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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
These people are the real MVPs.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
I'm sorry to hear that's your experience and hope this article helps that get a little better!
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
Love this!
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
Heard! Sorry if I came across as combative! I spent way too much time around clinicians and tend to stick to formal definitions a little too much.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
I love how self-aware you are about this. Honestly if I encounter the first mismatch I tend to operate just like you: will honor the person but also move away and towards my goal. Thanks for sharing!
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
Iain, nice to hear from you after all these years! I still say the weirdest shit ever, but now more in line with my value of honoring people above all else. I indeed, by the grace of God, have made massive strides in my behavior thanks to f
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
This isn't entirely accurate. Psychopathy involves impaired affective (emotional) empathy as a core trait, while cognitive empathy remains intact or can even be enhanced. This is slightly different from autism, which typically shows
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
This also varies a lot across cultures: in Germany, people actually expect waiters to show up and say "Order?" and sometimes get irritated when they're overly bubbly. In the USA, the opposite is expected.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
yes
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
+100 to this.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
Hey, thanks @whiplash451!
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
I'm glad it was helpful!
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
There was a topic on abandoning lost causes (not people, but circumstances) in the article that I hope had no fluff.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
And sensing early when the environments are wrong and aborting sooner rather than later.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
It's just shorthand for when people want to ask for things, common among investors (so, YC/HN).
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
What are some primary reasons you don't like some people? Is it just a vibe mismatch like the chemical reactions the article suggests?
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
What works for me is overt intentionality: I just tell them I'd like to continue to keep in touch with them and ask if it's okay if I sporadically text them somewhat regularly. Some folks have said outright no and that's fine
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
The cool thing is though that the real ones will have grace when either side gets it wrong, and the others won't.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
Hahaha, what a lovely story! Really shows what happens when we engage as _people_, not _opportunities_.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
I apologize. This is good feedback for follow-up work though. Thank you!
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
Exactly! And there's billions of people on the planet—at some point, people meet people with similar water levels.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
Isn't a part of dealing with group dynamics though recognizing when there is harm in/to the group and removing it? (sorry)
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
Love this. Thank you for posting it!
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
You're not a psychopath: I feel the same. However I still value showing them honor so I often deal with them with more kindness externally than I feel internally, recognizing my internal feeling is my own issue not theirs.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
I love this very much and strongly agree: I hate receiving those sheepish catch ups, especially when I anticipate an ask coming. In fact, if I sense I want to make an ask but I haven't spoken with someone in a long time, I just won&#x2
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
I love this.
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
I also hope you're wrong about this, but there's no way for me to know other than what my peers say ( https://x.com/kilianvalkhof/status/1864284445584261163 ).
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
they're*
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
Did they consider kicking Bob out of the group?
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by tejaskumar_ 2y ago
This, exactly. Glad this point came across clearly and power to you!

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