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by twodave 5y ago
>Any sage advice? Probably more than you want haha. We adopted domestically via a local agency. Our first 3 were adopted at birth, and our youngest was in and out of foster care for 5 months before his mother decided to make an adoption
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by twodave 5y ago
For us this was true until we'd experienced it and started talking about it publicly. It turns out we have a lot of friends and acquaintances who were willing to open up with us once they knew they weren't alone. Like in many othe
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by twodave 5y ago
Thanks for the kind words. The most important thing I've learned is to just take the next step. If I can figure out whatever that next step should be, then I can focus on just that and the rest doesn't stress me so much.
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by twodave 5y ago
My hair started graying pretty much as soon as I graduated from college. It makes a lot of sense now. Around the same time, I: - bought a house (in 2007, yeesh) - got married - started my first job (which at the time felt like drinking out
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by twodave 5y ago
What I understand is that talk like this is unnecessary and inflammatory. I haven't seen evidence to suggest that "a lot" of American policing involves officers abusing their power. It definitely happens and, when it does, ne
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by twodave 5y ago
Sure there are, but those require someone to be assaulted to enforce them. If they can short-circuit the process during the "drinking in public" preamble to the assault then one might say violence was prevented instead of punished
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by twodave 5y ago
For sure--it's kind of sad they don't even have to hide it.
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by twodave 5y ago
Being willing to do whatever it takes is the only way. If that means trashing your phone, you've got to be willing to go through with it. If you're not willing to make sacrifices to change then the addiction will just continue to
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by twodave 5y ago
>modern videogames are way better designed and more compelling than those 20 years ago. I may be in the minority, but as a 36-year-old I think the opposite is true. As a teenager I was very loyal to just a handful (3-5) video games, with
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by twodave 5y ago
True--still, with many things (I'd say anything besides actual hard drugs) it's easy to confuse casual use with addiction. "Spending a lot of time" playing a video game is NOT the same as skipping meals, lying, self-isol
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by twodave 5y ago
I'm no scholar or researcher, just someone who's experienced impulsive behavior as a regular old human. I'd categorize any activity that attempts to short-circuit the usual reward center of the brain as potentially addictive.
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by twodave 5y ago
No links, but I've seen the change in myself and others I've known for a while. A few examples I suppose might be helpful: Things I used to do 10 years ago: - launch headlong into a task as soon as I understand the problem stateme
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by twodave 5y ago
The “church” in my comment is referring to people. Institutions don’t commit atrocities. People do. I was trying to illustrate (perhaps poorly) that even in our most sincere attempts to be good, we fail at it regularly. But how we love to p
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by twodave 5y ago
No, it’s people. It’s always people. That even the church carries out such atrocities says more about humanity than it does about the church.
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by twodave 5y ago
And yet one of the less-emphasized progressive tenets is the destruction of the family, because (e.g. in Marxism) the “family” is part of the bourgeoisie and must be abolished along with them.
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by twodave 5y ago
I don’t think we actually disagree. I was merely pointing out a couple factors I don’t think are emphasized enough. More often I see people characterize interruptions as show-stoppers. The reality is these things will happen, thus I would j
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by twodave 5y ago
I’m in the process of designing talks outlining the general architecture of the platform my team has spent the last few years building. Minimizing cognitive load is a guiding principle of ours (and for our platform—payroll processing—it’s a
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by twodave 5y ago
You certainly do! The variable we tend to be rigid about is whatever our idea of expectation is for our progress. It’s worth it to you and your employer both to be well organized in the way you approach legacy code. If you’re actively turni
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by twodave 5y ago
Valid points. I probably came on a bit strong as well. My comments weren’t directed at your title or even content so much as the discussion I’m seeing both here and in my own workplace. I have managers who (God bless them) spend a lot of ef
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by twodave 5y ago
I see this kind of rhetoric often, whether at work or here on HN. I think some important factors are typically left out, however: 1. Business value isn’t always a measure of coding velocity. Interruptions are often gifts in disguise. 2. The
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by twodave 5y ago
So true. I've experienced more than my share of addiction, and the dopamine hits, while intense, only bring momentary pleasure. Instead of happiness, feelings of shame are often the result. Fortunately there are many things out there t
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by twodave 5y ago
Certainly, though I personally draw a pretty large difference between "supported by scripture" and either "I can find a verse that helps me justify my opinion" or "I can find some famous idiot in the Bible who made
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by twodave 5y ago
As a Christian, it would be very sad/disheartening if this author's description of "Christian Heaven" were actually supported by scripture. Aside from that, many of these ideas assume people to be completely self-centere
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by twodave 5y ago
My point is it doesn't matter--on a large scale, movement _between_ jobs is a zero-sum game. Businesses might see a spike in hiring costs, but by your logic they'll just be making up for lost time so it's even more-so a non-s
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by twodave 5y ago
Can't get the site to load :( Edit: loading now--Okay, I'm not sure I buy much of this article. Most people need some kind of job to survive. So while there might be more turnover than usual in the marketplace, I don't forese
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by twodave 5y ago
If I'm buying the usual consumable goods, I'll buy from Amazon. There's not much point in counterfeiting those for the most part, and the financial risk is very low in the first place. Anything more expensive than $100 or so
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by twodave 5y ago
It's heavily dependent on the region one lives in. In Jacksonville, FL, for instance, $150k+ is mostly reserved for SVP/C-level folks.
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by twodave 5y ago
The skill required to perform a job isn't the only consideration when determining its cost. I grew up with the dream of working for Blizzard or the like. The truth is, gaming is a major gateway into the programming world. Kids grow up
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by twodave 5y ago
Have to agree with the others. For example, while setting up ELB it's possible to select at least one option (un-checking the Public IP box) that causes the setup to just fail with a nonsensical error message. Turns out ELB requires a
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by twodave 5y ago
I found the below extremely effective at curbing addictive behaviors myself. Find somebody you trust and have them password-protect your Screen Time settings and lock them down. Uninstall anything you don't want distracting you. Disabl

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