throwaway_poor

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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
It's liquid alright (public).
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Interesting - my friend, without being particularly charismatic, is indeed very likable and has worked with some of the people involved for decades.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Let's say maybe calibrated risk appetite. Too high of a risk appetite has its own problems especially long-term.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
They did tell me that the business was working well. I didn't care to ask how much they made from it, and it is public knowledge at this point, I just never bothered to look it up.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Whatever is to handle is not between us but 100% in my head, I agree.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Thanks. What were your takeaways from it?
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Undoing in what way? Btw my friend hasn't changed in ways that I've noticed.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
I am definitely feeling more inspired than jealous.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
I'm sorry to hear that money stole your friends...
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
> Would you feel like you’re wasting time in your job if he was broke or the startup was struggling? Probably not. Right, that was my experience with other friends who got into the startup game. > Unless you can turn this feeling into
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
I'm already there! Living well below my means too.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Maybe if that's how you know them. This is someone I know from before wealth and who hasn't been acting as a stranger though. I didn't know they had become this wealthy until very recently.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Did you keep any friends from your pre-money days? How did the wealth change your relationships, where you hang out, etc.?
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Lol exactly! Thank you for this. For now I'm at the slot machines all day getting soaked on cheap whisky and I just saw a high roller come out. Maybe the best move is not to play.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
I'm very happy for him and I don't feel jealous or even envious. It's only causing me to question my professional choices.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Interesting. How did they react? Was it in the US? (My friend and I are from a culture where talking about money is less socially acceptable than in the US.)
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
It's a good point. In particular I feel it's going to make parenting challenging because his children will know growing up that they will never need to work.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
That makes sense. Thanks for sharing. I have more friends who've made multiple millions from their businesses and their success doesn't create an itch in me, maybe I should think of him this way.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Separately, I'd agree the game is rigged, but there isn't much I think I can do about that beyond casting my vote responsibly... it doesn't really bother me.
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
He definitely has not let wealth or success become his identity. I didn't know that he was so wealthy until recently but it happened years ago and it didn't change our relationship in any noticeable way. It's good to remember
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
I fully think in this case they deserve the win. They worked hard, took risks, invented something that solved real problems, and have been executing flawlessly on it. I don't feel like it's an unfair win, I'm just wondering i
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Inheritance I wouldn't care about because there's nothing I can do to change what I inherit. Lottery I'd probably care about, though. I've always looked down on people who buy into lottery but I think if I saw someone cl
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by throwaway_poor 5y ago
Thanks, this is good advice. I don't have envy or jealousy but I do need to decide for myself what I want to actually do. So far I was feeling good about not playing the startup game because from the sample of my friends who gave it a
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Ask HN: My friend made it big. How to handle?
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