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by _cttz 15y ago
You didn't get that I was not talking about the original author? That suggests you didn't read my original comment very carefully, nor my subsequent ones at all. I was talking about a common pattern in our culture right now (over the last t
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by _cttz 15y ago
I noticed that too, but in fairness, it's worsened by the poverty of the medium (online forum discussion) which doesn't provide for emotional calibration. Our brains tend immediately to snap into a binary formation in response to what's pre
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by _cttz 15y ago
Yeah, I feel a little bad about that (see http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=3005079 ) since I wasn't responding to the author in particular but impersonally to the pattern in the comments. I have no idea of where the author falls on this
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by _cttz 15y ago
Obviously I'm not advocating violence against children. Nobody does that, not even those who practice it. I was referring to nature films we've all seen where a bunch of adorable cubs are crawling over a mother lion and one of them crosses
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by _cttz 15y ago
My comment got a bit distorted by this subthread moving to the top of the page. When I said "this is getting unctuous" I meant this thread , not your post. I was responding to the comments that were on this page when I saw it, certainly no
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by _cttz 15y ago
But there is not a "fine line" between these things. In fact there is a great expanse between them. This is binary thinking. You can see a lot of this in the responses to what I wrote. (e.g. the ones saying that I advocate child abuse. How
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by _cttz 15y ago
Generalizing? Sure. Recklessly? I don't know. If you take your point literally, it's impossible to make any social observations at all. That can't be right. An observation needn't be true of everyone (you, for instance, or the OP) to have v
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by _cttz 15y ago
I certainly did not say that about American culture. God Bless America.
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by _cttz 15y ago
Your last paragraph (if I'm reading it correctly) leads to a point I've often mulled over. We tend as parents to overcompensate for what happened to us as children. I think this happens at the social-historical level too. Traditional chil
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by _cttz 15y ago
"Damn them all to hell!" A true Russian! That's a good point about the suburbs. Indeed a major part of it. I've seen grad student family residences like you describe, too. They were great. Kids running around randomly all over the place. My
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by _cttz 15y ago
Parenting is off topic in a thread about family responding to a post about parenting? I don't think so. Actually, I was reacting more to the triteness of the thread than to the OP. But it's pretty clear that the OP is imbued with much the s
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by _cttz 15y ago
Sorry, but this is getting a little unctuous. I don't think the trend in our time of parents organizing their lives around their children is very good for anybody, especially the children. I'm thinking, for example, of fathers who