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More dramatic if you're ADHD and get excited about finally having a way to tell everyone about all shitty things you've done because your impulse control is sho
by nullsense 6y ago
More dramatic if you're ADHD and get excited about finally having a way to tell everyone about all shitty things you've done because your impulse control is shot, so you sign up for it relieved that you'll finally be able to get it all off your chest in a way that doesn't trigger your rejection sensitivity dysphoria only to be absolutely mortified some months later when you're secrets are spilled while you're still alive because you got the email and thought oh yeah I need to reply to that but there are only two times in your mind "now" and "not now" and because it's usually "not now" you put it off subsequently forgetting altogether and then boom.
Well... At least life is never dull.
- StavrosK 6y agoThat sounds non-ideal, but, if it helps, there's a Telegram bot feature where all you have to do is open the notification and click a button, and you have to not do that like four times over two months before the messages are sent.
- nullsense 6y agoI personally still wouldn't risk it.
- SamBam 6y agoI think the best way to set it up is, after you've failed to respond several times (maybe because your spam filter changed our something) it then seems a preliminary email to all those on your list. "Is this person really dead? If not, get him to log in... etc" Some might deliberately choose to click that you're dead, in the hopes of seeing the message, but likely your spouse or whoever would be, like, "Honey, this thing says you're dead..." And if none of them answer, because it went to their junk or they're all dead by now, then it's moot because they're exactly the people who would have seen anything.
- jimmcslim 6y agoProbably should have some sort of “m of n” condition to prevent the mischievous/malicious from doing it. Alternatively, the dead man switch service could generate a secret link that you copy into your will, and your executor clicks it to trigger the process (which may still email you or others to confirm that you are dead)? I kinda feel there’s some interesting fiction to be written around this...
- nullsense 6y agoBut then you have a situation where either those n people have to know about and opt in to this deal which leaves them wondering what your secrets are and just knowing that people were thinking about it would drive my crazy or you have a situation where people get an email totally out of the blue saying that someone they know is dead and click this link to find out their secrets. I would mark that as spam and delete it instantly. Some people would just click cos they are like what the hell is this about. Almost zero people will take it as a serious instruction to be dutifully followed.
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- spicybright 6y agoWhy is your username green?
- andreareina 6y agoNew users get a green username: https://github.com/minimaxir/hacker-news-undocumented#green-usernames https://github.com/minimaxir/hacker-news-undocumented#green-...
- pbhjpbhj 6y agoNewly opened accounts. Often it's people who are regular users using a throwaway.
- nullsense 6y agoInterestingly most throwaway accounts I see with throwaway in their name aren't green, so I think those people must have just kept their "throwaway" account?
- imtringued 6y agoYes they do, I'm doing it right now with this account. Notice the intentional misspelling (correctly spelled username is still available).
- nullsense 6y agoNew account.
- spicybright 6y agoJuesus. Um, just don't sign up for the service in the first place if you're incapable of replying to the check up emails? That seems really obvious. And this is coming from someone severely ADHD. I know I would never be able to keep up with a system like that so I would never sign up for it.
- nullsense 6y agoYou know... I didn't always used to know why I am the way I am. And before I did, I believed I should just be able to do things and never realized just absolutely abysmal my impulse control is, so this is the kind of thing that would catch me out. These days I know to avoid things like this for the reasons stated.
- eru 6y agoHave you tried medication? See eg https://www.gwern.net/Nicotine https://www.gwern.net/Nicotine
- skinkestek 6y agoI was about writing that I have tried medication and for me it doesn't help against that, but this was some seriously interesting reading!
- eru 6y agoThere's lots of great material on Gwern's site!
- nullsense 6y agoI'm trying it now. Other than making my heart jump out of my chest occasionally I don't really understand what it does. It doesn't seem to actually _do_ anything for or to me. I understand that happens to about 20% of people, so I'm just going to try work my way through the available options to see if anything works. Used to self-medicate with copious amounts of coke, pepsi and red bull and fast food. Bit of a mixed bag that. Actually on the subject of secrets and coke, I stole like 200 cans of it from a place that used the honor system. I needed my fix and couldn't stop myself from doing it. Always confused me why I behaved that way and why I couldn't stop. When I got diagnosed a lot of things like that just started to make sense.
- 1DRACOSEA8 6y agoYou’re definitely fun at parties. I don’t suffer from mental illness I revel in it.
- irrational 6y ago> you got the email and thought oh yeah I need to reply to that but there are only two times in your mind "now" and "not now" and because it's usually "not now" you put it off subsequently forgetting altogether and then boom. Well, now I wonder if I have ADHD.
- nullsense 6y agoWell, if you have a life long history of persistent problems relating to education, finance, health, and/or relationships caused by behavior impulsive or otherwise that you just can't quite seem to explain then maybe. Unfortunately the condition is just pernicious enough to do real damage to your life, and just subtle enough to go unnoticed for decades.