loveudad

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by loveudad 4y ago
I'll emphasize that like anyone born before smartphones, she may wish she had more pictures and videos from decades ago. Assuming that, she may understand your point of view and accept being the subject.
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by loveudad 4y ago
It's hard to say for someone I've never met. My dad knew he hadn't much time so it probably helped. If your mother has a unique story (war, achievement, migration...) maybe she'll be inclined to tell it. Also, it's
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by loveudad 4y ago
I enjoyed learning about how he lived decades ago. The 20th century brought so much change that there was a lot that surprised me.
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by loveudad 4y ago
Does this answer your question? https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32349581
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by loveudad 4y ago
I talked about the questions here https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32349581 As for the production, I found that having a couple of smartphones were good enough for me. You do want to have backup capture. I wish I had ha
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by loveudad 4y ago
I think this covers most of it https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32349581 I wish I had asked more though.
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by loveudad 4y ago
I'm sorry to hear that. May I suggest that you try and record a small session with specific questions? From my small experience with family members suffering from this, they may be able to talk to a small extent about some subjects (no
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by loveudad 4y ago
I partially answered there https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32349581 To be honest, I'm still under shock but what I feel is that I wish I had time to ask everything. The thing is you don't know what will reson
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by loveudad 4y ago
I'm very sorry for your loss. The pain has been incredible for me. I hope you'll get the opportunity to do it with your mother, doubly more so if she can shed light on your father's life.
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by loveudad 4y ago
This sounds like a pretty good way to do it. I'd still recommend some video recordings because facial expressions and gesture language are something I want to remember. My only plan is to share with family members and ensure records do
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by loveudad 4y ago
I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm very fortunate that he didn't have dementia so he could articulate some thoughts. I hope your story will push others to act before it's too late.
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by loveudad 4y ago
I'm asking myself the same thing but I think there's an issue with succinctness. I don't want to make them watch/read hours of me rambling. If there is a lot of content, it has to be searchable. I think private, static-f
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by loveudad 4y ago
I'm so sorry that you and others in the comments weren't able to do it. I was undeservedly lucky that he lived long enough, healthy enough and that he partly recovered thanks to blood transfusions. Even then, I (and he) wasted yea
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by loveudad 4y ago
I agree, I feel that I only scratched the surface unfortunately but even then I'm glad that I cleared some big misconceptions about him. Spending a few hours to ask direct questions could lead to a big progress from 15% to 20% or more.
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by loveudad 4y ago
I waited way too long to act on it and the reason was I just felt I didn't know enough to ask relevant questions. When the urgency came, I threw together something that I honestly feel a bit ashamed about and I couldn't execute fu
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by loveudad 4y ago
I realized that I have some voicemail records lying around and listening to them I must say they're a not insignificant part of my recent interactions with him. It crossed my mind that emailing them to myself at random could mimic him
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by loveudad 4y ago
Very sorry for your loss. It's incredible how few videos are about thinking, not-celebrity adults. Gigabytes about kids with adult voiceover, some occasional video with one parent filming the other with other family members, but as of
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Tell HN: I interviewed my dad before he died
513 points by loveudad 4y ago|156 comments