throwaway99923

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by throwaway99923 3y ago
Yes, happened to me. My ex had a mid life crisis and decided she didn't want to be a mother or wife anymore. She wanted to enjoy life and be free. Great for her, terrible for everyone else in the family. After that experience, I take t
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by throwaway99923 3y ago
It's pretty much the performance culture. It adds a level of stress which impedes my ability to do a good job. I also see a negative effect it has on others and the org's behaviour.
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by throwaway99923 3y ago
I have a very good friend who is a medical doctor and swapped to engineering. He bought some books and self studied. He's now working his dream job at a biotech startup trying to extend life, using both of his skills simultaneously. Ba
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by throwaway99923 3y ago
Yes I've done almost 2 years now of therapy. It's partially how I pulled myself out of my depressing hole and went after one of my dreams (join a FAANG). Despite how disillusioned I sound here, I'm actually in a better place
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by throwaway99923 3y ago
> switched to information security. I found reverse engineering, doing CTFs, and hacking things in general brought back the sense of joy I’d lost. This really resonates with me. I did a binary exploitation class in my M.S. where we did w
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by throwaway99923 3y ago
Re. FAANG I feel this must have been true at some point? I knew people who worked at these places in the 2010s and they loved it. I think I must have missed the golden period. There are probably still great teams with great culture at these
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by throwaway99923 3y ago
Hmm I guess what I said can come off as condescending. But I was trying to condense all of my experience in less than 4k words, and I guess I came out sounding a bit like an asshole based on your comment. Trust me, I don't think that h
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Ask HN: Tired of being a software engineer, what next?
73 points by throwaway99923 3y ago|109 comments
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by throwaway99923 4y ago
These days I use a private music sharing site. I browse the Top 10 every few days, grab things that look interesting, and listen. I am constantly discovering new artists and new favorite albums. I used Spotify for years and found the discov
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by throwaway99923 4y ago
Thanks for the words. Can't move due to custody arrangements, unfortunately. I dream of simply leaving it all behind, but I'm not willing to lose my kids so I endure for their sake.
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by throwaway99923 4y ago
Not great. I got separated and have been struggling with depression the last couple years. I'm stuck in a foreign, expensive location paying spousal support so I barely have any money left over and no family and few friends. Rents keep