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> I’ve been sexually assaulted on the job (which was sort of my mistake; this was the one guy who I thought I’d screened but actually hadn’t, and if I’d screene
by Liriel 5y ago
> I’ve been sexually assaulted on the job (which was sort of my mistake; this was the one guy who I thought I’d screened but actually hadn’t, and if I’d screened him I would have not met him)
No it wasn't your mistake. It hurts me to see that people who have been through trauma blame themselves for it.
- bluecalm 5y agoThere is a difference between exposing yourself to too much risk and being responsible for what happens to you. She made a mistake and blames herself for that. It was her mistake. She doesn't blame herself for the assault itself just for putting herself in a dangerous situation. I mean, if you don't realize it's your fault to mess up the screening process you will never correct it. It's healthy to realize your mistake.
- enimodas 5y agoKinda baffling, when she gets assaulted she never even let the guy know he was doing something wrong, and later in the article she admits to raping a guy who had clearly stated he didn't want to have sex with her, while conspiring with her friend about it. And she barely even registers she did something wrong. It was "awkward".
- baobabKoodaa 5y ago> later in the article she admits to raping a guy No she doesn't. You shouldn't label other peoples' experiences as "rape" willy-nilly like that.
- Aella 5y agoI appreciate the care here! I do think he very clearly should not have assaulted me, and I also think I made a mistake by not screening him. Both are true! I have no sense of guilt or self-blame around this, I mostly have "Oh, I failed to do a thing that would have protected me, I'll make sure to do that next time, good to know."