throwaway020222

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by throwaway020222 5y ago
> The addictions you describe, porn, YouTube, gaming and what you are doing here are in this theory related to dopamine. You seem to have kicked it or you can't reach your level anymore. I felt uneasy about my relationship/marr
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
I'd really like to know how the conversation with your GF goes. Unfortunately this is a throwaway account and this post is already flagged. But you are in such a better position than I am just by being younger and not married yet. Afte
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
But the expiration date part is great. I envy you my friend :D (in a good way)
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
> You should try talking to other guys who have attempted this. If porn is distracting you, you're probably not going to go for women your age*. Past 40 or so, unless you're outstandingly rich or a 10, you're just not what
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
Yes, I think I have. Last year after we got our 2nd vaccine shot, we started going out/travelling a lot but still the love didn't re kindle.
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
> I can barely describe the euphoria in first months/year following my separation, waking up and proceeding through my entire day completely unbothered whenever I wanted. What happened for you in the 2nd, 3rd, etc. years? > But I
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
> I don't buy that, unless you're asexual and aromantic. People tend to find love, if they're looking for it or not. And, not just men re-marry. If my experience is at all typical, a second marriage works better than the f
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
I'll definitely start therapy for myself at first, and later with her.
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
I'll definitely start therapy for myself at first, and later with her.
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
That's why my current plan is to wait at least until she finishes her studies (she will be done by the end of this year). I hope 1 year is a long time to differentiate whether it's just an identity crisis or not. > (and whateve
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
Of course I wouldn't ever tell her the truth of when I decided to get a divorce. It would devastate her to find her past X years have been a lie and I'd just be a great a*hole. I'm trying to think in the best outcome for both
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
It's the first time I've been married so I didn't know what to expect. Even though we married last year, we've been living together for a few years now. But it's hell for me, I want freedom, I want time, I don'
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
In the last 2-3 months I've been trying to not get too distracted with the internet/video games/online porn and I have had moments of boredom where I actually can think about what I want in life. That gave me a moment of reve
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by throwaway020222 5y ago
Thanks. I thought maybe other devs have felt/experienced similar situations
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Ask HN: I regret my marriage. What to do?
10 points by throwaway020222 5y ago|34 comments