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An online dating site for ugly people - welcome to reality
- cagenut 16y agoLowered Expectaaaaaations http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6xLsRI7-hBs http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6xLsRI7-hBs
- CodeMage 16y agoReminded me of the movie called "Crazy People": http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_ArDB7AJAI http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_ArDB7AJAI
- olalonde 16y agoIs it just me or that one doesn't seem much aesthetically challenged http://www.whitelabeldating.com/ubb/random/2.jpeg http://www.whitelabeldating.com/ubb/random/2.jpeg
- swah 16y agoThe majority of ugly people aren't conscious about it, which makes things difficult for a site like this to succeed.
- nithyad 16y agoOr is it that majority of the people are so conscious about the way they look that they are more comfortable labeling themselves 'ugly' than let somebody else do it!
- Udo 16y agoNah, I'm pretty sure I'm ugly alright, and even if I wasn't there are several data points that make it kinda obvious: First, girls have repeatedly told me so. But just to make sure, I conducted an experiment by creating two accounts on a dating site: one using my real photos, the other using pics from a normal-looking (not overly attractive) man off the web. The "normal guy" got tons of winks and responses, while the real me got nothing as usual. Well, nothing is not quite true, I got a response from a girl who was apparently offended because I thought I was in her league... This pattern didn't change when I made the normal looking guy sound like a total douche on his profile. So, yes, I think this site is a great idea!
- nithyad 16y agoOn this website, is everybody considered to be in the same league? At-least that way, one needn't fear offending anybody...I'm sure the female that you mentioned has low self esteem.
- Udo 16y ago> On this website, is everybody considered to be in the same league? I have no idea, but at the very least I'd expect the people there to not be so focused on optics. Despite it all, my own self esteem isn't actually low, I'm just aware of a few shortcomings... > I'm sure the female that you mentioned has low self esteem. Probably, but it also taught me something important that I hadn't thought about before, because I hadn't even considered that getting a message from me would maybe confirm the doubts a person has about her own looks.
- mburney 16y agoYou made the normal looking guy sound like a douche? That may be the reason he got so many winks and responses. Often being an arrogant douche can be mistaken for confidence and attractiveness.
- nithyad 16y ago...dating for the aesthetically challenged :) Love the tagline.
- maeon3 16y ago"Ugly" needs to broken out by category: ugly on the outside? Ugly personality? Ugly mental illness? Ugly by car accident or Ugly by DNA? Ugly not intelligent? The dating game in this country is broken, as evidence I point at the 50%+ divorce rate. I propose a better solution. One where a dating website has "ground rules" that if you break, you get three strikes and your out. Rules like you have to respond to the suitor with a reason why you are incompatible. Rules like if you are chronically offending other people, you get restricted rights. If you are beautiful and get hundreds of messages and don't respond to any, you get removed from search. If a suitor comes up, fitting all your criteria for a date, and you don't like them, and can't quote a reason why you don't like them, you get a emblem on your profile that says: "Profile criteria inaccurate, this person doesn't have any idea what they want". Which would encourage one to actually put down what they want in the mate, instead of the fluff that women/men actually put down. This article describes many of the failings of the current dating website methodology and how it could be improved: Hi, I want to meet 17.6% of you: http://interviews.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/02/19/1419207 http://interviews.slashdot.org/article.pl?sid=08/02/19/14192...
- xyzzyz 16y ago> The dating game in this country is broken, as evidence I point at the 50%+ divorce rate. Dating? I'd rather say, marriage.
- ergo98 16y ago"The dating game in this country is broken, as evidence I point at the 50%+ divorce rate." That stat is always brought up as proof of the failure of marriage. To me it validates marriage. Seriously, if you told a computing engine that two people committed to each other (often when young), and they always had the option of saying adieu, and asked what percentage would over the entirety of their lives, it would probably estimate somewhere in the 100% range of people wouldn't stick it out. Just look at the evidence: How many people stick to anything they commit to, much less something with a commitment often greater than 60 years. If almost half of marriages remain, that is just shockingly high.
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- epo 16y agoThe cliche is that men go to dating sites looking for sex and women go to dating sites looking for wealthy men. A site like this would be a bonanza for men looking for an 'easy' partner. Someone needs to start a "rich but ugly" site, that would be a winning proposition for both genders, albeit a fertile source of disappointment to anyone who paired up.
- eof 16y agoI had seriously considered a site playing to that cliche. The site would always maintain a 2-1 ratio of women to men, with the women's accounts being free, and having them only be accepted into the site if they were a 7 or better. (something like top 15%) Men's accounts would be prohibitively expensive, something like $250 a month. The site would be promoted to women by going to clubs, bars, etc with women (on a per city basis, probably starting in NYC, Boston, etc) and giving them something of a 'golden ticket' to signing up. ie, the invitation itself would be proof of attractiveness and would an invite would therefore be desirable. Eventually women would be approved by some sort of crowd sourcing or just editorial control.
- aidenn0 16y agoOnly problem with this is that I while I know several wealthy but less than handsome men, none of them have any trouble getting laid.
- eof 16y agoHonestly, I think the real problem is getting enough women that the site has enough value to shell out $250 a month. I think wealthy men, even if they have no problem getting laid, will still find a lot of value in a large selection of women in a market that is artificially in their favor.
- gaius 16y agoThere was a documentary on CH4 about just such a website, sugardaddy.com I think it was called (not going to check from the office!).
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- scrrr 16y agoI always thought that online dating missed the point of how human beings interact, meet and date. And this site is yet another proof.
- BrandonM 16y agoThe copy on the front page (specifically the reasons to date ugly people) has a rather mocking tone. I can go along with the idea, but I feel like the site should be showing its members a lot more respect. If this site becomes known, I could see it being used as a mean insult where someone sends a message on a dating site, and the reply includes a link to TUBB.
- jonpaul 16y agoAgreed. Reading that made me believe the site was a parody of sorts.
- acangiano 16y agoThis is the kind of site that will have no trouble attracting press coverage. And that's half the battle.
- paolomaffei 16y agoAnyone else thinking this is a bit sad? # Once with an ugly partner it is unlikely that anyone will try and take them from you meaning you can let yourself go completely once you’re together. # In these straightened times TUBB is cheaper as a) We don’t charge much as the pretty sites and b) Ugly people have lower expectations – for a first date A Family Bucket will usually do the trick.
- JabavuAdams 16y agoI love that there's a typo in the first sentence.
- dejb 16y agoI wonder if they'll enforce the ugly requirement to 'Stop the the beautiful people from wrecking it'. I can just see their next headline about someone being kicked off the site for being too hot.
- dstein 16y agoFor that matter, why not make a site for attractive people who have horrifically ugly personalities. There's far more of them.
- shawndumas 16y agoprettyintolerable.com
- sushi 16y agoTry http://www.beautifulpeople.com http://www.beautifulpeople.com
- jason_slack 16y agoI first really thought this was a joke... What about levels of ugliness? Scale from 1 to 10 or like maybe in levels of "bags". The stereotype that the uglier you are the more bags one would need to put over your head before they would "do you"..?? Like a double-bagger....or a triple bagger..as an example. Then maybe you say call someone a "f-ugly double bagger" and it might be considered a compliment in the goals of this site!
- mattmaroon 16y agoI see two primary problems with this idea. #1. Most ugly people don't want to date someone else ugly. This is especially true for men, who typically care far more about their mate's appearance than their own. #2. Most ugly people aren't conscious of their ugliness, or if they are, they at least aren't comfortable enough admitting it to sign up for this service.
- rokhayakebe 16y ago1- True, but if you are ugly and have little else to offer than you will settle for ugly. 2- I think we will see lots of decent looking people signing up because they think "in a pool of ugliness I will beauty queen", and that will help. For example in the latest members section, the girl on the top right is not ugly.
- quizbiz 16y agoBut who wants to meet a future spouse on a dating site for ugly people? Rather, an ugly person would prefer a dating site for smart people or mac enthusiasts or music enthusiasts, etc.
- discolemonade 16y agoThere's still an element of stigma around online dating. When you combine that with the fact that nobody wants to admit to others and especially to themselves that they settled, this site is a trainwreck in the making... assuming it isn't some sort of a prank or something. Nobody intentionally goes out looking for ugly people to date.
- pedanticfreak 16y ago#1 People of similar attractiveness do tend to gravitate toward each other. #2 People of all levels of attractiveness are able to measure other people's attractiveness on the same scale with relative accuracy. Dan Ariely has a very good talk on this over at bigthink.com: http://bigthink.com/ideas/20752 http://bigthink.com/ideas/20752 Given this, I think stratifying dating sites on attractiveness would actually improve successful match rates. Whether you can do this all in one site or need to create stronger logical boundaries is really a matter of implementation.
- cemregr 16y agoFunny thing is the people that they show you before signing up are pretty decent looking.
- gaius 16y agoIt is the same mechanism that that TV show Ugly Betty wouldn't work if the actress playing her wasn't actually quite cute.
- FiddlerClamp 16y agoUgly to one is attractive to another, in many cases. For example, fat women have the whole BBW (Big, Beautiful Women) movement and guys who love that. Same with gay men and the 'bear community'. Even geeks get to take advantage of being 'adorkable'. Having a huge birthmark, or cross-eyes, or something else that sets you apart from the 'average' person may be considered ugly, or just strange. I don't see any people on that home page that I would call ugly. Also, I think that people who believe themselves to be less attractive generally try harder. :)
- dhimes 16y agoWait- you're saying that hairy men are ugly? Shit.
- ilamparithi 16y agoDid anyone see the maximum age in the search?
- base 16y agoOne time I met a guy that had a dating site for people in Rio de Janeiro that was only for hot or rich. All the people had to be pre-approved by the rest of the members to get in. If not approved you could pay something like 500$ to get in. I wonder if it's still around.
- arb99 16y agoThis is just a dating site skin, it is just the main tour is marketed for ugly people, but i'm pretty sure the members area will have the same members as any other whitelabeldating.com site. from the whitelabeldating site - > "WhiteLabelDating.com provides the dating software, membership database, payment processing, customer support, hosting infrastructure, tax processing and much more. You provide your brand, website design and marketing and we do the rest."
- evgeny0 16y agoThe real target audience of that site is people with a poor self-image. That's a perfectly valid target market - and a big one, I'd bet! Of course, they can't just come out and SAY "join if you have issues with your looks" - that wouldn't go down very well with the users.
- Grizzlier 16y agoI don't want to come across as a spelling Nazi, but since you're asking for feedback I hope you take this as constructive criticism to improve the front page copy: "In these straightened times TUBB is cheaper as..." Should be "straitened times"