throw220702

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by throw220702 4y ago
You answered the thing you feared to answer elsewhere :) Or perhaps there's more? A lot of this makes sense. This seems consistent with my understanding of who you are. If your assessment of them was accurate, I'm surprised they l
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by throw220702 4y ago
You're absolutely right that much of the energy on a thread like this comes from those who have been rejected. Did you notice how much more pleasant your interactions with partnered men tend to be? That's likely has a multi-layere
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by throw220702 4y ago
I hope you’ll chat with a few friends about why you decided to write this to the few remaining stragglers. I should do the same though I know why I’m a mess :) Your response is heartfelt. It misconstrues the point many were making. None of
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by throw220702 4y ago
Huh! That makes sense. And is also confusing. It’s not problem solving; it’s reading stories from which you might glean some combination of hope and a technique or two to mimic. If I wanted to solicit stories like that, I’d tend to post on
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by throw220702 4y ago
I'm again impressed by your engagement. I understand why you wanted the focus to be more generic. That's not how I or most other problem solvers I know approach solving problems. Certainly, one could write out a general theory of
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by throw220702 4y ago
Why would a man be less interested in someone because his body learns that she can cause a unique pleasant sensation?
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by throw220702 4y ago
Out of the 120, how many were sweet and super nerdy? What was their second date rate? Along a different dimension, what indicia of nerdiness appeal to you? This comment along with your reactions suggests a theory. Let's see if it valid
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by throw220702 4y ago
You came back to a thread a day later to engage. That takes an unusual amount of dedication and patience. An assortment of thoughts: I hope you read How to Win Friends and Influence People. And it's not because you need it to know how
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by throw220702 4y ago
There's a more charitable reading of the proper motive which aligns what you want: To be wanted for some essential thing about yourself.
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by throw220702 4y ago
As a man not much younger than you, it's helpful to hear that's a turn-off. What to ask when is tricky. I see several options: 1. Estimate the odds of successfully procreating upfront; Downside: Can seem boorish and unromanti
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by throw220702 4y ago
This is fascinating. Describe that fit. What is it that drew you to him initially? What traits differentiate him from others you've met? If your tastes are less aligned with typical as this suggests that bodes well for your prospects.
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by throw220702 4y ago
Your experience suggests you can solve your problem in one of two ways: Figure out how to interest the attractive men in commitment; figure out how to feel attraction to someone who will commit. It might help to analyze what makes you feel