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by Valakas_ 4y ago
For every veteran with PTSD, there are hundreds of adults with (at least) CPTSD from childhood trauma. You're completely right. Let me respost this I saw the other day: "What almost nobody realises is that prescribing "social
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
Internal reference system that wasn't wrapped up in the emotion of trauma? When I read that, it sounds like someone who became further desensitized to what happened. I'm sure you're more functional now, but know that being mo
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
I used to think that abuse had to be conscious and with intent to be abuse but it most definitely doesn't. A parent can be doing their best, and loving in their eyes, and abusing/neglecting their kid.
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
CBT, meditation and "fostering resiliency" are poor for healing from childhood trauma, please don't follow this advice. Instead: * Internal Family Systems * Books: Body Keeps the Score, CPTSD: From surviving to thriving, Whol
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
AFAIK an investment is when you put money into something expecting it to increase in value. Buying a house just so that at the end you own it is not an investment, that's just a purchase with a loan.
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
Because after 30 years of paying rent... you own nothing. After 30 years of paying a mortgage... you own land and a building.
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
SWE is easy, can be fun, pays well, can be full remote, safe desk job. Usually other professions lack one or more of these.
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
SWE is easy as fuck for the amount of money it gives. Compare that to physics, chemistry, bio or mechanical engineering. When I see SWE saying they know 10 different languages I see someone who is bragging that they know how to sum 1+1 1+2
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
When you have unlimited money, there's no need to find it. Just buy it.
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
So basically you stood out not because of the work you did but because of social skills. Gotcha. Yet another reason why WFH is better. Rewards people who actually stand out due to quality of work and not unrelated unproductive skills that a
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
The cue is insecurity. You get triggered by his insecurity which you unconsciously see in yourself and don't like. This "not liking it" feeling is the "cue" you refer to. People say "you'll probably disagr
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
Samsung S7 user here. Perfect phone. Good looking (silver one is awesome), no notches, great camera, good battery.... and perfect size. It's hard to accept for companies that they already achieved a great result, and only minor improve
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
The pixel 4a will be good for another 3 years? What kind of apps are you using? I'm still using a Samsung S7 and don't plan to replace it until it explodes or turns into dust. Then again I don't play games, but I do use it ex
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
Not so fast. Entropy is decreasing. There might be more energy, but useless energy. Energy low enough, spread out enough or with too little temperature differential that you can't do much or anything with it. The Earth is getting solar
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
"(...) struggle to form meaningful friendships/relationships with colleagues." Whenever you're forced to do something, yes you will struggle. My colleagues are my colleagues. And if I like someone, I will bond with them
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
I'm interested in this field, as I relate to your mentality of finding it interesting and losing myself and sense of time trying to solve puzzles. If I wanted to go into cyber security, what would you say one should learn/do?
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
It only takes someone 4 years to be considered senior in sofrware...? In my field (mechanical engineering) senior starts at roughly 7.
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by Valakas_ 4y ago
Hey, and thanks for being available to answers questions. Here's one: Aren't you concerned that new employees will pickup that you're a job hopper and think that you're not to be trusted to stay at their company for long
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
I also had those by just doing my work and talking with colleagues about work. At home. People love (my company included) to say office promotes those low-stake spontaneous conversations that result in something positive. Because these spon
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
>Going to the office means getting to know the people you work with to a meaningful level (there are other opportunities to do that besides meetings, such as having lunch together or going out for a coffee/walk) in a way that is sim
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
Monero would would like to have words.
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
Just FYI, Algorand and StellarLumens are very low fee and super-fast blockhain alternatives.
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
It pushes trash if you watch trash? For me it pushes more similar stuff of what I already watch.
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
At least we don't get jailed for speaking out, so dissenting opinions are still able to come out. That's the difference.
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
Definition of "junk food" also varies a lot. For example, many people have no idea that white bread has a higher glycemic index than sugar itself. So except for the very limited nutritional value of it, it's actually worse th
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
The problem is that often what is best for employee's quality of life and mental health is not aligned with the best for the company. If there is 1% better output from a worker if they're at the office, but they suffer 50% less me
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
There can be different kinds of slavery. Let's not get bogged down by details shall we? If a situation fits for 80% and there is no other single word that better describes it, i see you would just do nothing and leave a clearly wrong s
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
Yes, go to the middle of nowhere and isolate yourself from everyone you know. Nice!! Also you need to be able to afford such a house with proper terrain to be able to cultivate every kind of food needed to live (not easy and needs a lot of
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
Yeah well, i don't want to be interrupted by a guy who thinks he can just come over tap me on the shoulder and I have to give him the attention he wants because he's too self-absorbed to understand other people might have a differ
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by Valakas_ 5y ago
What a narrow minded way of looking at things. Just because a word doesn't fit 100%, doesn't mean we shouldn't use it if the main idea is there. "You’re not compelled to offer your services to any particular employer.&qu

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