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Why It’s Not Helpful to Say “I Don’t See Color”(medium.com)
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Nine months pregnant during a public health crisis(medium.com)
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How to teach kids about religion when you’ve got no religious background?(medium.com)
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It’s hard to report suspected abuse. But it’s worth it(medium.com)
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Childhood Trauma Is Easy to Ignore: One Adult’s Story(medium.com)
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by nikkikayauthor 7y ago
I do think if society was more open and there were more personal stories out there it would make parents who’ve experienced this kind of loss at the very least feel less alone. That’s why I am out there talking about it whenever I can. It i
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by nikkikayauthor 7y ago
I am that first scenario. I had 2 healthy kids followed by 2 miscarriages. I can’t speak to easier or harder, but I do know that even the 2 losses I had in quick succession (one in March and one in August of the same year) affected me in p
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by nikkikayauthor 7y ago
Oh yeah. I can see how that would be irritating to say the least. Please use second person and address me directly, don’t talk around me. I literally don’t remember anyone actually asking me anything until I was in the ER with 104 temp wond
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by nikkikayauthor 7y ago
You are misunderstanding. That is what I tell people when they ask me if I am excited about my own pregnancy. The first 20 weeks of the latest pregnancy were all hedging and trying to not get our hopes up.
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by nikkikayauthor 7y ago
For my first miscarriage - no heartbeat, no detectable embryo - the idea of a “failed pregnancy” somehow made the loss more manageable, like something that never got off the ground. My next miscarriage, which occurred after seeing a heartbe
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by nikkikayauthor 7y ago
Yeah that’s a tough question to answer. My answer to “how’s it going?” Or “are you excited?” has to be carefully curated and edited based on who I’m talking to. I’ve gotten better at just saying “we’ve had a couple losses so it’s hard to ge
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by nikkikayauthor 7y ago
Check in on them and see how they’re doing, or just offer an ear if they want to talk. If they’re anything like My husband and me they don’t have many people to talk to about it - and many won’t bring it up because they feel awkward or unco
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by nikkikayauthor 7y ago
I am 30 w after 2 miscarriages and have felt exactly the same. The trauma I experienced when taking my kid to the ER for something totally unrelated was completely surprising. I write to help me process my feelings about the loss and the (h