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Block websites will help definitely. another "threat" is when you have a few kids, your daily life is cut into pieces with random and sometimes strong backgrou

Block websites will help definitely. another "threat" is when you have a few kids, your daily life is cut into pieces with random and sometimes strong background noises 24x7x365, not much you can do there. personally, that impacts my focus the most and there is no cure, and it usually lasts for about 20 years when kids are finally into colleges. obviously there are many good stuff out of raising kids, and I enjoyed it, but focus-on-tech-advancement is not one of them.

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koheripbal 4y ago
This is why many people with kids want to physically return to the office - fewer distractions.
- ChrisPebble 4y ago
  Anecdotally all but one of the parents I know (including myself) prefer working remotely. I tried to find if there were any survey results and found a survey by Harris Poll on behalf of Zapier that said that "56 percent of parents want the option to work remotely" [1]. I have a private office in our home and know that's not a luxury for many others, but the quality of life as a parent working from home vs being in the office is dramatic. With the kids home during the summer the noise and distraction levels do go up, but honestly are still less bothersome then the open office floor plan I was in previously. I think it really depends on your home situation as well as how your office was setup, but my guess is that a majority of parents would prefer remote positions if available. [1] https://zapier.com/blog/remote-work-report-by-zapier/ https://zapier.com/blog/remote-work-report-by-zapier/
- jader201 4y ago
  I've WFH for the past 8+ years, my kids are now 18 and 15 (so they were 10 and 7 when I started WFH). They can definitely be a distraction, but I was able to minimize it by having an office with a door + setting reasonable boundaries. Also, they're out of the house at school for many hours (except for COVID -- that was a bit tougher, but that was the case for everyone). I have no regrets. One of the reasons I WFH is to have less time on the road and more time w/ family. My oldest has said that he's glad I WFH, and that he didn't like me being away when he was younger. Of course, every person/family is different. But for me & my family, I think minimizing the distractions in other ways while WFH + accepting the remaining distractions was worth it in the end.
- treyfitty 4y ago
  My kids leave me alone at home. My PMs at work however…
- watwut 4y ago
  Among my peer, parents want to work from home. Single childless people want to be in office.
mberning 4y ago
Having kids in the house is like being in a damn WWI trench with shells exploding over your head constantly. Ok, maybe not that bad, but it's horrible for your ability to get anything meaningful done. And then by the time they hit the sack and you finally have a few moments peace, you are worn out and ready to hit the sack yourself. My ability to burn the midnight oil has gone to zero basically.
- subpixel 4y ago
  I find that when I regularly exercise and don’t drink at dinner I can put kid to bed and have a few more hours available. But - big but - spending that evening time working has become anathema to me. The best rule I’ve put in place is work happens during the day or it doesn’t happen.
- leokennis 4y ago
  Wow…extremely relatable. Sometimes I only want to price compare something online and order it, which should be a 5-10 minute process. It’ll take me 30 minutes spread over 10 3-minute bursts. In between I need to end fights, clean faces, fetch out of reach toys, lift them out of a chair, lift them into a chair, no the other chair, hand them a stuffed animal, pick the stuffed animal up from the ground, clean food from the floor… By which time I just order on Amazon. Yes maybe I pay more but at least I can order in one click and be done with it…
  - mberning 4y ago
    It definitely put many things in perspective for me. As a young single guy you look at suburbia, minivans, one click ordering, children's museums, etc. with a bit of skepticism or incredulity. Then once I got married and had kids I could instantly understand those things, even if I didn’t necessarily like them.
1-6 4y ago
I’m curious because I’ve had kids early. Will I ever be able to catch up with peers who’ve decided their focus would be on their job and forego having children later in life?
- sanedigital 4y ago
  Maybe. Maybe not. But no matter what those other people do, they’ll never ever be able to get more youthful, energetic years with their children and (hopefully) grandchildren. All that money and even Elon can’t buy time. I had kids relatively young for a yuppie male (27) and while that was 100% the “right time” I would have done it earlier if I had known how great they are.
  - yao420 4y ago
    I’m really struggling with this right now. I’m turning 33 next month and really want children. I have endless memories of my dad and grandfathers teaching me amazing lessons and being best/strongest men I have ever been around. I want to fulfill that role that for someone! We didn’t have much money but camping or diy building is something fondly reminisce on and made me who I am. My partner is 25 and is not decided on children yet due to also growing up poor and and having a rougher realationship with their fam. We’ve lived together a year now but she recently got an IUD and was happy about the ‘10 years of freedom’. To her kids is a ‘probably after I finish all my goals/traveling’. We were recently vacationing in Barcelona and met 3 young boys at the hotel and played a game of uno with them in the lobby. They lived in the Bay Area and I imagine their parents were techies, they were indian, 6-12yrs, long hair, well spoken, had skateboards, and wearing tie dye. I CANNOT stop thinking about them. I’m considering an ultimatum but I love her so much. Sorry for the rant HN, I just needed somewhere to say it.
    - sanedigital 4y ago
      Stop waiting. This may not be popular with the hive mind, but if you want kids and she doesn’t: move on. I love my wife more than anything outside my family, but the kids are on another level. In 20 years you may not remember your current partner’s face. But you won’t pass a moment without thinking about your children, if you choose to have them.

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koheripbal 4y ago

This is why many people with kids want to physically return to the office - fewer distractions.

ChrisPebble 4y ago
Anecdotally all but one of the parents I know (including myself) prefer working remotely. I tried to find if there were any survey results and found a survey by Harris Poll on behalf of Zapier that said that "56 percent of parents want the option to work remotely" [1]. I have a private office in our home and know that's not a luxury for many others, but the quality of life as a parent working from home vs being in the office is dramatic. With the kids home during the summer the noise and distraction levels do go up, but honestly are still less bothersome then the open office floor plan I was in previously. I think it really depends on your home situation as well as how your office was setup, but my guess is that a majority of parents would prefer remote positions if available. [1] https://zapier.com/blog/remote-work-report-by-zapier/ https://zapier.com/blog/remote-work-report-by-zapier/
jader201 4y ago
I've WFH for the past 8+ years, my kids are now 18 and 15 (so they were 10 and 7 when I started WFH). They can definitely be a distraction, but I was able to minimize it by having an office with a door + setting reasonable boundaries. Also, they're out of the house at school for many hours (except for COVID -- that was a bit tougher, but that was the case for everyone). I have no regrets. One of the reasons I WFH is to have less time on the road and more time w/ family. My oldest has said that he's glad I WFH, and that he didn't like me being away when he was younger. Of course, every person/family is different. But for me & my family, I think minimizing the distractions in other ways while WFH + accepting the remaining distractions was worth it in the end.
treyfitty 4y ago
My kids leave me alone at home. My PMs at work however…
watwut 4y ago
Among my peer, parents want to work from home. Single childless people want to be in office.

mberning 4y ago

Having kids in the house is like being in a damn WWI trench with shells exploding over your head constantly. Ok, maybe not that bad, but it's horrible for your ability to get anything meaningful done. And then by the time they hit the sack and you finally have a few moments peace, you are worn out and ready to hit the sack yourself. My ability to burn the midnight oil has gone to zero basically.

subpixel 4y ago
I find that when I regularly exercise and don’t drink at dinner I can put kid to bed and have a few more hours available. But - big but - spending that evening time working has become anathema to me. The best rule I’ve put in place is work happens during the day or it doesn’t happen.
leokennis 4y ago
Wow…extremely relatable. Sometimes I only want to price compare something online and order it, which should be a 5-10 minute process. It’ll take me 30 minutes spread over 10 3-minute bursts. In between I need to end fights, clean faces, fetch out of reach toys, lift them out of a chair, lift them into a chair, no the other chair, hand them a stuffed animal, pick the stuffed animal up from the ground, clean food from the floor… By which time I just order on Amazon. Yes maybe I pay more but at least I can order in one click and be done with it…
- mberning 4y ago
  It definitely put many things in perspective for me. As a young single guy you look at suburbia, minivans, one click ordering, children's museums, etc. with a bit of skepticism or incredulity. Then once I got married and had kids I could instantly understand those things, even if I didn’t necessarily like them.

1-6 4y ago

I’m curious because I’ve had kids early. Will I ever be able to catch up with peers who’ve decided their focus would be on their job and forego having children later in life?

sanedigital 4y ago
Maybe. Maybe not. But no matter what those other people do, they’ll never ever be able to get more youthful, energetic years with their children and (hopefully) grandchildren. All that money and even Elon can’t buy time. I had kids relatively young for a yuppie male (27) and while that was 100% the “right time” I would have done it earlier if I had known how great they are.
- yao420 4y ago
  I’m really struggling with this right now. I’m turning 33 next month and really want children. I have endless memories of my dad and grandfathers teaching me amazing lessons and being best/strongest men I have ever been around. I want to fulfill that role that for someone! We didn’t have much money but camping or diy building is something fondly reminisce on and made me who I am. My partner is 25 and is not decided on children yet due to also growing up poor and and having a rougher realationship with their fam. We’ve lived together a year now but she recently got an IUD and was happy about the ‘10 years of freedom’. To her kids is a ‘probably after I finish all my goals/traveling’. We were recently vacationing in Barcelona and met 3 young boys at the hotel and played a game of uno with them in the lobby. They lived in the Bay Area and I imagine their parents were techies, they were indian, 6-12yrs, long hair, well spoken, had skateboards, and wearing tie dye. I CANNOT stop thinking about them. I’m considering an ultimatum but I love her so much. Sorry for the rant HN, I just needed somewhere to say it.
  - sanedigital 4y ago
    Stop waiting. This may not be popular with the hive mind, but if you want kids and she doesn’t: move on. I love my wife more than anything outside my family, but the kids are on another level. In 20 years you may not remember your current partner’s face. But you won’t pass a moment without thinking about your children, if you choose to have them.