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by jm__87 8y ago
Yes, if you are okay with forgoing benefits and vacation and know the hiring manager, then you can often double your take home (if they really need you, or you have a special skill set can ask for more obviously). Often contractors are hire
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I'm not sure that means you are an imposter. If your coworkers are equally unfit for the job as defined by whatever high bar you've set for yourself, then you belong there just as much as they do and you likely have a higher bar f
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by jm__87 8y ago
Interesting. I don't know that I've felt imposter syndrome since my first year or two as a programmer. If this persists for a long time in to your career, yet you've received pay raises, promotions and positive feedback from
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Do you consciously think about what the correct way to communicate is before you communicate something in an informal setting? If so I'd imagine you're an outlier. For most people I would assume they don't think about this at
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How is how you communicate not related to how you think?
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Yeah, I'm not certain this isn't how people are by default when encountering someone they view to belong to a different "tribe". The problem in North America may be that we are too individualistic and don't focus en
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I went through a period of time where I had a hard time making friends and I think it mostly had to do with my own attitude. Partly it was me not being friendly enough (too tired, not feeling great myself) to others and partly it was me not
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Most people's metabolisms change as they age and most people generally have less time and energy as life commitments increase. Sure, if someone at 30+ had a lot of time and money and put all their effort in to fitness, I'm sure th
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by jm__87 8y ago
Or you can just schedule time to worry about things and have other time where you don't worry about things... it takes a bit of discipline, but if you worry about everything 24/7 you're going to be very unhealthy.
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As someone who recently got over insomnia, this is actually really great advice for insomnia (assuming your sleep issues are not due to sleep apnea or restless leg syndrome).
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So I used to have the same problem until recently. The way to get over it is to pay attention to how you feel every time you hear these noises and to train yourself in to feeling that the noise isn't really a big deal (you could even t
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As someone who recently completed CBTI for my insomnia, I can't recommend this approach more. I sleep quite well now. Definitely combatting poor attitudes regarding sleep is very important.
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I'm guessing you're young... once you hit 30, your mind is probably going to change on this.
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Maybe AI has already taken over and they're going for a divide and conquer strategy to overthrow humanity :). Sure seems that way in 2018...
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by jm__87 9y ago
I find it interesting how many varying definitions for empathy I'm seeing in this thread. I always thought of empathy to specifically be "feeling oriented", not simply taking someone else's perspective. Not saying anyone
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by jm__87 9y ago
Seems this thread is full of varying definitions for various concepts. I've posted a few comments in this thread myself assuming my own definitions without really reading a dictionary first, so I'll leave my definitions here for a
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Personally I think affective empathy is extremely common, but we just construct strategies to avoid experiencing it too much. Most people are going to experience some level of suffering if they directly witness another person suffering. It&
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by jm__87 9y ago
It sounds like maybe you do have empathy? Experiencing some level of suffering when you witness someone else's suffering would be empathy. Sociopaths do not experience this. From my understanding, the part of the brain that processes p
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by jm__87 9y ago
I think in most people it would, though? Imagine if you were harming someone and you're imagining what they would feel like as you're doing the harming, you're going to feel badly. Not harming someone will help you avoid thes
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If this sort of topic interests you, I'd highly recommend "Behave" by Robert Sapolsky. A lot of the book examines what is going on in the brains of people who have strongly held "us" vs "them" beliefs (i.e
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by jm__87 9y ago
This comment section.. wow.
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Interesting.. this is how I do subtraction in my head. Didn't realize it wasn't the "standard" approach :).
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As I mentioned, I haven't tried psychedelics but from listening to Sam Harris and a few other experienced meditators talk about it, it sounds quite useful for witnessing firsthand the context dependency of human experience. I think thi
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This has nothing to do with system 1 vs system 2, it is what you experience vs what you remember from that experience.
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The argument in my first post was about remembering your experience exactly, so I think we agree. I am curious, how do you know you are remembering exactly how you felt and why? The 'why' you feel a certain way is itself actually
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by jm__87 9y ago
To know exactly what the contents of your mind were at that time, you'd need to make a full copy of it, so there is a physical limitation there. You can certainly get approximations of how you felt, but we typically remember peak exper
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by jm__87 9y ago
'Thinking Fast and Slow' by Daniel Kahneman has an interesting bit on experience vs memory and how this affects our judgement. The two can differ quite a bit, based on the research presented in this book.
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Nope. I just read a lot and meditate.
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I'm more or less in the same boat as you :). But to look at it in a more positive light, that discomfort at looking at your past self just shows how far you've come. So it can also be an indicator you're on the right track.
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Something worth adding is that there isn't anything in your brain that is immutable. We aren't really capable of observing some changes as they happen so gradually, yet it is quite obvious the changes have occurred. The way you pe

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