whatever the hell I feel like at work with colleagues, and they do the same. I honestly cannot imagine shutting myself down 8 hours a day like you're describing, it sound like hell.
- derefr 4y ago
  I don't know about "shutting down"; I'm just too busy at work to think about anything but work. (Maybe it's also a bit that I have ADHD, and know that a 15-minute conversation about non-work subjects, that I actually focus on rather than practicing "active listening" toward, would flush 100% of my built-up mental context for what I was doing down the toilet, and so blow an hours-plus hole in my productivity for the day.) I talk to my coworkers about non-work subjects if we head out for drinks. But at work, I work. Or at most talk about "light subjects" that can fit on top of my mental "stack" without having to pop anything.
- _8j50 4y ago
  I have been in such environments and believe me not everyone you work with shares the sentiment. I strongly disagreed with the vocal people like you and to avoid my voice affecting my career I shut up. You force your personal stuff on others and they have to endure it, imprisoning them basically. People can't just get up and find another job, nor should they have to. Bottle that shit up for 8hrs, do you really need to talk about yourself during all waking hours or can't find other people (even coworkers) to talk to off work? I am not talking about specific political opinions mind you. This has happened to me in both conservative and very liberal leaning environments. On the former I would have to put so much effort into not saying something about very crude sexual,racial,political,etc... jokes and comments (like managers talking about all the fked up ways they will get their guy trump to win,etc... or else) or for the latter people going on and on about their atheism (I am far from one) explicit sexual stuff, illegal drug use (and they weren't just talking, they were trading and using as well, me knowing this and not speaking up to the law/hr made me culpable just by listening) and this is all in tech don't get me started on other environments. I don't say anything which helps me keep my job miserably and helps my career but also many smart people I wanted to get close to, I couldn't and they would feel alienated because I won't engage with them except I do when it is about stuff I am passionate about: the work!! But they only mention work in passing outside of official channels, I mean I can talk about coding,foss, security 16 hours a day! Haha. But it was terrible if you are not very political, can't just switch jobs and just want to work on stuff you are passionate about and go home. I had to bottle shit up in place of people like you so please be considerate. I have strong views on just about anything and honestly I don't have much to give a shit about outside of work and I think it is the opposite extreme end of "you should only hire people with specific appearance,politics, religion,etc..." when you say "hire anyone despite their politics, religion,race,sex,etc... and let them all talk about their opposing views" you are either activly discriminating against workes in both illegal and immoral grounds or you work in a very toxic and harmful environment where only the few that dominate/lead/manage dictate a heavily biased environment that makes only them comfortable are happy. Do you not see the wisdom in "don't shit where you eat"? 8 hours to work, 8 hours to pursue personal life and 8 hours to rest. That's what most adults get, you should be able to focus on work during work and personal stuff during personal time plus weekend, you get 72hrs/wk for personal stuff and only 40 typically for work. Especially wfh workers have no excuse, watch cnn or fox with someone when you are not on a zoom call lol or get on reddit or your favorite social medial and vent off. Anywhere but work!
zdragnar 4y ago
I have quit places that became too politically charged. There are no worse or more toxic environments to work in.
davesque 4y ago
This was written in 2010. There was a sea change that took place around the time that Trump was elected after which it became far more fraught to discuss political topics. But the way it is now is not how it's always been. Things really did feel different ten years ago. Discussing politics with strangers was much more doable. For example, I remember watching the 2012 presidential debate between Obama and Romney with my neighbors who I didn't know very well at all. I felt completely comfortable doing this. And the outcome of the debate didn't feel like some sort of life or death moment for the country. Also, it seems possible to me that the author might have been referring to company politics.
- matwood 4y ago
  This is a good point. Pre-Trump I remember having robust conversations at work about politics that were educational for all involved. Now I have family members who haven't spoken to each other for years because one asked the other why they voted for (Trump|Biden). It is now an impossible topic to navigate at work.
fxtentacle 4y ago
> Are people really sharing personal or political topics in work meetings?! Sure! We're a fully remote company and as a result the beginning of every video call is people gossiping about their kids, pets, the weather, and interesting stuff happening in their towns.
- P5fRxh5kUvp2th 4y ago
  That's not what the poster was talking about. Everything you listed there is pretty tame stuff, politics and religion are not discussed in professional settings specifically because it can cause problems that affect people's abilities to work together.
  - emielm 4y ago
    This sounds very American :). In my (European) country this is not a weird thing to discuss informally among colleagues. Of course you do learn to avoid the topic quickly with certain people, but that goes for more things: vaccinations, choice of school, sports results
UncleMeat 4y ago
Political, no. But personal, sure! I've found that all of the major new opportunities for my team have come suddenly and involved collaboration with people that I've spent time with even though I wasn't working very actively with them. Suddenly a problem shows up and one of these other people says "hey, I think UncleMeat's team is well suited to help with this" and boom we are off to the races. Those monthly meetings that were half work and half shooting the shit were critical network-building opportunities that eventually paid off.

gherkinnn 4y ago

How is that inappropriate? Within reason I’d even expect to. Even the Finns I work with mention this and that in passing.

hunterb123 4y ago
Don't talk money, politics, or religion. It's basic etiquette.
- Enginerrrd 4y ago
  To strangers, and in the most formal contexts... MAYBE, but teams of coworkers are most effective when more traditional human bonds form between them and that won't happen without being somewhat informal with them.
  - hunterb123 4y ago
    Working is one of the most formal contexts. Politics and the workplace don't mix. Don't be that annoying activist bothering your coworkers and making people feel uncomfortable with incoherent political rants. -- edit @ cutemonster -- > GP mentions how to create a more trusting and closely bonded team Yes my counter is that you aren't bonding, you're most likely isolating others. You can rarely change someone's core religious or political beliefs, especially with the weak arguments of today. The workplace is not a place to try to do so. Talk politics with your friends, not with your coworkers, they are too nice to say they don't want to hear it. -- edit @ blowski -- > Quite a lot of overgeneralisation there I'm not generalizing, I'm saying if you're amongst friends and know they're okay with talking politics go ahead. If you're amongst coworkers and don't know then shut your mouth so we can all work in peace. > In some cultures your comment woud be 100% true, but in others, your refusal to discuss such topics would look aloof. Oh, which cultures? That's kind of my point though, don't force people to talk politics. They shouldn't have to worry about their refusal to discuss a topic or looking "aloof".
    - cutemonster 4y ago
      GP mentions how to create a more trusting and closely bonded team, and you reply "annoying activist bothering your coworkers"?
    - blowski 4y ago
      Quite a lot of overgeneralisation there, I suspect you're projecting your own personal preferences onto everyone else. In some cultures your comment woud be 100% true, but in others, your refusal to discuss such topics would look aloof. Choose to work in a culture you like, rather than trying to impose a culture you like on one you don't.
    - gherkinnn 4y ago
      You imply that any political discussion is activism. That is nonsense. And not all political topics are divisive. And it’s fine to disagree and move on. It really isn’t that hard.
  - junofan 4y ago
    I really don’t care to know which set of political consultants have managed to dupe my coworkers.
  - zenrex 4y ago
    I think that it's natural to create a strong interpersonal relationships between people in a more familiar environments.The pressures of a deadline can bring out the short fuses and some passion for the product. Leave working in the workplace; you'll both know that there's nothing wrong with happy hour.
- Pasorrijer 4y ago
  Definitely disagree with don't talk money. It's an outdated stigma that only benefits the employer and leads to people getting significantly underpaid and/or taken advantage of.
  - hunterb123 4y ago
    People work at different levels and competency. If you're amongst friends sure, but it doesn't usually lead to good vibes talking money amongst coworkers. Go ahead, but don't be surprised if you cause rifts. Glassdoor is a click away and anonymous, no need to bring money into personal conversations and compare dick sizes. -- edit @rexpop -- > I am not sure "good vibes" is a healthy super-ordinate goal among adults. You don't think good vibes is a healthy goal? I would strive for good vibes in the workplace. Your coworkers would appreciate a peaceful work environment. Your political or religious debate is not that important, wait for the bar with your friends.
    - rexpop 4y ago
      I am not sure "good vibes" is a healthy super-ordinate goal among adults.
      - hunterb123 4y ago
        > I am not sure "good vibes" is a healthy super-ordinate goal among adults. Ok, elaborate why not
        rexpop 4y ago
        Because life is fraught with real peril, and high stakes projects that we, as adults, are burdened to tackle. "Good vibes" is nice for the holidays, but it can't be cultivated nonstop. The "bad vibes" must be dealt with—piecemeal, or in catastrophe.
        hunterb123 4y ago
        Please don't stress your coworkers with more shit. Talk amongst your friends with your woes.
- djrobstep 4y ago
  In other words “don’t start questioning the elites”
  - vlunkr 4y ago
    I don’t know what that has to do with “the elites.” In my experience, discussing sensitive topics at work tends to bring out the people with the loudest and least nuanced opinions, and leaves everyone else feeling uncomfortable.
- jen20 4y ago
  If only the religious agreed.

q7xvh97o2pDhNrh 4y ago

Yes, it's become really common. (Between a few different gigs and hearing from friends, I've gotten to see inside lots of companies' product teams over the last few years.) There's a constant drumbeat of forced intimacy and incessant prying into your personal life. "What did you do this weekend?" "Tell two truths and a lie!" "What'd you think of the $SPORT game?" "Where are you going for vacation?" "Are you thinking about moving, getting married, having kids?" "Don't forget to vote!" "Don't forget to donate!" Combine that with the endless oversharing that's used as a mock-facade for true psychological safety, and the net result is very little time spent on actual work. I know way too much about which engineers are on which antidepressants, who's having weddings/babies/whatever, how they're voting, and what race/gender/etc they identify with... but simple conversations about schema-design or even code-review still veer into awkward, passive-aggressive intensity within a matter of minutes. It's honestly absolutely exhausting. I do my best to duck out for the few minutes (or 20 minutes) of the meeting that gets frittered away on it. But it's inescapable, sooner or later. I've learned to have some bland nonsense ready to answer this sort of thing.

kdmccormick 4y ago
> "Tell two truths and a lie!" > "Don't forget to donate!" Sure, I get what you're saying about those. And this one is prying in just about any context, work or not: > "Are you thinking about getting married, having kids?" But these? > "What did you do this weekend?" > "What'd you think of the $SPORT game?" > "Where are you going for vacation?" > "Don't forget to vote!" Those are just normal ways of making conversation! 99% of the time if someone's asking you this, they're not trying to get inside your brain and invade your privacy... they're just trying to talk to you. Honest question: do you prefer to have zero social interaction with your coworkers? Edit: Also, it's bonkers to me that you think that this "has become" a thing. People have been making idle conversation at work since the dawn of civilization.
- q7xvh97o2pDhNrh 4y ago
  Thought about it a little more since my original comment does make me sound like a grumpy old geezer. First off: you're right about there being a spectrum here, and some things do fall under the banner of plain ol' smalltalk. I think what's gotten to me is how relentless it is lately. Back in the olden days, before the pandemic, whether you were meeting in a large group or small, remotely or in-person, everyone would just show up to the meeting and get on with it. The socializing would then happen afterward in small, occasional, in-person settings. You'd go for lunch or coffee or drinks or dinner, and you'd end up talking to the 1 or 3 people next to you and having an actual conversation. Nowadays, it feels like the socializing is much more broad and shallow. And it's constant. It feels like nearly every meeting starts with several minutes of this sort of desperate veneer of friendliness. You have to constantly be upbeat and chipper and "on" as you click your way from one virtual meeting room to another, repeating the same bland story about your weekend several times a day. TL;DR: You're right it's always been a thing, but I do think something has shifted in our post-pandemic world. Now, it feels much more like an ever-present demand for constant emotional labor, rather than actual social interaction.

rexpop 4y ago

Where else am I to share my feelings on personal or political topics? Work dominates my schedule. I can't reasonably isolate strong feelings to a peripheral milieu. I agree that it is, by the explicit standards of corporate management, "completely inappropriate," but I think in the interest of a stable society, this is a standard we're obligated to violate.

kortilla 4y ago
It’s “completely inappropriate” not because of corporate management but because your coworkers won’t share your views on all of your emotional outbursts.
- Barrin92 4y ago
  > but because your coworkers won’t share your views on all of your emotional outbursts in a democratic society that's to be expected and a good thing, I'm not exactly sure why anyone would have a discussion if they already share their views. Here in Germany politics is generally present in workplaces and nobody finds that odd because it's not like the place where you spend half of your day ought to be a civil society free zone. Covid workplace mandates and rules were highly contentious, where else is a better place to discuss them than at work, where they matter?
  - zdragnar 4y ago
    You are assuming that people are willing to discuss issues in good faith. That is certainly not always the case - being on the wrong side of the line means getting publicly shamed, insulted, and your career path ended. This happened to a friend of mine who merely suggested that discussions on abortion happen in a chat channel other than the main engineering one. Unlike religion or race, there are no legal protections for political views. If you disagree with your boss, you're risking yourself. If you agree with your boss, you might be alienating a future boss. There's no winning.
- rexpop 4y ago
  I wasn't aware that only universally held views were appropriate to share but even if that were so, how can one even know what is or isn't shared unless one or the other speaks first? It's funny, because if were is a ban on sharing unshared views, we could never hold any views at all!

wheybags 4y ago

Not everyone works in such a formal setting. I talk about whatever the hell I feel like at work with colleagues, and they do the same. I honestly cannot imagine shutting myself down 8 hours a day like you're describing, it sound like hell.

derefr 4y ago
I don't know about "shutting down"; I'm just too busy at work to think about anything but work. (Maybe it's also a bit that I have ADHD, and know that a 15-minute conversation about non-work subjects, that I actually focus on rather than practicing "active listening" toward, would flush 100% of my built-up mental context for what I was doing down the toilet, and so blow an hours-plus hole in my productivity for the day.) I talk to my coworkers about non-work subjects if we head out for drinks. But at work, I work. Or at most talk about "light subjects" that can fit on top of my mental "stack" without having to pop anything.
_8j50 4y ago
I have been in such environments and believe me not everyone you work with shares the sentiment. I strongly disagreed with the vocal people like you and to avoid my voice affecting my career I shut up. You force your personal stuff on others and they have to endure it, imprisoning them basically. People can't just get up and find another job, nor should they have to. Bottle that shit up for 8hrs, do you really need to talk about yourself during all waking hours or can't find other people (even coworkers) to talk to off work? I am not talking about specific political opinions mind you. This has happened to me in both conservative and very liberal leaning environments. On the former I would have to put so much effort into not saying something about very crude sexual,racial,political,etc... jokes and comments (like managers talking about all the fked up ways they will get their guy trump to win,etc... or else) or for the latter people going on and on about their atheism (I am far from one) explicit sexual stuff, illegal drug use (and they weren't just talking, they were trading and using as well, me knowing this and not speaking up to the law/hr made me culpable just by listening) and this is all in tech don't get me started on other environments. I don't say anything which helps me keep my job miserably and helps my career but also many smart people I wanted to get close to, I couldn't and they would feel alienated because I won't engage with them except I do when it is about stuff I am passionate about: the work!! But they only mention work in passing outside of official channels, I mean I can talk about coding,foss, security 16 hours a day! Haha. But it was terrible if you are not very political, can't just switch jobs and just want to work on stuff you are passionate about and go home. I had to bottle shit up in place of people like you so please be considerate. I have strong views on just about anything and honestly I don't have much to give a shit about outside of work and I think it is the opposite extreme end of "you should only hire people with specific appearance,politics, religion,etc..." when you say "hire anyone despite their politics, religion,race,sex,etc... and let them all talk about their opposing views" you are either activly discriminating against workes in both illegal and immoral grounds or you work in a very toxic and harmful environment where only the few that dominate/lead/manage dictate a heavily biased environment that makes only them comfortable are happy. Do you not see the wisdom in "don't shit where you eat"? 8 hours to work, 8 hours to pursue personal life and 8 hours to rest. That's what most adults get, you should be able to focus on work during work and personal stuff during personal time plus weekend, you get 72hrs/wk for personal stuff and only 40 typically for work. Especially wfh workers have no excuse, watch cnn or fox with someone when you are not on a zoom call lol or get on reddit or your favorite social medial and vent off. Anywhere but work!

zdragnar 4y ago

I have quit places that became too politically charged. There are no worse or more toxic environments to work in.

davesque 4y ago

This was written in 2010. There was a sea change that took place around the time that Trump was elected after which it became far more fraught to discuss political topics. But the way it is now is not how it's always been. Things really did feel different ten years ago. Discussing politics with strangers was much more doable. For example, I remember watching the 2012 presidential debate between Obama and Romney with my neighbors who I didn't know very well at all. I felt completely comfortable doing this. And the outcome of the debate didn't feel like some sort of life or death moment for the country. Also, it seems possible to me that the author might have been referring to company politics.

matwood 4y ago
This is a good point. Pre-Trump I remember having robust conversations at work about politics that were educational for all involved. Now I have family members who haven't spoken to each other for years because one asked the other why they voted for (Trump|Biden). It is now an impossible topic to navigate at work.

fxtentacle 4y ago

> Are people really sharing personal or political topics in work meetings?! Sure! We're a fully remote company and as a result the beginning of every video call is people gossiping about their kids, pets, the weather, and interesting stuff happening in their towns.

P5fRxh5kUvp2th 4y ago
That's not what the poster was talking about. Everything you listed there is pretty tame stuff, politics and religion are not discussed in professional settings specifically because it can cause problems that affect people's abilities to work together.
- emielm 4y ago
  This sounds very American :). In my (European) country this is not a weird thing to discuss informally among colleagues. Of course you do learn to avoid the topic quickly with certain people, but that goes for more things: vaccinations, choice of school, sports results

UncleMeat 4y ago

Political, no. But personal, sure! I've found that all of the major new opportunities for my team have come suddenly and involved collaboration with people that I've spent time with even though I wasn't working very actively with them. Suddenly a problem shows up and one of these other people says "hey, I think UncleMeat's team is well suited to help with this" and boom we are off to the races. Those monthly meetings that were half work and half shooting the shit were critical network-building opportunities that eventually paid off.