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Why I Gave Up on Extreme Minimalism (2015)
- tomc1985 8y agoI think minimalism works if you can fit your life into a certain categories. I moved to another country for a year with only the stuff I could fit in a military duffel bag. The most annoying thing about the experience, after returning from my trip, was having to re-purchase everything that I had previously sold off just so that I could take part in hobbies that I had sorely missed while gone. Lots of endeavors require a small inventory of things or tools, especially if you want to do well.
- mixmastamyk 8y agoBuying new stuff can be fun, however.
- BoiledCabbage 8y agoI feel like I'm reading a parallel post to "Why I gave up not eating food". Her story is actually interesting, but the conclusion of the post (and the title's question) is "I gave up extreme minimalism so I could keep things and go back to them from time to time." I mean this isn't exactly profound. Paraphrasing: "I bought a book to study German. Normally I'd throw it away when I'd get bored of it. Instead I'm going to keep the book, so if I have the desire to study German again later I can just pick it back up rather than buy a new one."
- bayindirh 8y agoNot everyone have fixed hobbies or can have regular time for their fixed hobbies. I'm taking photos for a long time, but it's not a "regular" endeavor due to life circumstances. Should I sell my photo gear as soon as I don't feel like taking photos and re-buy all of it as soon as I want to go out? Similarly I have a lot of books which I sometimes blaze through, or abandon for some time. However the desire never completely dies out. I simply doesn't have the time or energy at that time. Should I give away the books I had no time to read, but still desirable for me? I also have a lot of small projects which I re-visit and work for short time regularly. They may be very far from completion, but they reward with very high experience since I look them from a very different perspectives and as a very different developer every time. If that's working for her, and she's happy, let her be.
- nf05papsjfVbc 8y agoAn important aspect of removing things from life is to make a decision about whether you intend to continue having something as a part of your life - either in thoughts, ambitions or as an object you possess. Without resolving this, the question of "should I keep this?" can not be answered satisfactorily. Our time is quite limited and these choices are either made actively through conscious decision making or passively through inaction. I am still trying to learn to make the decision actively.
- bayindirh 8y agoYou're right, however sometimes trying to shove things out of your life may not be easy or effective. I personally decided to dig deeper and understand why I accumulated that amount of stuff in the first place. Instead of wasting time trying to actively make this decisions and drain your mental energy, why not try semi-passive observation? I found that putting everything away and getting things that I regularly use from that pile, and getting rid of the least used part regularly (weekly, monthly, semi annually, etc.) works best. This way also decluttering doesn't feel like swimming upstream, at least for me.
- nf05papsjfVbc 8y agoOn the contrary, to me it appears that we are in agreement. You have found a method (to figure out what can stay) that works for you and I'm yet to find mine. I will consider if your method could work for me.
- bayindirh 8y agoWe are actually in agreement, you're right. I just wanted to say that trying to decide too actively on what to keep, and what to let go may be too tiring and working against your purpose. The method I mentioned is a way to set things in motion, and your brain unconsciously decides what to keep by getting it from that pile. Then you can give the rest (or some of it) away. Hope it helps.
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- silveroriole 8y agoGet the impression that the author thinks themselves very special for “having hobbies” and “not being able to hold a job” too. Almost everyone has random interests and feels suffocated by having to do one thing their entire lives, but most people eventually consider money and a stable lifestyle more important. Everyone wants to have less things but most people eventually find out that having things is nicer than having no things. Big whoop!
- theshrike79 8y agoI'd love to be a minimalist, but pretty much all of my hobbies include me collecting something or require a bunch of stuff. Yes, I could go digital with some of my collecting hobbies (books, comics, movies), but we all know how DRM and digital services are nowadays. My Criterion Collection Robocop DVD can't just magically disappear from my shelf one night because of some legal issues. Same with my books and comics, barring a large scale house fire, they're not going anywhere.
- mixmastamyk 8y agoMake your own copies.
- bayindirh 8y agoMinimalism doesn't only cover physical copies. Having a lot of files (movies, books, documents, academic research papers) creates its own digital clutter, which is much harder to organize effectively (esp. if you live a cross-platform computing life), and creates extreme amounts of overhead if you're inexperienced dealing with that amount of files.
- adrianN 8y agoI'd argue that it's easier by an order of magnitude or two to organize digital files than it is to organize physical artifacts.
- bayindirh 8y agoFrom my experience that’s not the case. When metadata, categorization and file naming comes into play, it’s a mess. Editing metadata of files last not an easy task. Also not all files come with correct or meaningful metadata. You also want to strip some of useless metadata to clean your search results. Another problem is size. When the data you have is bigger than a disk, separation problems come into play. Last but not the least, having a lot of old files with no discernible organization or metadata compounds the problem, since you will want to organize them at some point.
- mettamage 8y agoI can relate to her polymath feeling. I am looking for advice career wise on hiw to deal with it.
- bayindirh 8y agoCan you perform your most enjoyable "hobby" or "skill" as a job?
- guitarbill 8y agoEvery industry needs prototype or one-off work, which can keep things interesting. Consulting is also an option if you can play the game, or freelancing if you have an inclination with business. But finding a job that challenges you completely is unlikely to work, and can be a bit unhealthy because e.g. lack of boundaries. Consider working an okay job and using your free time as much as possible. And not every job has to be 40h per week. If you're living comfortably, sometimes less hours/pay is better. At the end of the day (no pun intended), the benefit of free time is ultimate flexibility. Bored of a project? Do something else for two weeks. Hard to do that at work. Dream jobs are super rare and usually require a lot more hard work than you think. Media is really bad at portraying this, and they only really portray the people who made it, not the ones who burned out.
- stockkid 8y ago> The things I have here aren’t just things. They are tools I use to explore my passions. This is actually pretty good point. Many things we are passionate about requires us to have things. Extreme minimalism could in many ways conflict with pursuit of our interests.
- RealDinosaur 8y agoI enjoy painting. I recently got a load of acrylic paints, hardwood panels, canvases, and an easel. Definitely not something that can fit in luggage. There are some hobbies that fit the minimal lifestyle. Say digital music production, or reading, or listing to music, but some like modeling, physical painting, machining, or sewing that just take up a lot of space. I'm constantly battling between having stuff and not having stuff, but I think the solution is to get as much stuff you can enjoy that fits into a 2m^2 storage unit, and lasts a lifetime. I'm not sure I agree about needing 10 guitars like someone mentioned. I have 3 basses, 2 guitars and 1 acoustic and that feels like too many already.
- scoutt 8y ago> So I might be obsessed ... then suddenly become possessed > “scanners“, “multipotentialites”, “polymaths”, and “renaissance people”. There must be a difference between having things to pursue some passion and pathologically having the passion of purchasing to pursue things.
- atoav 8y agoThe question is why these minimalist tendencies exist? If I had to guess I’d say it is about the feeling of control. If we don’t have any control over the outside world which has become quite unpredictable, and we have a hard time to control our own emtions and thoughts, it can be a soothing feeling to know exactly what you have where. It can also help with a nomadic life. I’d argue to keep things strategically. Don’t just keep everything, but don’t just throw out everything either. Keep organized, label your drawers, sort stuff. You should view your space as an external hard drive for your brain: - it helps you to keep things in focus - it helps you to revisit topics (hobbies, thoughts, emotions) now and then - it might contain tools for creating things If your only reason for not using that space is to avoid the mental work it needs to maintain it, that mainly means you don’t trust yourself with the decision how to organize your space in a way that serves you.
- guitarbill 8y ago> avoid the mental work for me, that's the most alluring part. i find (good) coding or design work leads to decision fatigue. more stuff means more decisions. less stuff means less decisions (even if the initial purchase requires a bit more effort). if i could manage to keep things organised after a long day, i'd probably do that. but some people need a strict set of rules, some people need the opposite (most people just cope/get by and never think about it - is that better or worse?).
- 50 8y ago> The question is why these minimalist tendencies exist? Despite it not seeming like a just reason, for me it’s because of impermanence (https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impermanence).
- bayindirh 8y ago> The question is why these minimalist tendencies exist? For me, minimalism is not a starting point, but a destination that I've arrived by a long, sometimes hard inner journey. I wanted to reduce my choice anxiety and the overhead of switching from something to another thing. I'm not a hoarder, but items that I use started to take a lot of space and mental energy (I like to organize things and keep notes about different subjects in different notebooks for example) to manage. I started to combine stuff and digitize old writings whenever possible, then combined old backups to denser mediums, stopped buying paper books and moved to eBooks, etc. At the end of the process, I've found that I'm sizing down and my target is in the realms of minimalism. I'm not an extreme minimalist, and I cannot give some stuff like my stationary stock, since there's no place I can donate them, and throwing them away is simply wasteful. For these kind of items, I cut the influx, and using whatever I have to reduce items. It's working reasonably well for me. For some of us, minimalism is not a fad or something to inspire to, but a way to live a less stressful and more comfortable life at the end.
- xupybd 8y agoWow how does someone hop countries like this without a job offer? I thought emigrating was harder than that?
- robjan 8y agoIt's easier to get a visa when you move from the richest country in the world to teach English in Asia. To get a more "skilled" job (teaching English basically requires any degree and a white face) usually requires a bit more process.
- nathan_f77 8y agoFor citizens of the US, Canada, UK, Australia, NZ, etc., it's very easy to spend a few months in most countries. Most of the time you can just turn up and they'll give you a visa on arrival. You can also look for jobs while you are there. Typically you will need to leave the country to apply for a work permit, and then come back on a new visa. If you want to stay longer than 6-12 months then you usually need a student, work, marriage, retirement, or investor visa. Some countries have special visas for freelancers or startups. Thailand has a "Thailand Elite" visa where you can pay $15k to stay for 5 years, or $63k to stay for 20 years [1]. But Thailand and Vietnam are also quite relaxed, so you can usually stay for a few years on a series of tourist visas. (Especially multi-entry tourist visas if you apply in your home country.) If you're a NZ citizen then you can live and work in Australia without a visa (and vice versa.) [1] https://nomadcapitalist.com/2018/01/22/thai-elite-visa/ https://nomadcapitalist.com/2018/01/22/thai-elite-visa/
- xupybd 8y agoAs an NZ citizen this is good news!
- osdiab 8y agoI hope that startups like Omni (https://beomni.com https://beomni.com) / autonomous cars + cheap remote storage end up working out well, because it would allow people to not actually need to own the things they’re not sentimental about. I love living light and spending time all over the world, but it seems super inefficient for me to need to lug all my crap everywhere every time I move, when the same exact crap is available in every locale. Typical example is a drill/toolkit, if I’m only going to use it occasionally, wouldn’t it be great if I could just borrow one one off for a day here or there? I don’t need to own it, I just want to use it. Multiply across all the sufficiently generic things I make use of in life, make it convenient and cheap enough I can depend on those things often, and you can live only truly owning the things you actually care about.
- nathan_f77 8y agoA drill is a great example. I bought one about 3 years ago, and I've only needed to use it about 4 times. The most recent time was a few days ago, but I wouldn't have been able to fix something without it. I don't regret buying it, and it doesn't take up much room, but it would be great if I could have just rented it each time.
- coldtea 8y ago>They say you can tell a lot about a people by looking at their bedrooms. But if you had seen my room back in Honolulu, you wouldn’t have been able to tell much about me How about "white middle class millennial nomad minimalist hipster"?
- VBprogrammer 8y agoI can't help but notice your comment is dripping with derision. Perhaps rather than sneering at people on the internet you might actually try to do something interesting with your life?
- zapzupnz 8y agoThe pot calling the kettle black may be found in "you might actually try to do something interesting with your life?" — you've no information upon which to make such a scathing remark; OP's comment may be derisive, but it at least has the foundation of the content of the article. What's your excuse?
- coldtea 8y agoI can't help but notice that your comment falls into the sin you're accusing me off. Instead of lecturing people on the internet, you might actually want to ponder than someone can "do something interesting with their life" _and_ have fun at living cliches at the same time. Do you think that bile commentators like Joan Rivers, Ambrose Bierce, Bill Hicks, Hunter S. Thompson, Mark Twain, Bernard Shaw, and so on, haven't done anything interesting with their life, or is it only me? (Sure, I'm no Bierce or Rivers, but that wasn't my point. We do share the "derision" part which you seem to deem so crucial). Plus, ever thought that I could pinpoint her that easily because I perhaps share some of her attributes? So my "derision" could also be self-deprecating? No, you only think about you!
- yipbub 8y agoI think the idea that cliches are inherently bad only holds if you consider originality and uniqueness in all aspects of your life essential. Rather ironically, that mindset is a cliche, one I would call misguided.
- dawidw 8y ago"It’s hard being this way sometimes, because society doesn’t consider it the norm and provides no guidelines for how us “renaissance people” might build our lives in a way that suits us. We’re expected to pick one specialization and build a career around it." That's a pity that the blogger didn't say how it was easier/different in old days.
- cyberferret 8y agoI'm in a similar situation as the author, in that most of the 'stuff' in my life are facilitators for my hobbies and passions in life outside of work. When people walk into my home office and see the number of guitars, amps and pedals lying around, they are often taken aback. I do have a lot of music gear, but they are integral to me winding down and de-stressing from my developer life and exploring another creative side of my life. When people ask me why I need about 10 guitars lying around and to downsize to just a couple, I say "No can do... each instrument is so different, and intended for a different purpose so I can't simply achieve all that with just one or two".
- alias_neo 8y agoIt doesn't matter what you replace the word "guitars" with. People that don't understand your craft will always suggest you have too many of something. Contrary to popular belief, 2 screwdrivers is not enough for any situation. A size 10 spanner will not fit every nut, and who only has a single sharp knife in their kitchen?
- mpol 8y agoMy stance on similar issues is, as long as I use all 10 of those guitars, I would want to keep them. I have 4 bicycles, and I use all 4 of them. When I don't use one anymore, it will have to go. Things are to be used and enjoyed. I have no interest in keeping a museum.
- amelius 8y agoThere's also a middle ground: put the stuff you don't need on a daily basis AND you expect to not miss if it disappeared into storage. You can even use a LRU scheme, where you have boxes labeled by year of last use.
- ataturk 8y agoI love how these folks are invariably artists or musicians and have this huge sense of entitlement about it. Hey, I love music, too, but I never had any illusions about making a living doing it! The problem I have with all this is obvious: At some point in your life you need to settle your mind a bit and realize that being an adult has a lot of unpleasant consequences to it. It is what it is. But those who fail to realize it often end up suicidal. Oh, and all the "tiny home" this and "minimalist" that is just poor people trying to make themselves look hip.
- gdubs 8y agoThe 'scanner' personality type comes from Barbara Sher's book, "Refuse to Choose". I read it because I also identify as a generalist. It's an interesting read, if a bit pop-sci. One big thing I took from it was that it's incredibly valuable to spend time organizing your environment to make switching between projects easy. The other big thing was that if you're a generalist, it really helps to find a career where you're able to work on a broad spectrum of projects that touch on lots of different fields. Having a kid that's kindergarten age, I can see being a kindergarten teacher as fulfilling for a generalist. Every day can touch on a new concept, a new skill. At the same time, it can allow for a deeper specialization in pedagogy. For me, it's been app development – through it I can incorporate a wide variety of interests, while going deeper and deeper on the core skillset. Personally, I've gravitated towards 'tidiness' over 'minimalism'. When Marie Kondo's book first came out, we decluttered our lives and it was liberating. I haven't seen the Netflix show but it sounds like her philosophy has gained a new level of fame recently. As a generalist, it's been particularly 'life changing' because I'm someone who can end up collecting a lot of things for 'some day'. By decluttering, I'm actually more inspired because it's easier to see the various projects and things I'm interested in. I.e., it's easy, as a generalist, to fall into the trap of thinking that everything is important and worth holding onto for some future endeavor.
- YUMad 8y agoIt is no wonder this happens, because 'minimalism' today is just a memepack attenpting to address the dichotomy in working class people's heads between the amount of labor they are investing and the amount of rewards they can reap for it, by attempting to link it to Walden-style minimalism. But it's quite different IMO. Modern minimalism simply reflect the reality of not owning enough living space to store things (because they rent and rents are high) and not enough free time to use them (because they have to work too much). There is a song by Mes Aieux that I feel explains very well the feelings of young people with regards to this: https://www.youtube.com/embed/3O9FQ4ZSuBo https://www.youtube.com/embed/3O9FQ4ZSuBo (Video is Yellow Vests themed but it has English subtitles).
- stunt 8y agoExtreme version of anything is bad! Why you would do anything extreme!? Isn't the word obvious enough? Aren't enough examples around us?