burned_out

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by burned_out 6y ago
I wish I had the answer. Currently I’m planning to talk to my direct manager. I don’t know exactly what to say, or suggest to him. I’m working on that now
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by burned_out 6y ago
Not really. Like I said in some other comments. I’m having trouble detaching. Even when I’m practicing playing my guitar it’s in the back of my head...
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by burned_out 6y ago
It would be a big change - we’d have to sell our home because we would not be able to pay the mortgage. My current salary is almost double that of any offer I was able to get. I’ve talked to many developers in the area and it’s basically th
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by burned_out 6y ago
Makes sense. We have set up the on call schedule, but there are situations when I get called in outside the schedule. Less often than say a year ago, but it still happens. I guess that is the core of the issue. I am never switched off of wo
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by burned_out 6y ago
Thanks. I wish I could focus on something like that. Whenever I start a new thing I feel like I’m wasting time, when deadlines are approaching. Makes me anxious even more. Paradoxically then I don’t do either which is worse I know. I guess
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by burned_out 6y ago
Please do expand on this.
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by burned_out 6y ago
What do you mean by professional services?
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by burned_out 6y ago
That is absolutely true.
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by burned_out 6y ago
There are some valid points there. Not sure if it is related to the issue. Maybe.
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by burned_out 6y ago
All on point. Changing jobs, scaling down is something I can’t seem to agree on with my SO.
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by burned_out 6y ago
> You may be generally unhappy with your career regardless of title or compensation. You’re allowed to feel that way! Not every “good job” is necessarily a good fit. I think this may be the biggest factor, with other things mentioned add
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by burned_out 6y ago
Attending meetings is valued here. Otherwise you risk being seen as disrespectful to the manager that invited you as a non-optional attendee. But you may be on to something. The situation is pretty chaotic and I honestly don’t feel like I c
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by burned_out 6y ago
Not for me personally, but thanks for the suggestion.
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by burned_out 6y ago
Thanks, I’ll check it out.
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by burned_out 6y ago
At work, I’m just answering emails or handling incident requests or attending online meetings. Outside work, nothing really. Mostly I fiddle with my guitar or ruminate about the next day.
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by burned_out 6y ago
Thanks for sharing. I’m glad she recovered. 3 months off work sounds like a dream. I have to (somehow) find a way to rest.
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by burned_out 6y ago
I tried running and taking walks. But even during that time I think about work. Sometimes I feel even more anxious after a walk. Does that make any sense?
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by burned_out 6y ago
Yes, tinker or fight fires after work (24h operation). Wow 6 months sounds impossible to be off work.
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by burned_out 6y ago
A change feels like it would help. But I do have a family (wife, two kids), a mortgage, and I am the sole provider. And you may be right about the job rot. It’s been 15 years for me... Maybe I’m just too afraid to take risks given my situat
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by burned_out 6y ago
I can relate to Sunday night anxiety. But I wouldn’t blame this on the disease alone. I’ve been feeling this for some time. I think it was just the last drop. Impossible deadlines, unclear requirements, time logging literally every task ove
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by burned_out 6y ago
I’ve been with this company for 15 years, and at this point I just can’t think of the role I’d enjoy here. But it’s definitely something to think about. Maybe training if I can convince the “political structures” they need such a role.
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by burned_out 6y ago
I took 3w vacation after recovering from covid (which also took 3w). I just couldn’t face the work. I’ve been back at work for 2w and I am highly inefficient.
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by burned_out 6y ago
I was not aware of that. Maybe it adds to the issue. This situation started before covid.
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Ask HN: Am I experiencing burn-out or just getting too old
58 points by burned_out 6y ago|67 comments